Guest guest Posted August 2, 2010 Report Share Posted August 2, 2010 Hi Gang, not to be constantly talking about my stalker, but I guess I am constantly talking about my stalker. Anyway, I've told a few friends about the situation. For the most part, they react like their is something wrong with me. " Like seriously, you haven't been around your brother in 7 or 8 years? and Well that sounds very strange and it takes 2 to tango etc. " But I did talk to one friend about it. I really believed she would support me. She is also an artist and we collaborate all the time, doing shows together for the past 4 years. I even sent her the messages from stalker. Her dad is a mean-ass lawyer and she offered to have him look into it for me. So after reading the messages, here is what she said. I just had to share it. This is what a friend is. If you have friends who don't support you like this, I think you could tell them bye bye and be the better for it. I think that is going to be happening to a few of mine after the stalker issues. " Read that (the message) to husband. He said that it sounds like it is from a family member or someone with severe mental issues. And... I know you already know this but in case you need to hear it, I will lay it out for you. This is what I am getting from this situation and from knowing you. You, my dear, are a wonderful human being. You are a happy, talented, passionate, loving individual who is justified in all your reactions to your family. It really sucks for them to have lost you and I think they are just feeling that. (seems like they miss having a human punching bag) Whatever reason they have for aiming this aggression at you again cannot be justified though. You have let go of those who do not serve you, and it sounds like they need to do the same. If they don't stop, I will form a team and we will make them stop!! Freakin love you Girlscout. If you get one more, lmk and we'll get on it. " Feels good to have a true friend. I'm a lucky girl. I've known for a long time that you're not born into your family, you build it yourself with your hands, your talents, your time and your love. HUGS, Girlscout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2010 Report Share Posted August 2, 2010 Hey Girlscout, I remember you from before here, and have missed your style and contributions and am glad you are back. I read here as a way to learn how to help my teen kids deal with thier BPD mom, NOT as a KO, but you all help tremendously to guide me. Anyway, could you do me a favor and give this friend of your a big hug or high five from me (and probably most of us here) just as a thank you for being the kind of person that maybe even if they dont get it 100%, they SUPPORT a friend unconditionally. We need more humans like that in out world, whether with BPD, or any other difficult issue. The world would be a better place if we all took time to 'do the little things right' I have had a 'clarity occurrence lately' and have consciously been trying to do all the little things right that I have often put off, and let me tell you it feels GOOD, and others have even mentioned that small simple things I have done (and NOT for the recognition - but for the personal satisfaction of 'giving', even though most of them are SMALL things) and that it reminded THEM that they should be doing similar things. Here's to making the world a better place by 'supporting others and doing the right thing " DKC ________________________________ To: wtoadultchildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Mon, August 2, 2010 4:03:52 PM Subject: Friends and stalkers Hi Gang, not to be constantly talking about my stalker, but I guess I am constantly talking about my stalker. Anyway, I've told a few friends about the situation. For the most part, they react like their is something wrong with me. " Like seriously, you haven't been around your brother in 7 or 8 years? and Well that sounds very strange and it takes 2 to tango etc. " But I did talk to one friend about it. I really believed she would support me. She is also an artist and we collaborate all the time, doing shows together for the past 4 years. I even sent her the messages from stalker. Her dad is a mean-ass lawyer and she offered to have him look into it for me. So after reading the messages, here is what she said. I just had to share it. This is what a friend is. If you have friends who don't support you like this, I think you could tell them bye bye and be the better for it. I think that is going to be happening to a few of mine after the stalker issues. " Read that (the message) to husband. He said that it sounds like it is from a family member or someone with severe mental issues. And... I know you already know this but in case you need to hear it, I will lay it out for you. This is what I am getting from this situation and from knowing you. You, my dear, are a wonderful human being. You are a happy, talented, passionate, loving individual who is justified in all your reactions to your family. It really sucks for them to have lost you and I think they are just feeling that. (seems like they miss having a human punching bag) Whatever reason they have for aiming this aggression at you again cannot be justified though. You have let go of those who do not serve you, and it sounds like they need to do the same. If they don't stop, I will form a team and we will make them stop!! Freakin love you Girlscout. If you get one more, lmk and we'll get on it. " Feels good to have a true friend. I'm a lucky girl. I've known for a long time that you're not born into your family, you build it yourself with your hands, your talents, your time and your love. HUGS, Girlscout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2010 Report Share Posted August 2, 2010 Hey Girlscout, I remember you from before here, and have missed your style and contributions and am glad you are back. I read here as a way to learn how to help my teen kids deal with thier BPD mom, NOT as a KO, but you all help tremendously to guide me. Anyway, could you do me a favor and give this friend of your a big hug or high five from me (and probably most of us here) just as a thank you for being the kind of person that maybe even if they dont get it 100%, they SUPPORT a friend unconditionally. We need more humans like that in out world, whether with BPD, or any other difficult issue. The world would be a better place if we all took time to 'do the