Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 questioned what she did to make him not "want her." As we all know that she didn't have anything to do with it, but she doesn't know or understand that at this point. Counceling would probally be good for her, if she wants it to - thats the big point "if". I don't know why, but my kids never asked about their "sperm donor" (as we all call him now) until they were both out of high school. Surprisingly the "donor" actually made a special effort to go meet them, which really surprised me. I'd had tried, really tried over the years not to bad mouth this sob but wouldn't you know it as soon as he met them he went to bad mouthing me. (Ohhh, that hacked me off when they told me). Hello, they knew who had worked hard and raised them and who didn't help one bit or cent at all. They both said they just quit listening to him them. I guess they heard to many times from me - how do you know when he's lying? His lips are moving. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 questioned what she did to make him not "want her." As we all know that she didn't have anything to do with it, but she doesn't know or understand that at this point. Counceling would probally be good for her, if she wants it to - thats the big point "if". I don't know why, but my kids never asked about their "sperm donor" (as we all call him now) until they were both out of high school. Surprisingly the "donor" actually made a special effort to go meet them, which really surprised me. I'd had tried, really tried over the years not to bad mouth this sob but wouldn't you know it as soon as he met them he went to bad mouthing me. (Ohhh, that hacked me off when they told me). Hello, they knew who had worked hard and raised them and who didn't help one bit or cent at all. They both said they just quit listening to him them. I guess they heard to many times from me - how do you know when he's lying? His lips are moving. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 questioned what she did to make him not "want her." As we all know that she didn't have anything to do with it, but she doesn't know or understand that at this point. Counceling would probally be good for her, if she wants it to - thats the big point "if". I don't know why, but my kids never asked about their "sperm donor" (as we all call him now) until they were both out of high school. Surprisingly the "donor" actually made a special effort to go meet them, which really surprised me. I'd had tried, really tried over the years not to bad mouth this sob but wouldn't you know it as soon as he met them he went to bad mouthing me. (Ohhh, that hacked me off when they told me). Hello, they knew who had worked hard and raised them and who didn't help one bit or cent at all. They both said they just quit listening to him them. I guess they heard to many times from me - how do you know when he's lying? His lips are moving. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Yeah I made the same mistake. I never talked bad about my ex and has had this "knight on a white horse" image for years. Even with the lawsuit when she tried to go see him a few years ago, she stills wonders what she did to make him so angry. I have tried telling her things now but it's too late. RE: Well hell questioned what she did to make him not "want her." As we all know that she didn't have anything to do with it, but she doesn't know or understand that at this point. Counceling would probally be good for her, if she wants it to - thats the big point "if". I don't know why, but my kids never asked about their "sperm donor" (as we all call him now) until they were both out of high school. Surprisingly the "donor" actually made a special effort to go meet them, which really surprised me. I'd had tried, really tried over the years not to bad mouth this sob but wouldn't you know it as soon as he met them he went to bad mouthing me. (Ohhh, that hacked me off when they told me). Hello, they knew who had worked hard and raised them and who didn't help one bit or cent at all. They both said they just quit listening to him them. I guess they heard to many times from me - how do you know when he's lying? His lips are moving. lol Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Yeah I made the same mistake. I never talked bad about my ex and has had this "knight on a white horse" image for years. Even with the lawsuit when she tried to go see him a few years ago, she stills wonders what she did to make him so angry. I have tried telling her things now but it's too late. RE: Well hell questioned what she did to make him not "want her." As we all know that she didn't have anything to do with it, but she doesn't know or understand that at this point. Counceling would probally be good for her, if she wants it to - thats the big point "if". I don't know why, but my kids never asked about their "sperm donor" (as we all call him now) until they were both out of high school. Surprisingly the "donor" actually made a special effort to go meet them, which really surprised me. I'd had tried, really tried over the years not to bad mouth this sob