Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Hi Beth Your so sweet and thank you for your post! I admire you for standing strong and being the best you can be for your two children! I'm sorry to hear that your husband has been gone for so long, I'm sure that it's been stressful for you. I know that sometimes you do not feel strong, but you are. I have to realize that too. I am in the same boat as you, my mom is here to talk to but doesn't really understand. She listens but always tells me that she wishes she could do something for me. Listening is what she's doing for me. I agree, if it wasn't for this group I would have no support what so ever in this nightmare. Support groups are so important in times like this. My ex-husband did not want anything to do with support groups when we found out about our daughters autism. I think it would have done me worlds of good if I could have gotten involved with one. It was a very dark time in my life and I fell into a deep depression. This illness is a dark time but this time I have a support group that knows exactly what I'm going through. I get depressed but I bounce back after posting my woes and hearing from all you ladies. Sometimes I do not like to be a whiner so I haven't posted much but Krista was right...were here for each....good times and bad times. Keep going girlfriend.....your man will be home soon. I pray for you and him! Also, keep being a great mom....even when you get up feeling like crap, I will do the same! Hugs and prayers! Cherie > > > > > > > > Hello girls, and Happy sunday ! ! > > > > All you wonderful girls, I want to ask those of you > > > > that have not written your journey with implants > > > > weather you got some or you chose not to, please > > > > write your story so we can get them all out there > > > > before we announce our SPECIAL DAY.... > > > > So that we can honor all our sisters and people > > > > affected by implants one way or another, self, > > > > friend, or family. Perhaps have that day to raise > > > > awareness, donations for research, and in honor > > > > of all the survivors, and in honor of all our lost. > > > > We deserve to have our day, and we deserve to > > > > have research and perhaps preventative measures > > > > and I know there is more, but I have brain fog today. > > > > So, Ladies, please write your story. You can stay > > > > annomyous if you wish, or use your full name, or just > > > > your first, however you want to, we just need everyone > > > > to share their BI venture. Love to all ~ Dede > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on AOL > > > Music. > > > > (http://music. aol.com/grammys/ pictures/ never-won- a-grammy? > > > NCID=aolcmp00300000 0025 > > > > 48) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > Find them fast with Search. http://tools.search./newsearch/category.php?category=shopping > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Thanks for giving me a boost Cherie!!!! We are all here for each other and it is nice to talk with others who are going through many similar things even other than the illness. It is different for everyone dealing with this because we are all different but also because we have different things going on in our lives like work, kids, support at home, ect..... If you ever need anything, feel free to email me - I am here to help in any way I can. I know you will get up and be strong not only for yourself but for your little girl!!!! I know my boys are what make me get up every morning. I was actually laying in bed last night watching my oldest son sleeping thinking..."I HAVE to get better one of these days for my boys" and I also find myself asking why I EVER got theses stupid implants in the first place. I still deal with the guilt part of getting the implants - I know I need to work on that but it is tough. Take care and stay close!!!! Much Love, Bethcannst42 <cannst42@...> wrote: Hi BethYour so sweet and thank you for your post! I admire you for standing strong and being the best you can be for your two children! I'm sorry to hear that your husband has been gone for so long, I'm sure that it's been stressful for you. I know that sometimes you do not feel strong, but you are. I have to realize that too. I am in the same boat as you, my mom is here to talk to but doesn't really understand. She listens but always tells me that she wishes she could do something for me. Listening is what she's doing for me. I agree, if it wasn't for this group I would have no support what so ever in this nightmare. Support groups are so important in times like this. My ex-husband did not want anything to do with support groups when we found out about our daughters autism. I think it would have done me worlds of good if I could have gotten involved with one. It was a very dark time in my life and I fell into a deep depression. This illness is a dark time but this time I have a support group that knows exactly what I'm going through. I get depressed but I bounce back after posting my woes and hearing from all you ladies. Sometimes I do not like to be a whiner so I haven't posted much but Krista was right...were here for each....good times and bad times.Keep going girlfriend.....your man will be home soon. I pray for you and him! Also, keep being a great mom....even when you get up feeling like crap, I will do the same!Hugs and prayers!Cherie > > > >> > > > Hello girls, and Happy sunday ! ! > > > > All you wonderful girls, I want to ask those of you> > > > that have not written your journey with implants> > > > weather you got some or you chose not to, please> > > > write your story so we can get them all out there> > > > before we announce our SPECIAL DAY....