Re: So confused...not sure what to do

[Guest guest]

Hello Sorry if I repeat anything already posted. When we start to IE we have to let go of weight issues. Which can be extremely hard to do, weigh gain may occur as we travel through the healing process presented by IE. Having the courage to allow weigh gain means taking a deep breath & accepting that it may happen. In theory, health matters not stopping, weight loss & a natural body weight should resume. If you return to calories then you will indeed tie yourself tighter into a diet mind trap, which is what your trying to move away from. Your also looking at food as good or bad, try to see it as simply food. It is the thoughts you have about the food which are good or bad. As you have allowed IE into your life your mind will wish to take pleasure from what it has been denied or told was off limits, like a child in a sweet shop. If you say no, it will rebel & make you unhappy. Your fears at present stem from being stuck between the new way & the old way, have faith that eating what you are is part of the process. Believe me you will tire of such foods because of habituation, just allow the process to take place. You can use each & every occasion to be mindful, eat till your full & enjoy what your eating, in time you will find that your body demands more variety. Let go of the reigns some more. Pam

[Guest guest]

Pam, that is so beautiful. Let go of the reigns some more. I can say from

experience that when I feel unhealthy, I am more likely to feel like there is no

point trying to eat better. And this leads to a cycle of destructive eating. And

then I freak out about my self sabotoge, and just eat more junk.

But I have realized how much better I feel when I dont binge. I will be a

happier person when I eat only when I am hungry. And this is motivation to do so

because I know I will feel better when i listen to what I truly want and give

myself that instead of pointlessly eating because I am uncomfortable or trying

to avoid some emotional situation.

Its so hard to see the weight gain and it does make me doubt my progress, but

this is a process. And I am learning to appreciate instead of freak out about

what is happening.

>

> Hello

>

> Sorry if I repeat anything already posted.

>

> When we start to IE we have to let go of weight issues. Which can be

> extremely hard to do, weigh gain may occur as we travel through the

> healing process presented by IE. Having the courage to allow weigh gain

> means taking a deep breath & accepting that it may happen. In theory,

> health matters not stopping, weight loss & a natural body weight should

> resume.

>

> If you return to calories then you will indeed tie yourself tighter into

> a diet mind trap, which is what your trying to move away from.

>

> Your also looking at food as good or bad, try to see it as simply food.

> It is the thoughts you have about the food which are good or bad.

>

> As you have allowed IE into your life your mind will wish to take

> pleasure from what it has been denied or told was off limits, like a

> child in a sweet shop. If you say no, it will rebel & make you unhappy.

> Your fears at present stem from being stuck between the new way & the

> old way, have faith that eating what you are is part of the process.

> Believe me you will tire of such foods because of habituation, just

> allow the process to take place.

>

> You can use each & every occasion to be mindful, eat till your full &

> enjoy what your eating, in time you will find that your body demands

> more variety.

>

> Let go of the reigns some more.

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Pam, that is so beautiful. Let go of the reigns some more. I can say from

experience that when I feel unhealthy, I am more likely to feel like there is no

point trying to eat better. And this leads to a cycle of destructive eating. And

then I freak out about my self sabotoge, and just eat more junk.

But I have realized how much better I feel when I dont binge. I will be a

happier person when I eat only when I am hungry. And this is motivation to do so

because I know I will feel better when i listen to what I truly want and give

myself that instead of pointlessly eating because I am uncomfortable or trying

to avoid some emotional situation.

Its so hard to see the weight gain and it does make me doubt my progress, but

this is a process. And I am learning to appreciate instead of freak out about

what is happening.

>

> Hello

>

> Sorry if I repeat anything already posted.

>

> When we start to IE we have to let go of weight issues. Which can be

> extremely hard to do, weigh gain may occur as we travel through the

> healing process presented by IE. Having the courage to allow weigh gain

> means taking a deep breath & accepting that it may happen. In theory,

> health matters not stopping, weight loss & a natural body weight should

> resume.

>

> If you return to calories then you will indeed tie yourself tighter into

> a diet mind trap, which is what your trying to move away from.

