Re: I know IE tells me not to focus on weight but...

[Guest guest]

I think my question to myself is " What help is it to body check? all it is

going to do is make me feel miserable unless I am losing weight. "

Maybe when you notice you are body checking, (even if you are feeling thin and

thrilled) maybe say to yourself:

" How interesting. There I am again, body checking. Body checking does not help

me, so maybe I can do something else right now, such as look out the window at

the bird, see the interesting patterns on the floor tile ... (fill in the

blank) "

Maybe this sounds goofy, but I actually think it's a better place to set your

mind, otherwise the constant self monitoring becomes self destructive.

Kate

>

> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.

> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but

I

> rarely use it.

>

> I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.

> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.

> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.

> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the

> number, we know...

> it is so hard

> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?

> A

>

[Guest guest]

I think my question to myself is " What help is it to body check? all it is

going to do is make me feel miserable unless I am losing weight. "

Maybe when you notice you are body checking, (even if you are feeling thin and

thrilled) maybe say to yourself:

" How interesting. There I am again, body checking. Body checking does not help

me, so maybe I can do something else right now, such as look out the window at

the bird, see the interesting patterns on the floor tile ... (fill in the

blank) "

Maybe this sounds goofy, but I actually think it's a better place to set your

mind, otherwise the constant self monitoring becomes self destructive.

Kate

>

> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.

> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but

I

> rarely use it.

>

> I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.

> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.

> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.

> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the

> number, we know...

> it is so hard

> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?

> A

>

[Guest guest]

I have trouble with that too, and have only moved from daily weighing to weekly weighing and still keep up with my loss (four pound so far) since there is not use pretending I am not doing this in the hopes on losing. I am thinking of it as a return to my natural healthy weight instead of a specific number goal, which is probably the best I can do right now.

Bonnie

>> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but I> rarely use it.> > I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the> number, we know...> it is so hard> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?> A>

[Guest guest]

I have trouble with that too, and have only moved from daily weighing to weekly weighing and still keep up with my loss (four pound so far) since there is not use pretending I am not doing this in the hopes on losing. I am thinking of it as a return to my natural healthy weight instead of a specific number goal, which is probably the best I can do right now.

Bonnie

>> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but I> rarely use it.> > I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the> number, we know...> it is so hard> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?> A>

[Guest guest]

I have trouble with that too, and have only moved from daily weighing to weekly weighing and still keep up with my loss (four pound so far) since there is not use pretending I am not doing this in the hopes on losing. I am thinking of it as a return to my natural healthy weight instead of a specific number goal, which is probably the best I can do right now.

Bonnie

>> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but I> rarely use it.> > I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the> number, we know...> it is so hard> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?> A>

[Guest guest]

Hi A,

Speaking for myself, I've come to realize that " feeling fat, " is not a feeling.

For me, it's a means of distracting myself from what's really going on. When I

start to notice myself becoming pre-occupied with body obsession, I pause and

check in...am I angry, did something just happen that's bringing up an emotion

that I'm not comfortable with? I carry a journal around and write about it or I

do an " inner-dialogue " or inner-inquiry in my mind while sitting quietly. I

find that if I'm willing to do this the " feeling fat " passes.

Hope this helps and good luck!

S

>

> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.

> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but

I

> rarely use it.

>

> I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.

> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.

> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.

> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the

> number, we know...

> it is so hard

> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?

> A

>

[Guest guest]

Hi A,

Speaking for myself, I've come to realize that " feeling fat, " is not a feeling.

For me, it's a means of distracting myself from what's really going on. When I

start to notice myself becoming pre-occupied with body obsession, I pause and

check in...am I angry, did something just happen that's bringing up an emotion

that I'm not comfortable with? I carry a journal around and write about it or I

do an " inner-dialogue " or inner-inquiry in my mind while sitting quietly. I

find that if I'm willing to do this the " feeling fat " passes.

Hope this helps and good luck!

S

>

> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.

> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but

I

> rarely use it.

>

> I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.

> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.

> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.

> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the

> number, we know...

> it is so hard

> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?

> A

>

[Guest guest]

Hi A,

Speaking for myself, I've come to realize that " feeling fat, " is not a feeling.

For me, it's a means of distracting myself from what's really going on. When I

start to notice myself becoming pre-occupied with body obsession, I pause and

check in...am I angry, did something just happen that's bringing up an emotion

that I'm not comfortable with? I carry a journal around and write about it or I

do an " inner-dialogue " or inner-inquiry in my mind while sitting quietly. I

find that if I'm willing to do this the " feeling fat " passes.

Hope this helps and good luck!

S

>

> I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.

> I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it but

I

> rarely use it.

>

> I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.

> But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.

> We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.

> So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the

> number, we know...

> it is so hard

> so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?

> A

>

[Guest guest]

yes a fat attack is related to insecurities

thanks

A

> >

> > I understand that we should not focus on weight or on a number.

> > I am dealing well with not using the scale at home. I never got rid of it

but I

> > rarely use it.

> >

> > I don't even see my weight when I go to the doctor.

> > But let's be honest, clothes can tell you a lot.

> > We know from how they fit, if you are bloated, heavier ot thinner.

> > So even though we don't focus on weight and we may try to avoid seeing the

> > number, we know...

> > it is so hard

> > so I guess the question is how do we deal with body checking?

> > A

> >

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