> > > > So that we can honor all our sisters and people > > > > affected by implants one way or another, self, > > > > friend, or family. Perhaps have that day to raise> > > > awareness, donations for research, and in honor> > > > of all the survivors, and in honor of all our lost.> > > > We deserve to have our day, and we deserve to > > > > have research and perhaps preventative measures> > > > and I know there is more, but I have brain fog today.> > > > So, Ladies, please write your story. You can stay> > > > annomyous if you wish, or use your full name, or just> > > > your first, however you want to, we just need everyone> > > > to share their BI venture. Love to all ~ Dede> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on AOL > > > Music. > > > > (http://music. aol.com/grammys/ pictures/ never-won- a-grammy?> > > NCID=aolcmp00300000 0025> > > > 48)> > > >> > >> >> > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________> Looking for last minute shopping deals? > Find them fast with Search. http://tools.search./newsearch/category.php?category=shopping> Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Hi Beth, I understand your guilt. I actully feel more stupid than guilty. I wanted implants because I became single and did not want to ever be naked in front of man with my " rock in sock " looking breasts. I was under an illusion that I could get a man with " fake boobs " .....I did not. The lessons that I have learned from the experience has been phenomenal. I wanted to ask you if you work full-time and take care of both of your boys? I work full-time and commuite and it's difficult with just one. I admire you. Hugs, Cherie > > > > > > > > > > Hello girls, and Happy sunday ! ! > > > > > All you wonderful girls, I want to ask those of you > > > > > that have not written your journey with implants > > > > > weather you got some or you chose not to, please > > > > > write your story so we can get them all out there > > > > > before we announce our SPECIAL DAY.... > > > > > So that we can honor all our sisters and people > > > > > affected by implants one way or another, self, > > > > > friend, or family. Perhaps have that day to raise > > > > > awareness, donations for research, and in honor > > > > > of all the survivors, and in honor of all our lost. > > > > > We deserve to have our day, and we deserve to > > > > > have research and perhaps preventative measures > > > > > and I know there is more, but I have brain fog today. > > > > > So, Ladies, please write your story. You can stay > > > > > annomyous if you wish, or use your full name, or just > > > > > your first, however you want to, we just need everyone > > > > > to share their BI venture. Love to all ~ Dede > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on > AOL > > > > Music. > > > > > (http://music. aol.com/grammys/ pictures/ never-won- a- grammy? > > > > NCID=aolcmp00300000 0025 > > > > > 48) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________ > ______________ > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > > Find them fast with Search. > http://tools.search./newsearch/category.php? category=shopping > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Hi Beth, I understand your guilt. I actully feel more stupid than guilty. I wanted implants because I became single and did not want to ever be naked in front of man with my " rock in sock " looking breasts. I was under an illusion that I could get a man with " fake boobs " .....I did not. The lessons that I have learned from the experience has been phenomenal. I wanted to ask you if you work full-time and take care of both of your boys? I work full-time and commuite and it's difficult with just one. I admire you. Hugs, Cherie > > > > > > > > > > Hello girls, and Happy sunday ! ! > > > > > All you wonderful girls, I want to ask those of you > > > > > that have not written your journey with implants > > > > > weather you got some or you chose not to, please > > > > > write your story so we can get them all out there > > > > > before we announce our SPECIAL DAY.... > > > > > So that we can honor all our sisters and people > > > > > affected by implants one way or another, self, > > > > > friend, or family. Perhaps have that day to raise > > > > > awareness, donations for research, and in honor > > > > > of all the survivors, and in honor of all our lost. > > > > > We deserve to have our day, and we deserve to > > > > > have research and perhaps preventative measures > > > > > and