>

> Your also looking at food as good or bad, try to see it as simply food.

> It is the thoughts you have about the food which are good or bad.

>

> As you have allowed IE into your life your mind will wish to take

> pleasure from what it has been denied or told was off limits, like a

> child in a sweet shop. If you say no, it will rebel & make you unhappy.

> Your fears at present stem from being stuck between the new way & the

> old way, have faith that eating what you are is part of the process.

> Believe me you will tire of such foods because of habituation, just

> allow the process to take place.

>

> You can use each & every occasion to be mindful, eat till your full &

> enjoy what your eating, in time you will find that your body demands

> more variety.

>

> Let go of the reigns some more.

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Pam, that is so beautiful. Let go of the reigns some more. I can say from

experience that when I feel unhealthy, I am more likely to feel like there is no

point trying to eat better. And this leads to a cycle of destructive eating. And

then I freak out about my self sabotoge, and just eat more junk.

But I have realized how much better I feel when I dont binge. I will be a

happier person when I eat only when I am hungry. And this is motivation to do so

because I know I will feel better when i listen to what I truly want and give

myself that instead of pointlessly eating because I am uncomfortable or trying

to avoid some emotional situation.

Its so hard to see the weight gain and it does make me doubt my progress, but

this is a process. And I am learning to appreciate instead of freak out about

what is happening.

>

> Hello

>

> Sorry if I repeat anything already posted.

>

> When we start to IE we have to let go of weight issues. Which can be

> extremely hard to do, weigh gain may occur as we travel through the

> healing process presented by IE. Having the courage to allow weigh gain

> means taking a deep breath & accepting that it may happen. In theory,

> health matters not stopping, weight loss & a natural body weight should

> resume.

>

> If you return to calories then you will indeed tie yourself tighter into

> a diet mind trap, which is what your trying to move away from.

>

> Your also looking at food as good or bad, try to see it as simply food.

> It is the thoughts you have about the food which are good or bad.

>

> As you have allowed IE into your life your mind will wish to take

> pleasure from what it has been denied or told was off limits, like a

> child in a sweet shop. If you say no, it will rebel & make you unhappy.

> Your fears at present stem from being stuck between the new way & the

> old way, have faith that eating what you are is part of the process.

> Believe me you will tire of such foods because of habituation, just

> allow the process to take place.

>

> You can use each & every occasion to be mindful, eat till your full &

> enjoy what your eating, in time you will find that your body demands

> more variety.

>

> Let go of the reigns some more.

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Pam,

I just love how you explained this. It really helps me to read it stated that

simply. And what you wrote seems to be so true for me. I just love this way of

eating/life & I can't ever imagine even thinking of dieting again. My memories

of the 'diet trap' are very painful ones & I just don't ever want to have to

revisit them.

Thanks for posting,

mj

>

> Hello

>

> Sorry if I repeat anything already posted.

>

> When we start to IE we have to let go of weight issues. Which can be

> extremely hard to do, weigh gain may occur as we travel through the

> healing process presented by IE. Having the courage to allow weigh gain

> means taking a deep breath & accepting that it may happen. In theory,

> health matters not stopping, weight loss & a natural body weight should

> resume.

>

> If you return to calories then you will indeed tie yourself tighter into

> a diet mind trap, which is what your trying to move away from.

>

> Your also looking at food as good or bad, try to see it as simply food.

> It is the thoughts you have about the food which are good or bad.

>

> As you have allowed IE into your life your mind will wish to take

> pleasure from what it has been denied or told was off limits, like a

> child in a sweet shop. If you say no, it will rebel & make you unhappy.

> Your fears at present stem from being stuck between the new way & the

> old way, have faith that eating what you are is part of the process.

> Believe me you will tire of such foods because of habituation, just

> allow the process to take place.

>

> You can use each & every occasion to be mindful, eat till your full &

> enjoy what your eating, in time you will find that your body demands

> more variety.

>

> Let go of the reigns some more.

>

> Pam

>