RE: How do I stop feeling guilty?

[Guest guest]

I think that’s the million dollar question. And if anyone has

it I want it – though I can afford to put up a million for it.

I’m still trying to cope with the fact that I gained weight as a

result of this process. I knew I likely would based on everything I read here

and in the book but that still made me feel guilty and like a failure. As 330

turned into 340 or higher (don’t weight all anymore) I not only felt guilty but

like I was making my goal of getting to a healthy weight harder to attain.

I’m still struggling with all of it. So, McKella, while I can’t

answer your question I can assure you that you’re not the only one asking it.

From:

IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of mckella11

Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 9:36 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: How do I stop feeling guilty?

I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still

catch myself feeling guilty for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar,

then I eat because I feel bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing

restaurant, and I ate way past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full

I was, but the food was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was

healthy; mostly rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this

morning and I know it's putting a damper on my day.

Any tips for getting over the guilt?

McKella

[Guest guest]

I think that’s the million dollar question. And if anyone has

it I want it – though I can afford to put up a million for it.

I’m still trying to cope with the fact that I gained weight as a

result of this process. I knew I likely would based on everything I read here

and in the book but that still made me feel guilty and like a failure. As 330

turned into 340 or higher (don’t weight all anymore) I not only felt guilty but

like I was making my goal of getting to a healthy weight harder to attain.

I’m still struggling with all of it. So, McKella, while I can’t

answer your question I can assure you that you’re not the only one asking it.

From:

IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of mckella11

Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 9:36 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: How do I stop feeling guilty?

I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still

catch myself feeling guilty for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar,

then I eat because I feel bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing

restaurant, and I ate way past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full

I was, but the food was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was

healthy; mostly rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this

morning and I know it's putting a damper on my day.

Any tips for getting over the guilt?

McKella

[Guest guest]

I have been struggling as well. The past few weeks have been very up and down. I

think I am feeling anxious about the warmer weather and getting out the skimpier

clothing! Even though I have been looking forward to getting outdoors again to

walk, the anxiety over my weight is taking over.

I am trying very hard not to fall into old habits and behaviors, but it is very

difficult at times.

I am using my Twitter subscriptions to GeenenRoth, EatWhatYouLove, and Etribole

to send inspirational text messages to my phone for pick me ups!

>

> I think that's the million dollar question. And if anyone has it I want it

> - though I can afford to put up a million for it.

>

>

>

> I'm still trying to cope with the fact that I gained weight as a result of

> this process. I knew I likely would based on everything I read here and in

> the book but that still made me feel guilty and like a failure. As 330

> turned into 340 or higher (don't weight all anymore) I not only felt guilty

> but like I was making my goal of getting to a healthy weight harder to

> attain.

>

>

>

> I'm still struggling with all of it. So, McKella, while I can't answer your

> question I can assure you that you're not the only one asking it.

>

>

>

> From: IntuitiveEating_Support

> [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of mckella11

> Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 9:36 AM

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Subject: How do I stop feeling guilty?

>

>

>

>

>

> I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still catch myself feeling guilty

> for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar, then I eat because I feel

> bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing restaurant, and I ate way

> past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full I was, but the food

> was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was healthy; mostly

> rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this morning and I

> know it's putting a damper on my day.

> Any tips for getting over the guilt?

>

> McKella

>

[Guest guest]

I have been struggling as well. The past few weeks have been very up and down. I

think I am feeling anxious about the warmer weather and getting out the skimpier

clothing! Even though I have been looking forward to getting outdoors again to

walk, the anxiety over my weight is taking over.

I am trying very hard not to fall into old habits and behaviors, but it is very

difficult at times.

I am using my Twitter subscriptions to GeenenRoth, EatWhatYouLove, and Etribole

to send inspirational text messages to my phone for pick me ups!

>

> I think that's the million dollar question. And if anyone has it I want it

> - though I can afford to put up a million for it.

>

>

>

> I'm still trying to cope with the fact that I gained weight as a result of

> this process. I knew I likely would based on everything I read here and in

> the book but that still made me feel guilty and like a failure. As 330

> turned into 340 or higher (don't weight all anymore) I not only felt guilty

> but like I was making my goal of getting to a healthy weight harder to

> attain.

