Re: Re: Top 10 Nada Body-Panic Lines

[Guest guest]

Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any sense.

I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada to

cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

>

>

> Charlotte,

> your post reminded me so much of my mother.

> Nothing is just " it's cold " ; it's " oh my GOD, it's FREEZING. "

>

> Last winter it was her bathroom dripping through the ceiling. It was horrid

> having to hear her exclamations about it.

>

> Now it's the ants in her kitchen. Why does she think I want her calling me

> at work about this?? I picked up this time, breaking my own rule, b/c she'd

> called several times and thought it might be an emergency. You'd think her

> house was being invaded by scorpions. They're ants. They come every year.

> You spray. They go.

>

> You know what's funny, though and my husband has pointed this out to me, is

> how I don't express discomfort (and I'm working on this, truly!, on being

> more honest if something's bothering me). I'll just suck it up. I think I

> just got so used to mother's needs being so loud and center-stage, I

> just...sucked mine up.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any sense.

I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada to

cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

>

>

> Charlotte,

> your post reminded me so much of my mother.

> Nothing is just " it's cold " ; it's " oh my GOD, it's FREEZING. "

>

> Last winter it was her bathroom dripping through the ceiling. It was horrid

> having to hear her exclamations about it.

>

> Now it's the ants in her kitchen. Why does she think I want her calling me

> at work about this?? I picked up this time, breaking my own rule, b/c she'd

> called several times and thought it might be an emergency. You'd think her

> house was being invaded by scorpions. They're ants. They come every year.

> You spray. They go.

>

> You know what's funny, though and my husband has pointed this out to me, is

> how I don't express discomfort (and I'm working on this, truly!, on being

> more honest if something's bothering me). I'll just suck it up. I think I

> just got so used to mother's needs being so loud and center-stage, I

> just...sucked mine up.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any sense.

I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada to

cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

>

>

> Charlotte,

> your post reminded me so much of my mother.

> Nothing is just " it's cold " ; it's " oh my GOD, it's FREEZING. "

>

> Last winter it was her bathroom dripping through the ceiling. It was horrid

> having to hear her exclamations about it.

>

> Now it's the ants in her kitchen. Why does she think I want her calling me

> at work about this?? I picked up this time, breaking my own rule, b/c she'd

> called several times and thought it might be an emergency. You'd think her

> house was being invaded by scorpions. They're ants. They come every year.

> You spray. They go.

>

> You know what's funny, though and my husband has pointed this out to me, is

> how I don't express discomfort (and I'm working on this, truly!, on being

> more honest if something's bothering me). I'll just suck it up. I think I

> just got so used to mother's needs being so loud and center-stage, I

> just...sucked mine up.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I've done the same thing once or twice.

I think there is also an element of " I don't deserve comfort and safety

because I'm bad, damaged, and evil. " and any taking care of myself is

" selfish " .

>

>

> I know I do all I can to NOT be like my nada. And that means ignoring any

> physical problems of my own. That can be dangerous because sometimes we

> actually need medical attention. I've pushed things a bit too far a couple

> of times and ended up in ER.

>

>

> >

> > Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

> >

> > Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

> > uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any sense.

> >

> > I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

> > anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada to

> > cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I've done the same thing once or twice.

I think there is also an element of " I don't deserve comfort and safety

because I'm bad, damaged, and evil. " and any taking care of myself is

" selfish " .

>

>

> I know I do all I can to NOT be like my nada. And that means ignoring any

> physical problems of my own. That can be dangerous because sometimes we

> actually need medical attention. I've pushed things a bit too far a couple

> of times and ended up in ER.

>

>

> >

> > Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

> >

> > Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

> > uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any sense.

> >

> > I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

> > anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada to

> > cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oooh, yeah, taking care of your self is selfish. I totally hear that.

> I've done the same thing once or twice.

>

> I think there is also an element of " I don't deserve comfort and safety

> because I'm bad, damaged, and evil. " and any taking care of myself is

> " selfish " .

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > I know I do all I can to NOT be like my nada. And that means ignoring any

> > physical problems of my own. That can be dangerous because sometimes we

> > actually need medical attention. I've pushed things a bit too far a

> couple

> > of times and ended up in ER.

> >

> >

> > >

> > > Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

> > >

> > > Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

> > > uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any

> sense.

> > >

> > > I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

> > > anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada

> to

> > > cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oooh, yeah, taking care of your self is selfish. I totally hear that.

> I've done the same thing once or twice.

>

> I think there is also an element of " I don't deserve comfort and safety

> because I'm bad, damaged, and evil. " and any taking care of myself is

> " selfish " .

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > I know I do all I can to NOT be like my nada. And that means ignoring any

> > physical problems of my own. That can be dangerous because sometimes we

> > actually need medical attention. I've pushed things a bit too far a

> couple

> > of times and ended up in ER.

> >

> >

> > >

> > > Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

> > >

> > > Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

> > > uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any

> sense.

> > >

> > > I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

> > > anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada

> to

> > > cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oooh, yeah, taking care of your self is selfish. I totally hear that.

> I've done the same thing once or twice.

>

> I think there is also an element of " I don't deserve comfort and safety

> because I'm bad, damaged, and evil. " and any taking care of myself is

> " selfish " .

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > I know I do all I can to NOT be like my nada. And that means ignoring any

> > physical problems of my own. That can be dangerous because sometimes we

> > actually need medical attention. I've pushed things a bit too far a

> couple

> > of times and ended up in ER.

> >

> >

> > >

> > > Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

> > >

> > > Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

> > > uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any

> sense.

> > >

> > > I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

> > > anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada

> to

> > > cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My T had me come up with 'my slogan' just yesterday.....after a bit of

conversation about what I want my life to look like, I came up with this;

" I am confident and pleased with putting myself first! "

The blaspheme of it, huh?

Of course those who have not lived with a PDed person might think it sounds

selfish, but I think we all get it. Now just to LIVE it.

DKC

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Fri, August 6, 2010 9:00:49 AM

Subject: Re: Re: Top 10 Nada Body-Panic Lines

Oooh, yeah, taking care of your self is selfish. I totally hear that.

> I've done the same thing once or twice.

>

> I think there is also an element of " I don't deserve comfort and safety

> because I'm bad, damaged, and evil. " and any taking care of myself is

> " selfish " .

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > I know I do all I can to NOT be like my nada. And that means ignoring any

> > physical problems of my own. That can be dangerous because sometimes we

> > actually need medical attention. I've pushed things a bit too far a

> couple

> > of times and ended up in ER.

> >

> >

> > >

> > > Fiona I just have to say AMEN, I do not express my discomfort.

> > >

> > > Now that i'm in my mid 30s, I'm learning to. Wow. It makes me extremely

> > > uncomfortable to say I'm uncomfortable. Ha ha doest that make any

> sense.

> > >

> > > I think that might be why I have fibro - actually. In pain. Don't say

> > > anything. If you say anything, you'll get screamed at. Or told by fada

> to

> > > cowboy up. Or teased by the bada. or worse.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

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