Re: Re: Severe Anxiety...

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i too have been there with severe depression and i think this is very good

advice.. even just a little while off my 'sofa' doing something simple was a

great help.. also calling friends on the phone, even just getting up the energy

to dial one number could do the trick and i would be less isolated, also getting

outside at least once a day if only to mail a letter.. those where my tiny steps

forward that lead out of the great inertia of just lying there watching tv and

being depressed.  my heart goes out to you as you are experiencing this.. all

my best wishes for feeling better soon!ann

Subject: Re: Severe Anxiety...

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Friday, July 16, 2010, 12:15 PM

 

SaraJo - Re: " fight or flight " - that refers to your physical and mental

state when you face an emergency or threat. When our ancestors were out hunting

mammoths and sabretooths (sabreteeth?), they had to be ready to either fight a

dangerous animal, or run away. So when we are faced with a threat - whether it

be a mugger, a grizzly bear, an impaired driver swerving all over the road, or

Nada on a tear, our bodies generate adrenaline, blood rushes to our muscles, and

we get ready to either fight- or run away from - the attacker. Afterward, when

the adrenaline subsides, we may get the shakes, or feel exhausted. Problem is,

when the threat is part of our daily lives - like Nada, or a very stressful job,

or something else that puts us on edge all the time - we never get to relax from

this heightened state of readiness. That does a lot of damage to our minds and

bodies. That's why some form of stress reduction is so important.

Regarding the depression you're feeling - I've been there. I know how pointless

it seems to try and do anything, and how enormous the problems are when they

loom. Is it possible to do just one thing per day that might help you " behave

your way out of " the depression, just a little? Where I live it's too hot to

walk the dog, but swimming laps helps a lot - repetitive and meditative, and it

generates endorphins. Gardening for an hour early in the morning? Meditating,

or dancing to some loud oldies records? It seems to me the hardest part of

getting up and doing something positive is the massive gravitational pull of the

sofa. Once I get myself launched six inches from the sofa cushions, things

start getting better really fast. Whatever you decide to do, I hope the " Black

Dog " of depression doesn't hang around you for much longer.

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> > > > > > > I recently posted about how my nada attacked me about associating

with my father and his family, now her and my sister (who is practically

controlled by NADA) have just cut me out of their lives.

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> > > > > > > I can accept the fact that there will be no more relationship with

them.

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> > > > > > > But everytime I get one of these " attacks " from nada, I experience

such severe anxiety, that it interferes with my day to day life. I had a

therapist tell me a few years ago that it's due to Complex Post Traumatic Stress

Disorder, and for a while I got really good at handling this stuff. But for some

reason, this time, I just can't get a grip.

> > > > > > > There is this awful pain I feel in the middle of my body. The only

way to describe it is that my heart hurts. It radiates. I can't get nada and sis

out of my head. My hands are always shaky. Sometimes I have shallow breathing. I

can't focus at work...I can't focus on anything good. It's worse than any

physical atrocity I've ever experienced.

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> > > > > > > Do any of you ever experience this? If so, how have you handled

it? How do you make it better?

> > > > > > > In the past I just kind of rode it out. This time is rougher for

some reason, and I really need to be focused at work. And at home, I'm just a

zombie.

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> > > > > > > What are some things that have helped you?

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> > > > > > > I thought about going to my Dr to try and get some temporary

medication to calm me down, but I feel really bad about asking for " nerve

pills " . I don't want the Dr to think I just want pills...know what I mean?

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> > > > > > > guidance here is appreciated.

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> > > > > > > Thanks,

> > > > > > > Sara jo

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