yes, its abuse (was: No Subject)

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Good Lord. I just honestly can't comprehend a mother that would so seriously

damage her child's health like that, AND THEN when your lungs are like swiss

cheese, still claim that you were just faking being ill to get attention. I--

Its--- That's just so blatantly off-the-scale abusive and criminally insane...

my mind is boggled.

What boggles my mind even more is that the doctors who treated you repeatedly

and SAW the physical damage never reported your mother for child endangerment.

WTF!!?

Your lungs were so badly damaged that you developed freaking HOLES IN YOUR LUNGS

from the chronic exposure to animal dander and hair. You could have DIED, girl.

I. Just. Don't. Get. It.

If an adult at their work location is chronically exposed to chemical fumes or

particulants that cause lung damage, the employer is responsible BY LAW for

providing that employee with the safety equipment needed to protect the

employee's health or the employer would be liable for an expensive lawsuit.

(I'm thinking about places like furniture factories where there is a lot of

varnish fumes and sawdust in the air, or a paper mill, or a quarry with lots of

stone dust, etc.)

Adults can sue for negligence and mistreatment and find recompense. But little

children are allowed to just suffer chronic mistreatment, and endure pain and

permanent damage from neglect and abuse...

and... nothing is done about it.

Its not right, I tell you.

(I'd like to serve your nada a big, steaming plate of cat poop and make her eat

all of it. Poor nada.)

-Annie

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> Wow!! Never knew that anyone could relate to my situation--i continue to be

> amazed at the similarities with KO BPD's experiences. I grew up being pretty

> regular as far as a bed until the age of 15 when my parents divorced. we moved

> into a house that my grandfather owned and i had my same bed from childhood

> except that it was falling apart by this point. That would have been

> alright----my problem was THE CATS my nada collected. I have severe allergies

> and asthma and my nada was told by several doctors at appointments to never

have

> me around animal dander. After my parents divorced my nada rescued 3 cats and

> they lived with us my senior year of high school. My nada was never the

neatest

> housekeeper but after my parents divorced she was just plain filthy. I always

> thought that if CPS could have seen our home they would have died. The cats

> destroyed the house---using the couch as a scratching post and generally our

> house as their landfill. What i remember about my bed at that house was how my

> mom let the cats pee and poop under my bed and sometimes on my sheets. I never

> knew what i find in there. Poop, Urine, Vomit Hairballs---that was where i

> slept. I hardly ever had friends over (except my 2 closest who knew my nada

was

> nuts)---i was too embarrassed of my living conditions and it smelled too bad.

I

> remember one time-i couldn't breathe and my inhaler wasn't providing relief

and

> so i went to the ER. My mom was furious after i told the doctor we had cats(he

> asked me and i was honest)! She yelled at me when he left the room-told me i

was

> a big faker and that i was doing all of that for attention. I told her we

needed

> to get rid of the cats for my health and she told me she wasn't getting rid of

> them and I COULD LEAVE if i didn't like it. I couldn't help i had asthma and

> severe allergies. I remember going to bed at night and praying that God would

> keep me breathing through one more night until i could go to college.

Ahhh-this

> makes me cry now---i have 2 kids and i could NEVER imagine neglected them in

> this way! Being a parent has really given me proper perspective on how

neglected

> i was for so long. When i left for college---i had a pulmonologist examine my

> lungs and i had such severe damage that i had developed some holes in the

> tissues of my lungs. It has taken years of healing and proper medication to

gain

> healthy breathing back and i take 10 allergy shots a week. She still won't

take

> responsibility for any of her actions rregarding my health and i asked her if

> she knew then what she knows now about my asthma would she have gotten rid of

> the cats---her response--- " no, i wouldn't change a thing-i would do it all

> again(keeping the cats)! She still denies my asthma. OUCH, now that's

hurtful!!!

> Thanks for letting me vent.....

> ~Hope

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