Re: Re: Sharing some thoughts . . .

[Guest guest]

Hi Laurie,

I usually give myself a fairly small serving and tell myself I can have

more if I want it. This serves three purposes: one, I don't have to

fight the "don't clean your plate if you're full" battle at every

single meal (and I grew up in a family where I *had* to eat everything,

so that urge is strong); two, I have to think at least a little

mindfully about getting up and getting that second serving; and three,

it proves to me that, yes, I can have more! Sometimes it helps to just

change around the way you'd normally do things--smaller servings, even

bigger servings, etc.

Sohni

One thing I need to learn to do is to serve myself less, because

I tend to have a hard time (as Wansink shows!) not finishing what I've

served myself, even if I feel I'm satisfied before I finish it. I do

use smaller plates and bowls (Wansink is the one whose research first

showed this works), and this does help, though I don't *think* (read

"realize") it does, ha!

All best,

Laurie

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much, Sohni. This makes so much sense, and makes it seem so easy and natural. I'm so used to "punishing" myself by eating less that I couldn't easily see that serving myself less could actually be a positive thing, but your way of explaining it is something I'm going to save to a file so I don't forget!

All best,

Laurie

Sohni wrote:

>>>I usually give myself a fairly small serving and tell myself I can have more if I want it. This serves three purposes: one, I don't have to fight the "don't clean your plate if you're full" battle at every single meal (and I grew up in a family where I *had* to eat everything, so that urge is strong); two, I have to think at least a little mindfully about getting up and getting that second serving; and three, it proves to me that, yes, I can have more! Sometimes it helps to just change around the way you'd normally do things--smaller servings, even bigger servings, etc.<<<

[Guest guest]

I should probably clarify that what I meant by "bigger servings" was

servings big enough that you really can't eat it all. When I was

trying to figure out "how much is enough" and to really feel my

full/too full point (having been bulimic, those lines were pretty

blurry), sometimes it helped to have "just too much" and then I'd get

to the point where I'd feel like, "Ugh, I really don't want any more"

and I'd leave the rest. You do have to be paying attention, but it

gives you the chance to see that you really can leave food on your

plate.

Sohni

Thanks so much, Sohni. This makes so much sense, and makes it

seem so easy and natural. I'm so used to "punishing" myself by eating

less that I couldn't easily see that serving myself less could actually

be a positive thing, but your way of explaining it is something I'm

going to save to a file so I don't forget!

All best,

Laurie

Sohni wrote:

>>>I usually give myself a fairly small serving and tell

myself I can have more if I want it. This serves three purposes: one,

I don't have to fight the "don't clean your plate if you're full"

battle at every single meal (and I grew up in a family where I *had* to

eat everything, so that urge is strong); two, I have to think at least

a little mindfully about getting up and getting that second serving;

and three, it proves to me that, yes, I can have more! Sometimes it

helps to just change around the way you'd normally do things--smaller

servings, even bigger servings, etc.<<<

[Guest guest]

I should probably clarify that what I meant by "bigger servings" was

servings big enough that you really can't eat it all. When I was

trying to figure out "how much is enough" and to really feel my

full/too full point (having been bulimic, those lines were pretty

blurry), sometimes it helped to have "just too much" and then I'd get

to the point where I'd feel like, "Ugh, I really don't want any more"

and I'd leave the rest. You do have to be paying attention, but it

gives you the chance to see that you really can leave food on your

plate.

Sohni

Thanks so much, Sohni. This makes so much sense, and makes it

seem so easy and natural. I'm so used to "punishing" myself by eating

less that I couldn't easily see that serving myself less could actually

be a positive thing, but your way of explaining it is something I'm

going to save to a file so I don't forget!

All best,

Laurie

Sohni wrote:

>>>I usually give myself a fairly small serving and tell

myself I can have more if I want it. This serves three purposes: one,

I don't have to fight the "don't clean your plate if you're full"

battle at every single meal (and I grew up in a family where I *had* to

eat everything, so that urge is strong); two, I have to think at least

a little mindfully about getting up and getting that second serving;

and three, it proves to me that, yes, I can have more! Sometimes it

helps to just change around the way you'd normally do things--smaller

servings, even bigger servings, etc.<<<