I know there is more, but I have brain fog today. > > > > > So, Ladies, please write your story. You can stay > > > > > annomyous if you wish, or use your full name, or just > > > > > your first, however you want to, we just need everyone > > > > > to share their BI venture. Love to all ~ Dede > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on > AOL > > > > Music. > > > > > (http://music. aol.com/grammys/ pictures/ never-won- a- grammy? > > > > NCID=aolcmp00300000 0025 > > > > > 48) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________ > ______________ > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > > Find them fast with Search. > http://tools.search./newsearch/category.php? category=shopping > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Cherie - no, I do not work outside of the home. I am very lucky in that area that once my husband took this job I could stay home. It is very hard though living apart. However, since he left, I get all my duties as a mom and housewife along with everything he used to do around the house and all the outside yardwork. I could not imagine trying to work a full-time job right now. I look up to those that do. I think it does give something to take our minds off of this illness. I know when I am busy with my kids during the day, I do not notice somethings as much as others. Yeah, i feel stupid sometimes also, but more guilt. I feel guilty for not feeling blessed with how my life was and for ruining my healthy body. I feel guilty for taking my kids healthy mom away from them and for taking my husbands healthy wife away. I could go on and on. I struggle with the guilt just as much as my symptoms right now. I am sure in time, I will come to terms with it but right now it is hard. I hope you stay positive and KNOW that one day, we will get past this!!!! I hold on to that hope every second of the day!!!!! Much Love, Beth Re: Beth! Hi Beth,I understand your guilt. I actully feel more stupid than guilty. I wanted implants because I became single and did not want to ever be naked in front of man with my "rock in sock" looking breasts. I was under an illusion that I could get a man with "fake boobs".....I did not. The lessons that I have learned from the experience has been phenomenal. I wanted to ask you if you work full-time and take care of both of your boys? I work full-time and commuite and it's difficult with just one. I admire you.Hugs,Cherie> > > > >> > > > > Hello girls, and Happy sunday ! ! > > > > > All you wonderful girls, I want to ask those of you> > > > > that have not written your journey with implants> > > > > weather you got some or you chose not to, please> > > > > write your story so we can get them all out there> > > > > before we announce our SPECIAL DAY....> > > > > So that we can honor all our sisters and people > > > > > affected by implants one way or another, self, > > > > > friend, or family. Perhaps have that day to raise> > > > > awareness, donations for research, and in honor> > > > > of all the survivors, and in honor of all our lost.> > > > > We deserve to have our day, and we deserve to > > > > > have research and perhaps preventative measures> > > > > and I know there is more, but I have brain fog today.> > > > > So, Ladies, please write your story. You can stay> > > > > annomyous if you wish, or use your full name, or just> > > > > your first, however you want to, we just need everyone> > > > > to share their BI venture. Love to all ~ Dede> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on > AOL > > > > Music. > > > > > (http://music. aol.com/grammys/ pictures/ never-won- a-grammy?> > > > NCID=aolcmp00300000 0025> > > > > 48)> > > > >> > > >> > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _> ____________ __> > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > > Find them fast with Search. > http://tools. search.. com/newsearch/ category. php?category=shopping> >> > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- ---> Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now.> Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Beth, You needn't feel guilty! . . . You wouldn't have gotten implants if you had any idea how dangerous they are and how they would affect your life. Those who should feel guilty are the doctors and manufacturer's who know they're a bunch of ****, but continue to put them in women! Hopefully God has a special place in Hell for them! . . . OR that they will create their own Hell on this earth! I believe that, in the long run, we will live longer, healthier than we would have if we did not have the implant experience . . and that our families will benefit as well. It's a hard way to learn something though. . . I think Dede called it the school of hard knockers! Hugs and prayers, Rogene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Beth, You are very blessed to be home, lucky girl! I do like working and yes it does help get this illness off my mind however I never have enough time everyday. Since I started this strict diet, I am cooking all the time. That is not something I use to