Re: rough day yesterday

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Thanks so much Laurie.  It is so wonderful that we have this group for support!!!

 

Hi, Sue,

 

I'm dealing with some on-and-off depression here, too, because my one dog, Sadie, is old and sometimes gets ill and can't keep her food down, and this is just a month after losing our other dog, Duncan, to cancer. So I find my feelings go up and down with how Sadie is doing--and so I can really sympathize with you finding it hard to deal with your mom not doing well and seeming to fail more dramatically now.

 

I have long used flower remedies to help me through times like this, and I do find they work. I'm currently using one of the Flower Essence Society's (FES) " Flourish " formulas, called " Illumine, " which is for depression. It doesn't do anything but take the hard edge off of your feelings, and I find it helps me deal with Sadie's decline and be more accepting of it, even though I'm still sad at the thought of losing her. I started taking it again a few days ago, and it helped me decide to stop eating to numb out and instead get back to exercising, which always makes me feel better. If you're interested, you can google it; it is available directly from FES online. It comes in a spray bottle you can just squirt into your mouth, or rub onto your skin. The bottle lasts a pretty long time. Sorry to sound like a commercial; I'm not affiliated with this company in any way, just find it works for me beautifully. (I also like other of the Flourish formulas, like " Active-8 " for purpose and passion, and " Mind-Full " for mental clarity and coherence.)

 

I was surprised as I was reading the IE book to see the authors state in Chapter 15 that they believe there first needs to be a healing from disordered eating before you can become an intuitive eater; this makes sense, of course--you can't just expect (as I guess I was) to plunge into IE and have all your old ingrained habits just fall away. As Geneen Roth says, we have exquisitely good reasons for the overeating we do. Take time to find a way out of your old coping mechanisms. I know mine are intrenched by years of practicing them, and I try to tell myself that *any* progress is better than no progress. I truly don't think I'm capable anymore of totally zoned-out eating, which is what it sounds like you're experiencing, too. I'd say that's considerable progress! Be kind to yourself--you're going through some tough times with your mom now. There's bound to be some slippage, not just from this, but for the rest of our lives. When times get tough, things will seem to fall apart a little. But that doesn't mean all is lost--we just pick up from there and go on.

 

I hope this helped.

 

All best,

Laurie

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