little things right' I have had a 'clarity occurrence lately' and have consciously been trying to do all the little things right that I have often put off, and let me tell you it feels GOOD, and others have even mentioned that small simple things I have done (and NOT for the recognition - but for the personal satisfaction of 'giving', even though most of them are SMALL things) and that it reminded THEM that they should be doing similar things. Here's to making the world a better place by 'supporting others and doing the right thing " DKC ________________________________ To: wtoadultchildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Mon, August 2, 2010 4:03:52 PM Subject: Friends and stalkers Hi Gang, not to be constantly talking about my stalker, but I guess I am constantly talking about my stalker. Anyway, I've told a few friends about the situation. For the most part, they react like their is something wrong with me. " Like seriously, you haven't been around your brother in 7 or 8 years? and Well that sounds very strange and it takes 2 to tango etc. " But I did talk to one friend about it. I really believed she would support me. She is also an artist and we collaborate all the time, doing shows together for the past 4 years. I even sent her the messages from stalker. Her dad is a mean-ass lawyer and she offered to have him look into it for me. So after reading the messages, here is what she said. I just had to share it. This is what a friend is. If you have friends who don't support you like this, I think you could tell them bye bye and be the better for it. I think that is going to be happening to a few of mine after the stalker issues. " Read that (the message) to husband. He said that it sounds like it is from a family member or someone with severe mental issues. And... I know you already know this but in case you need to hear it, I will lay it out for you. This is what I am getting from this situation and from knowing you. You, my dear, are a wonderful human being. You are a happy, talented, passionate, loving individual who is justified in all your reactions to your family. It really sucks for them to have lost you and I think they are just feeling that. (seems like they miss having a human punching bag) Whatever reason they have for aiming this aggression at you again cannot be justified though. You have let go of those who do not serve you, and it sounds like they need to do the same. If they don't stop, I will form a team and we will make them stop!! Freakin love you Girlscout. If you get one more, lmk and we'll get on it. " Feels good to have a true friend. I'm a lucky girl. I've known for a long time that you're not born into your family, you build it yourself with your hands, your talents, your time and your love. HUGS, Girlscout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2010 Report Share Posted August 2, 2010 Hey Girlscout, I remember you from before here, and have missed your style and contributions and am glad you are back. I read here as a way to learn how to help my teen kids deal with thier BPD mom, NOT as a KO, but you all help tremendously to guide me. Anyway, could you do me a favor and give this friend of your a big hug or high five from me (and probably most of us here) just as a thank you for being the kind of person that maybe even if they dont get it 100%, they SUPPORT a friend unconditionally. We need more humans like that in out world, whether with BPD, or any other difficult issue. The world would be a better place if we all took time to 'do the little things right' I have had a 'clarity occurrence lately' and have consciously been trying to do all the little things right that I have often put off, and let me tell you it feels GOOD, and others have even mentioned that small simple things I have done (and NOT for the recognition - but for the personal satisfaction of 'giving', even though most of them are SMALL things) and that it reminded THEM that they should be doing similar things. Here's to making the world a better place by 'supporting others and doing the right thing " DKC ________________________________ To: wtoadultchildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1 > Sent: Mon, August 2, 2010 4:03:52 PM Subject: Friends and stalkers Hi Gang, not to be constantly talking about my stalker, but I guess I am constantly talking about my stalker. Anyway, I've told a few friends about the situation. For the most part, they react like their is something wrong with me. " Like seriously, you haven't been around your brother in 7 or 8 years? and Well that sounds very strange and it takes 2 to tango etc. " But I did talk to one friend about it. I really believed she would support me. She is also an artist and we collaborate all the time, doing shows together for the past 4 years. I even sent her the messages from stalker. Her dad is a mean-ass lawyer and she offered to have him look into it for me. So after reading the messages, here is what she said. I just had to share it. This is what a friend is. If you have friends who don't support you like this, I think you could tell them bye bye and be the better for it. I think that is going to be happening to a few of mine after the stalker issues. " Read that (the message) to husband. He said that it sounds like it is from a family member or someone with severe mental issues. And... I know you already know this but in case you need to hear it, I will lay it out for you. This is what I am getting from this situation and from knowing you. You, my dear, are a wonderful human being. You are a happy, talented, passionate, loving individual who is justified in all your reactions to your family. It really sucks for them to have lost you and I think they are just feeling that. (seems like they miss having a human punching bag) Whatever reason they have for aiming this aggression at you again cannot be justified though. You have let go of those who do not serve you, and it sounds like they need to do the same. If they don't stop, I will form a team and we will make them stop!! Freakin love you Girlscout. If you get one more, lmk and we'll get on it. " Feels good to have a true friend. I'm a lucky girl. I've known for a long time that you're not born into your family, you build it yourself with your hands, your talents, your time and your love. HUGS, Girlscout Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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