>

>

>

> I'm still struggling with all of it. So, McKella, while I can't answer your

> question I can assure you that you're not the only one asking it.

>

>

>

> From: IntuitiveEating_Support

> [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of mckella11

> Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 9:36 AM

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Subject: How do I stop feeling guilty?

>

>

>

>

>

> I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still catch myself feeling guilty

> for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar, then I eat because I feel

> bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing restaurant, and I ate way

> past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full I was, but the food

> was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was healthy; mostly

> rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this morning and I

> know it's putting a damper on my day.

> Any tips for getting over the guilt?

>

> McKella

>

[Guest guest]

Hi McKella,

You aren’t alone with this obstacle,

but it will get easier. When these things pop up, I think it’s important

to remember where you started and what progress you have made, and it sounds

like quite a bit! Knowing how much you have overcome can give you the

confidence that you will get past this.

Often feeling guilty has to do with a lack

of mindfulness. I know it’s not possible to be 100% mindful all the time

when eating, but the more you can pay attention to the food, the easier it is

to stop when you are satisfied. It sounds like some of the time you are being

mindful, like at the restaurant. When you are in a situation like this, where

you want to keep eating because the food is good, make a decision right then

and there that you are going to eat past full. When you make a decision, there

is no room for guilt. You may wish you hadn’t eaten so much because of

how you physically feel, but there really isn’t much room for guilt.

Another strategy can help you with the

eating because you feel guilty about what or how much you ate. Remember there

will be times that you overeat, we all do it, even those that have always eaten

intuitively. So when you are done eating, decide you will eat again when you

are hungry. It may be longer than usual, but that’s ok, just eat again

when your body says it is time. This will prevent you from slipping into the

diet mentality and overeating because you overate. It also prevents additional

weigh gain that happens when you are trapped in a diet mentality cycle.

As for how you are feeling today, try to

look back and see what you can learn from this experience. What did you find

out that may help you in the future? For one thing, you reached out for help

with feeling guilty and this group always has great ideas. Everytime you

overeat, get too hungry, or slip into old habits, it’s an opportunity to

learn something. We learn from our challenges. I know it’s cliché, but it’s

like learning any skill, you learn by doing, and that includes taking a step

back, but just keep on walking forward. Hopefully this is helpful!

Thanks!

Gillian

Gillian

Hood-son, MS, ACSM

Get your report, " The 6 Steps to Guilt-Fr*e Eating " at http://www.HealthierOutcomes.com

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From:

IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of mckella11

Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2010 7:36

AM

To:

IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject:

How do I stop feeling guilty?

I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still catch

myself feeling guilty for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar, then I

eat because I feel bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing restaurant,

and I ate way past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full I was, but

the food was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was healthy;

mostly rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this morning

and I know it's putting a damper on my day.

Any tips for getting over the guilt?

McKella

[Guest guest]

Hi, McKella,Progress, not perfection. Just think of all the times you are honoring your hunger, rather than eating to full. The neat thing about IE is that if you overeat, you get to listen to your hunger again at the next meal or snack. Over time, overeating becomes less attractive than feeling comfortable.Best,Subject: How do I stop feeling guilty?To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, April 13, 2010, 7:35 AM

I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still catch myself feeling guilty for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar, then I eat because I feel bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing restaurant, and I ate way past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full I was, but the food was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was healthy; mostly rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this morning and I know it's putting a damper on my day.

Any tips for getting over the guilt?

McKella

[Guest guest]

Hi, McKella,Progress, not perfection. Just think of all the times you are honoring your hunger, rather than eating to full. The neat thing about IE is that if you overeat, you get to listen to your hunger again at the next meal or snack. Over time, overeating becomes less attractive than feeling comfortable.Best,Subject: How do I stop feeling guilty?To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, April 13, 2010, 7:35 AM

I've made lots of progress with IE, but I still catch myself feeling guilty for extra helpings or dipping into the candy jar, then I eat because I feel bad. I ate a big dinner last night at an amazing restaurant, and I ate way past my fullness level. I was fully aware of how full I was, but the food was so good, I didn't want to stop. Everything I ate was healthy; mostly rice noodles, veggies and tofu, but I still feel bloated this morning and I know it's putting a damper on my day.

Any tips for getting over the guilt?

McKella