More texting fun and new triangulation

[Guest guest]

Dear WTO,

So I now have nada's number blocked on the ATT 'Smart Phone' plan. However a

message just came through that said nada's number had sent me an 'MMS'.

Whenever people with more advanced phones send me pictures, it goes through some

kind of AT & T web-based center. This message came early on a Sunday morning,

when I was half-asleep having some pretty personal dreams. Nada has a way of

knowing when to invade at my most intimate moments, even though we haven't

spoken in THREE YEARS. It is so bad--I know it's a cop out to say there's not a

word bad enough for how bad it is. But, it is. It is pure evil. I am so

freaked out, in such discomfort from this that I'm needing to post even before

my Sunday coffee.

And also, relatives are now starting to triangulate for my granparents. I think

that nada has panicked my grandparents (in their 80s) with some kindof

projection, making them think I hate them or don't want to see them or some such

BS. The only relative I'm willing to be in touch with has now started texting

me things about my grandparents, how they miss me and would love to see me.

This makes the child in me terrified of upsetting my very elderly

grandparents--but it makes the adult in me angry, that a group of people would

be so blind and selfish as to wish for me to lie myself prostrate for

molestation and abuse by nada AND for possibly being found and harmed by an

ex-husband whom therapists have diagnosed as being possibly homicidal. Because

they want to pretend that 'family is everything' and they didn't raise a crazy

nut-job daughter? Well--they DID. And they did not protect me from her.

The next logical step is simply to change my phone number, and only give it out

to non-family members. I hate to lose text touch with the one relative who I

was in touch with that way--but, so be it. Every time she texts me it ruins my

day and makes me want to go on a big bender, anyway. So I guess that's the next

thing I'll look into.

For those of you just starting out with toe-in=the-water NC, or thinking about

boundaries, this is generally how it happens. You resist just a little, set a

small boundary to protect yourself, and they freak and INCREASE like mad with

the desperate violations. Then you see how much they not only don't have your

best interest at heart, but actually want to harm you instead. Then, you buy a

new phone. And post before coffee...

Charlie