doing. I was one to eat meal out of a box or cereal, thinks like that. I liked easy, quick food. I cannot blame all of my illness on the implants. I have not had good eating habits. I didn't eat out a lot but I did not eat much veggies or fruit. I had bad gut flora before implants. The implants just intensified my problem. Your right, we must stay postive and keep encourgeing one another! Hugs, Cherie > > > > > > > > > > > > Hello girls, and Happy sunday ! ! > > > > > > All you wonderful girls, I want to ask those of you > > > > > > that have not written your journey with implants > > > > > > weather you got some or you chose not to, please > > > > > > write your story so we can get them all out there > > > > > > before we announce our SPECIAL DAY.... > > > > > > So that we can honor all our sisters and people > > > > > > affected by implants one way or another, self, > > > > > > friend, or family. Perhaps have that day to raise > > > > > > awareness, donations for research, and in honor > > > > > > of all the survivors, and in honor of all our lost. > > > > > > We deserve to have our day, and we deserve to > > > > > > have research and perhaps preventative measures > > > > > > and I know there is more, but I have brain fog today. > > > > > > So, Ladies, please write your story. You can stay > > > > > > annomyous if you wish, or use your full name, or just > > > > > > your first, however you want to, we just need everyone > > > > > > to share their BI venture. Love to all ~ Dede > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time > on > > AOL > > > > > Music. > > > > > > (http://music. aol.com/grammys/ pictures/ never-won- a- > grammy? > > > > > NCID=aolcmp00300000 0025 > > > > > > 48) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ > > ____________ __ > > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > > > Find them fast with Search. > > http://tools. search.. com/newsearch/ category. php? > category=shopping > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- --- > > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. > Try it now. > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Never miss a thing. Make your home page. > http://www./r/hs > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Thanks Rogene - I tell myself everyday that I got them based on the info they were safe but then I also ask myself why I even felt the need for them anyways. I was looking for "something" that I could not have found in my implants even if they were safe. I am getting better everyday about letting go of the guilt but it is still a tough one for me. Maybe once I get to feeling better, I can let go of some of it but I think I will always feel guilty for the illness, amount of money and time that has been invested in this nightmare. However, I always try to find positive and I know that we will live healthier now as will my kids and family. I also am so blessed to have met so many wonderful people on here. So I try to focus on those things instead of my digestion and why no matter what I do.....it goes back to being messed up!!!!! Much Love, Beth Re: Re: Beth! Beth, You needn't feel guilty! . . . You wouldn't have gotten implants if you had any idea how dangerous they are and how they would affect your life. Those who should feel guilty are the doctors and manufacturer' s who know they're a bunch of ****, but continue to put them in women! Hopefully God has a special place in Hell for them! . . . OR that they will create their own Hell on this earth! I believe that, in the long run, we will live longer, healthier than we would have if we did not have the implant experience . . and that our families will benefit as well. It's a hard way to learn something though. . . I think Dede called it the school of hard knockers! Hugs and prayers, Rogene Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Don't feel guilty. We all do the best we can with the knowledge and strength we have at any given time. The societal pressures on women regarding breast size, shape, and position are overwhelming on ongoing from our childhoods! You did the best you could against what was being thrust upon you. It's all we can ever do. Forgive yourself for it because the guilt will only hold back your healing, and you deserve to heal. Re: Re: Beth! Beth, You needn't feel guilty! . . . You wouldn't have gotten implants if you had any idea how dangerous they are and how they would affect your life. Those who should feel guilty are the doctors and manufacturer' s who know they're a bunch of ****, but continue to put them in women! Hopefully God has a special place in Hell for them! . . . OR that they will create their own Hell on this earth! I believe that, in the long run, we will live longer, healthier than we would have if we did not have the implant experience . . and that our families will benefit as well. It's a hard way to learn something though. . . I think Dede called it the school of hard knockers! Hugs and prayers, Rogene Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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