It's not in here sign

[Guest guest]

thanks Laurie for reminding me.

I actually have that sign on my fridge door and I also have a stop sign.I took a

picture of a street stop sign and I printed it.

they both worked when I first put them on the door.

that was a year ago.

This week, they are not working.

I have so many resources but sometimes the binge or overeating take over.

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> It's all part of the journey. Not focusing on weight is one part of realizing

that our focus instead should be on what nurtures and supports us and those we

love, instead of spending all our precious psychic energy on food, scales,

beating up on ourselves, etc. Obsessing about those things is a way of taking

your focus off what really matters--keeping yourself healthy and strong, doing

the things that sustain you with the people (and pets!) you love best.

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> I attended an online " Sounds True " seminar over the past month with Geneen

Roth. One of the things she mentioned--maybe on her blog--was that she has a

sign on her refrigerator that says, " It's not in here. "

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> It's not in the number on the scale, either. Your life is so much bigger than

that. I think IE simply helps us to realize that we've got better places to put

our energies than this.

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> Laurie

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[Guest guest]

What Geneen Roth suggests when nothing works to stop a binge, is to "get curious" afterwards, asking yourself (kindly), "I wonder why I needed to do that??"

Getting curious, I think, helps us be more aware of the factors that go into eating when we're not hungry (which, quite basically, is what any binge is).

There are no easy fixes, otherwise everybody would weigh exactly what they wanted to weigh. After a binge, I try to keep aware of how I actually feel--stuffed, uncomfortable, guilty, miserable--and to remind myself that this--not feeling good--is what is the result when I binge. It helps me connect those feelings to the beginning of a binge, and makes the next one easier to interrupt.

I try very hard to be aware of each bite as I binge, and ask myself how I feel now--is this good? Am I enjoying myself? If I let myself zone out, the binge gets out of control. If I can stay aware, I can stop myself sooner because I recognize how uncomfortable I feel, and how the food really is no longer enjoyable.

Eating when I'm hungry is so much better than eating when I'm already full. The first few bites are always good. Past that, it becomes nearly tasteless for me. If I can stay aware of that, it's so much easier to stop because I want to.

I hope something here helps. We really all need to try to find our own way, I think.

Laurie

>>I guess the question is, how do you cope with a binge when no resources seem to work?<<