Guest guest Posted January 15, 2011 Report Share Posted January 15, 2011 And in other matters... My sister who lives in another state saw pictures on Facebook of Nada taken two years ago at our house. Nada has had for many years what DD and DH and I call Crazy Eyes - she had this weird, almost possessed expression. As the dementia worsened her crazy eyes got worse. Have you ever been in a nursing home with lots of elderly dementia patients? If you have, you've seen the vacant look in their eyes. Nada is in a nursing home because the alternative would be 24/7 care in my home and it would destroy me. 'Nuff said. Sister lives 1500 miles away, doesn't visit, acknowledge that " Mother " is anything but perfect and does nothing to help with a difficult situation. So here is what she messages me on seeing pictures of demented nada at our house on the last Easter before she went Into the nursing home: " her forlorn look reminds me of the commercials about abandoned and abused dogs and cats...same kind of eye expression ...it is heartbreaking. " Her message was all about how she had tried to call nada but the nurses said she was in the dining room or sleeping, so she was clearly thinking about the nursing home when she wrote this. She went on to say she sent a card - little does she know that nada didn't know who the Hell she was when I read it to her, because nada no longer remembers any relatives but me. She can't even figure out who my daughter is. Fellow KOs, I can't make up my mind whether I should be furious that she is implying I am abusing nada by abandoning her to a home or pitying that she is so clueless about what really went on in her childhood. Heck, maybe this is just another flying monkey story. Em Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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