It's not in here sign

[Guest guest]

thanks Laurie for reminding me.

I actually have that sign on my fridge door and I also have a stop sign.I took a

picture of a street stop sign and I printed it.

they both worked when I first put them on the door.

that was a year ago.

This week, they are not working.

I have so many resources but sometimes the binge or overeating take over.

A

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> It's all part of the journey. Not focusing on weight is one part of realizing

that our focus instead should be on what nurtures and supports us and those we

love, instead of spending all our precious psychic energy on food, scales,

beating up on ourselves, etc. Obsessing about those things is a way of taking

your focus off what really matters--keeping yourself healthy and strong, doing

the things that sustain you with the people (and pets!) you love best.

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> I attended an online " Sounds True " seminar over the past month with Geneen

Roth. One of the things she mentioned--maybe on her blog--was that she has a

sign on her refrigerator that says, " It's not in here. "

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> It's not in the number on the scale, either. Your life is so much bigger than

that. I think IE simply helps us to realize that we've got better places to put

our energies than this.

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> Laurie

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[Guest guest]

i have that too.

No matter how many resources I have, there are moments in which nothing stops me

from overeating or having a binge.

I know I wpuldnt be here if I had an answer for everything.

Sometimes resources work, other times they don't.

but thanks for suggesting them again.

I guess the question is, how do you cope with a binge when no resources seem to

work?

A

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> > > It's all part of the journey. Not focusing on weight is one part

> > of realizing that our focus instead should be on what nurtures and

> > supports us and those we love, instead of spending all our precious

> > psychic energy on food, scales, beating up on ourselves, etc.

> > Obsessing about those things is a way of taking your focus off what

> > really matters--keeping yourself healthy and strong, doing the

> > things that sustain you with the people (and pets!) you love best.

> > >

> > > I attended an online " Sounds True " seminar over the past month

> > with Geneen Roth. One of the things she mentioned--maybe on her

> > blog--was that she has a sign on her refrigerator that says, " It's

> > not in here. "

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> > > It's not in the number on the scale, either. Your life is so much

> > bigger than that. I think IE simply helps us to realize that we've

> > got better places to put our energies than this.

> > >

> > > Laurie

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[Guest guest]

I'd just add that sometimes you need to just say, "It happens" and let

it go. The biggest thing you can do for yourself is to not get upset

by a binge. There are very few naturally intuitive eaters who never

eat more than is comfortable for them, but the difference is that they

don't beat themselves up for it.

Sohni

What Geneen Roth suggests when nothing works to stop a binge, is

to "get curious" afterwards, asking yourself (kindly), "I wonder why I

needed to do that??"

Getting curious, I think, helps us be more aware of the factors

that go into eating when we're not hungry (which, quite basically, is

what any binge is).

There are no easy fixes, otherwise everybody would weigh exactly

what they wanted to weigh. After a binge, I try to keep aware of how I

actually feel--stuffed, uncomfortable, guilty, miserable--and to remind

myself that this--not feeling good--is what is the result when I binge.

It helps me connect those feelings to the beginning of a binge, and

makes the next one easier to interrupt.

I try very hard to be aware of each bite as I binge, and ask

myself how I feel now--is this good? Am I enjoying myself? If I let

myself zone out, the binge gets out of control. If I can stay aware, I

can stop myself sooner because I recognize how uncomfortable I feel,

and how the food really is no longer enjoyable.

Eating when I'm hungry is so much better than eating when I'm

already full. The first few bites are always good. Past that, it

becomes nearly tasteless for me. If I can stay aware of that, it's so

much easier to stop because I want to.

I hope something here helps. We really all need to try to find

our own way, I think.

Laurie

>>I guess the question is, how do you cope with a binge

when no resources seem to work?<<