Guest guest Posted July 21, 2010 Report Share Posted July 21, 2010 this is really weird, and scary...MY nada asked me if I'd donate a kidney to one of my siblings if they needed it ( none of them were ever sick) what IS it with them ??? I told her it would depend on what happened to the first...damaged by drug/alcohol, no, I would not... Jackie Funny you should bring up the kidney scenario - my mom actually used that on me one time! I had cut off all contact with my world-class sociopath brother and his alcoholic babymama, and my mother tried to guilt me in to having a relationship with them because their child (an innocent, to be sure) " might need a kidney someday " and I wouldn't be there to give her mine. It never occurred to her that if the child's parents wanted to have a close family circle of organ donors, they might consider not being such total a##holes. But to answer your question - yes, I did worry about losing contact with whatever tenuously connected distant cousins there are on Mom's side of the family - but they are all living in the same area as she does, so seeing them would almost always mean going through her. I decided there are consequences to any decision, and a pro/con analysis came down clearly on the " con " side of remaining enmeshed with Mom. Some bridges are just gonna have to burn, I guess. Besides, the way she " runs through " her family and friends, she's already burned the bridges in front of me. My main concern is that they'd think I'm like her - guilt by association. I do hold out hope that someday I'll run into these folks and they'll acknowledge what a problem she was, and we can go on from there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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