Re: bpd stable partnerships McSm/

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Mcsmitty, this is how I thought things might work. I hope that things work out

for the best with your mom. While a dad can help calm her and for things to

function still it also seems to allow a nada to continue without consequences

also and kids without validation. Guess there's no easy fix.

phine, I laughed about the rock...it does seem some nadas are kind of like

the mafia, you do what I want or I'll (some horrible consequence here) That

type seems in some ways more high functioning to me that the waif who might

actually fall apart. But then some fake being a waif to manipulate too. Hmmmm.

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> > My parents divorced when I was a baby, but I always wondered (more like

hopeful fantasies) that if my nada had met and married a man who could be " her

rock " , if she could have been more functional and stable. And would it have

taken the heat off of me as the only child? I've had many a therapist say I

was spousified and/or parentified. I wonder if a husband who would have played

those roles had come along if she could have been a more normal mother.

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