Guest guest Posted August 2, 2010 Report Share Posted August 2, 2010 Hi , Maybe it will help you to realize that everybody feels self doubt and like there's something badly wrong with them, from time to time. That's not abnormal. Nobody can achieve a state of perfection in thought, mood, or deed; we make mistakes. We screw up. We hurt someone's feelings or forget to pay a bill or act selfishly from time to time. The difference, I guess, is that most people learn how to self-soothe, comfort and reassure ourselves that even when we do make a mistake, the mistake can (usually) be repaired when we possess real empathy and have real remorse and make real effort to change and grow. Maybe your therapist can help you work on some techniques to improve your ability to self-soothe, and some techniques to redirect your thinking when it gets stuck in that well-worn groove of " there's something badly wrong with me. " Have you been keeping a journal? A daily journal can help you see how far you've come on your path to healing, and after a while a journal can help you notice if any patterns show up that trigger you to feel increased self-doubt or anxiety. I hope that helps. -Annie > > Hi All, > > It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as a > child. > > Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I ALWAYS > think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? > > Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. > > Hope you are all well. > > xx > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 A thought that helps me when I start to think like that (I think everyone here can say they've felt the same) is a section from " Daughters of Madness " , it says that we tend to adopt the world view of our parent, specifically our mother if we are female. If their world view is screwed up, then ours will be too. It takes a LOT of work to change that world view, but it is possible. > > Hi All, > > It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as a > child. > > Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I ALWAYS > think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? > > Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. > > Hope you are all well. > > xx > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 I question this CONSTANTLY. My therapist always reassures me that I don't have it but I think I might always obsess over it...especially when my emotions feel so all over the place. Honestly maybe the " i'm the crazy one " thing stems from feeling like that as a child our whole lives. Re: Still thinking im BPD Hi , I think worring about having BPD is part of your anxiety and obsession about that. Not all people with bouts of anger and and behavioural issues have BPD. Sometimes I see people around me in rage but I can't just tag them with BPD. In my case, my nada has depression and anxiety on top of her BPD. Have you ever heard of EFT. Take a look at the below link. I suggest whenever the thought of having BPD crosses your mind do the tapping. It really helps. It helps with anxiety and depression too. You can change the wordings to whatever you wish to get rid of. http://www.youtube.com/user/HealingMagic#p/u/32/u8iatvZyuF0 > > > > Hi All, > > > > It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as a > > child. > > > > Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I ALWAYS > > think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? > > > > Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. > > > > Hope you are all well. > > > > xx > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 I think this too. Though I am nothing at all like my Nada. But I fear that maybe I'm doing wrong to my kids and don't know it just like she is. But for the most part my kids are teenager and they actually enjoy spending time with me..that encourages me. and I love being with them. I think wonderful happy thoughts about them and do not feel I need to manipulate them. As children of BPD we have issues..no way out of it. As children we have been engineered to receive our validation from the person that abuses us. It is difficult for us to learn to validate ourselves. I think if you are here you are looking for answers and help you are just where you need to be..don't worry. These feelings are what I guess is called fleas..they are inherited from our BPD parent.. On Mon, Aug 2, 2010 at 11:29 AM, Newton wrote: > > > Hi All, > > It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as > a > child. > > Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I > ALWAYS > think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? > > Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. > > Hope you are all well. > > xx > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 I think this too. Though I am nothing at all like my Nada. But I fear that maybe I'm doing wrong to my kids and don't know it just like she is. But for the most part my kids are teenager and they actually enjoy spending time with me..that encourages me. and I love being with them. I think wonderful happy thoughts about them and do not feel I need to manipulate them. As children of BPD we have issues..no way out of it. As children we have been engineered to receive our validation from the person that abuses us. It is difficult for us to learn to validate ourselves. I think if you are here you are looking for answers and help you are just where you need to be..don't worry. These feelings are what I guess is called fleas..they are inherited from our BPD parent.. On Mon, Aug 2, 2010 at 11:29 AM, Newton wrote: > > > Hi All, > > It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as > a > child. > > Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I > ALWAYS > think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? > > Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. > > Hope you are all well. > > xx > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 I think this too. Though I am nothing at all like my Nada. But I fear that maybe I'm doing wrong to my kids and don't know it just like she is. But for the most part my kids are teenager and they actually enjoy spending time with me..that encourages me. and I love being with them. I think wonderful happy thoughts about them and do not feel I need to manipulate them. As children of BPD we have issues..no way out of it. As children we have been engineered to receive our validation from the person that abuses us. It is difficult for us to learn to validate ourselves. I think if you are here you are looking for answers and help you are just where you need to be..don't worry. These feelings are what I guess is called fleas..they are inherited from our BPD parent.. On Mon, Aug 2, 2010 at 11:29 AM, Newton wrote: > > > Hi All, > > It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as > a > child. > > Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I > ALWAYS > think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? > > Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. > > Hope you are all well. > > xx > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 I worry too. I think that because Nada didn't care for me, I got used to caring for myself, and as a result, I've become self-centered. I find that I'm so preoccupied about my relationship with Nada that I often don't have enough energy to care about other people. I have to force myself to muster up the energy (and interest for that matter). And I lack empathy too- I figure that no one else had as rough of a childhood as me. I'm sure this is how my Nada feels too. I try to show as much love and compassion for others as I can to break the cycle but I do realize that it's all about me a lot. - > > > On Mon, Aug 2, 2010 at 11:29 AM, Newton wrote: > >> >> >> Hi All, >> >> It's over a year into my healing journey from my nada and horrific abuse as >> a >> child. >> >> Subsequently I suffer Anxiety Disorder and depression. Why is it that I >> ALWAYS >> think that I have BPD, or that I suffer a major mental issue?? >> >> Thoughts welcome, as I am sick and tired of doubting myself all the time. >> >> Hope you are all well. >> >> xx >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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