Re: Bit of a breakthrough: Focussed Meals

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Hi Sohni: My husband was also a multitasker and couldn't eat without watching

tv, reading mail, etc., etc. Likewise he ate very quickly and often overate.

He really didn't need to work during his lunch hour and eat at his desk while

working, but he believed he did. After he decided he wanted to hear what his

coworkers thought about their current manager (whom everyone dislikes), he

started eating lunch with his coworkers. They actually eat in the company

cafeteria and talk during lunch, rather than work. I'm amazed at how much more

slowly he eats dinners at home now. He's also slowly losing weight, because he

actually eats less during the day at work.

However, I also worried about not getting everything done, if I just ate while I

ate, rather than processing mail, watching the news, talking on the phone and

even driving to and from galleries, when I ran my own business. I still watch

tv occasionally while I eat. However, I committed to eat one daily meal without

distractions until I could easily recognize my satisfaction/full signals and

stop eating when I felt those sensations. Now I can eat 'distracted meals' and

still sense fullness, after doing enough focussed meals to recognize my stomach

cues.

I'm not saying you're wrong to eat with distractions. Maybe you're more familiar

with your stomach cues than I was. So you don't need to practice eating focussed

meals until you can recognize and heed those 'stop eating' sensations.

Everybody's different. So we use whatever IE guidelines work best for us.

SUE

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> I thought it was your post, but wasn't positive. Seems to be a good

> approach to me.

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> To be honest, I can't remember the last time I was completely without

> distractions. My brain is always in overdrive because I've been

> multi-multitasking for years now. How I spend my time or think I

> deserve to spend my time is really a moot point at this stage. It is

> what it is. Hectic! This is what I've chosen for myself, so I deal

> with it. I know it won't last forever. If IE is going to be workable

> for everyone, there has to be some " give. " If I can't make it flexible

> enough to fit into my life the way it is now, it's not going to work, so

> I'm tweaking things as I go along.

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> Sohni

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