Re: Need advice trainer undoing my hard work

[Guest guest]

hi,

would it be possible to write him a letter stating your concerns & ask that he

either stop 'hounding' you or give you your money back. i find that sometimes

people have to see it in writing before they will listen to me. might be worth a

try. you haven't got anything to lose by doing it.

mj

>

> I've been doing quite well and have not binged in a very long time. I'm

constantly working on normal eating - Intuitive Eating. I gave someone money in

advance for boot camp classes, which I enjoyed; however, last couple of classes

the instructor has been hounding me telling me what I should be eating, when I

should be eating, how much - calorie counting and to stop eating at a certain

time. He's been giving me grief for doing these classes and not listening to

his food/eating advise. I don't like chips but noticed I've been craving chips

and eating to spite him. The only way to join was to give him 3 months in

advance but now I would like to get my money back as I feel he is undoing all

the hard work I've done to date. I've been missing physical activity as an

outlet for a job I hate. I have tried to explain to him but he doesn't listen

and feels he is right.

>

> Thanks,

> Jo.

>

[Guest guest]

I'd be straight forward with him and tell him that you are there for the

exercise only and don't need advice on eating. I work with a trainer who would

weigh me weekly and always ask me about whether I had been on plan during the

week (to be fair to her, when I started working with her, I told her it was to

lose weight, so she was only doing what I told her I wanted!). After starting

IE, I dreaded those sessions because I didn't want to step on the scale or have

to answer her questions. Finally, I just told her that I didn't want to weigh

anymore or talk about food and I was waiting for her to chastise me or whatever,

and you know what? She just said, OK, if that doesn't work for you, we don't

have to do it. I'd spent weeks dreading the conversation and it was a

non-event.

All that to say, is that 95% of people who go to trainers are doing it in

conjunction with a diet and they want that type of feedback. Unless you're very

clear with them that you don't want that, they'll treat you the same. Tell him

you enjoy the class but don't want to have any discussion of diet because it's

not helpful to you. If he's obnoxious about it, tell him that you're working

with a nutritionist or therapist on your eating and that his comments are

harmful to you (hey, if a little white lie helps, by all means, use it!).

Realistically, though, if he's a good trainer, you shouldn't have to get that

far.

If none of that works and the boot camp is at a gym, ask to speak with

management, explain your situation and ask if there is another instructor or

session that you can apply your payment to. They have an interest in meeting

your needs so that you continue to give them your business and refer them to

others.

Josie

>

> I've been doing quite well and have not binged in a very long time. I'm

constantly working on normal eating - Intuitive Eating. I gave someone money in

advance for boot camp classes, which I enjoyed; however, last couple of classes

the instructor has been hounding me telling me what I should be eating, when I

should be eating, how much - calorie counting and to stop eating at a certain

time. He's been giving me grief for doing these classes and not listening to

his food/eating advise. I don't like chips but noticed I've been craving chips

and eating to spite him. The only way to join was to give him 3 months in

advance but now I would like to get my money back as I feel he is undoing all

the hard work I've done to date. I've been missing physical activity as an

outlet for a job I hate. I have tried to explain to him but he doesn't listen

and feels he is right.

>

> Thanks,

> Jo.

>

[Guest guest]

I'd be straight forward with him and tell him that you are there for the

exercise only and don't need advice on eating. I work with a trainer who would

weigh me weekly and always ask me about whether I had been on plan during the

week (to be fair to her, when I started working with her, I told her it was to

lose weight, so she was only doing what I told her I wanted!). After starting

IE, I dreaded those sessions because I didn't want to step on the scale or have

to answer her questions. Finally, I just told her that I didn't want to weigh

anymore or talk about food and I was waiting for her to chastise me or whatever,

and you know what? She just said, OK, if that doesn't work for you, we don't

have to do it. I'd spent weeks dreading the conversation and it was a

non-event.

All that to say, is that 95% of people who go to trainers are doing it in

conjunction with a diet and they want that type of feedback. Unless you're very

clear with them that you don't want that, they'll treat you the same. Tell him

you enjoy the class but don't want to have any discussion of diet because it's

not helpful to you. If he's obnoxious about it, tell him that you're working

with a nutritionist or therapist on your eating and that his comments are

harmful to you (hey, if a little white lie helps, by all means, use it!).

Realistically, though, if he's a good trainer, you shouldn't have to get that

far.

If none of that works and the boot camp is at a gym, ask to speak with

management, explain your situation and ask if there is another instructor or

session that you can apply your payment to. They have an interest in meeting

your needs so that you continue to give them your business and refer them to

others.

Josie

>

> I've been doing quite well and have not binged in a very long time. I'm

constantly working on normal eating - Intuitive Eating. I gave someone money in

advance for boot camp classes, which I enjoyed; however, last couple of classes

the instructor has been hounding me telling me what I should be eating, when I

should be eating, how much - calorie counting and to stop eating at a certain

time. He's been giving me grief for doing these classes and not listening to

his food/eating advise. I don't like chips but noticed I've been craving chips

and eating to spite him. The only way to join was to give him 3 months in

advance but now I would like to get my money back as I feel he is undoing all

the hard work I've done to date. I've been missing physical activity as an

outlet for a job I hate. I have tried to explain to him but he doesn't listen

and feels he is right.

>

> Thanks,

> Jo.

>