but wouldn't you know it as soon as he met them he went to bad mouthing me. (Ohhh, that hacked me off when they told me). Hello, they knew who had worked hard and raised them and who didn't help one bit or cent at all. They both said they just quit listening to him them. I guess they heard to many times from me - how do you know when he's lying? His lips are moving. lol Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Yeah I made the same mistake. I never talked bad about my ex and has had this "knight on a white horse" image I said I never talked bad about him I meant badmouthing him, but I did tell them what had happened to make me leave him. I tried to make it where they'd understand, and I really left out most of it while telling them. They got the polished and shined version. Does that make sense?? They knew he was a bad man that hit, and stole things to get more drugs. Not that he beat me and hocked everthing we owned to get more drugs, had another chick preggo while we were married, never worked so we ( and I) were starving while he was out pimping, stuff like that. They did know I left when he started hitting baby after he'd beat me while I was pregnant with a. That still makes my blood boil - B*sturd. But hey Karma does work, believe me. He got what was coming to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Yeah I made the same mistake. I never talked bad about my ex and has had this "knight on a white horse" image I said I never talked bad about him I meant badmouthing him, but I did tell them what had happened to make me leave him. I tried to make it where they'd understand, and I really left out most of it while telling them. They got the polished and shined version. Does that make sense?? They knew he was a bad man that hit, and stole things to get more drugs. Not that he beat me and hocked everthing we owned to get more drugs, had another chick preggo while we were married, never worked so we ( and I) were starving while he was out pimping, stuff like that. They did know I left when he started hitting baby after he'd beat me while I was pregnant with a. That still makes my blood boil - B*sturd. But hey Karma does work, believe me. He got what was coming to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2004 Report Share Posted July 10, 2004 Christy--I don't think it's a mistake. I was careful not to bad mouth my kid's Dad and they drew their own conclusions as they got older. Of course in 's case since he won't see her she hasn't had the chance to draw her own conclusions. There's never any point to lowering ourselves to their level. Kathy RE: Well hell questioned what she did to make him not "want her." As we all know that she didn't have anything to do with it, but she doesn't know or understand that at this point. Counceling would probally be good for her, if she wants it to - thats the big point "if". I don't know why, but my kids never asked about their "sperm donor" (as we all call him now) until they were both out of high school. Surprisingly the "donor" actually made a special effort to go meet them, which really surprised me. I'd had tried, really tried over the years not to bad mouth this sob but wouldn't you know it as soon as he met them he went to bad mouthing me. (Ohhh, that hacked me off when they told me). Hello, they knew who had worked hard and raised them and who didn't help one bit or cent at all. They both said they just quit listening to him them. I guess they heard to many times from me - how do you know when he's lying? His lips are moving. lol Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2004 Report Share Posted July 11, 2004 Well--I hope she does better on the first try than we did. Kathy Re: Well hell Yay! A "normal" boy. Good luck with that! I think theshrink is an excellent idea.Dawn--- Christy wrote:> I think we're calling the shrink on Monday. This> makes me wonder because her "father" was court> martialed and kicked out of the Marines for beating> all of us. I'm wondering if she's trying to prove> something by making these guys mad or if she's> trying to prove to herself that "if they are all bad> then her father must be bad too so there must not be> anything wrong with her." She has always questioned> what she did to make him not "want her." Too many> options here and none of them sound good!> > The good news: she's going out tomorrow with a great> kid (KID) he's 17 and works at Mc's, his dad's> a truck driver and the mom stays home and paints,> sews and decorates. I HAVE to meet this woman! The> guy seems nice. No military relatives. They're> going to the movies, dinner and then Putt Putt> because he LOVES Putt Putt and then he'll "bring her> straight home.:" He was one of the kids over here> the other day hanging out in the hot tub and> watching movies. She was "housebound" so they all> came to her.> > > > > > Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2004 Report Share Posted July 11, 2004 Well--I hope she does better on the first try than we did. Kathy Re: Well hell Yay! A "normal" boy. Good luck with that! I think theshrink is an excellent idea.Dawn--- Christy wrote:> I think we're calling the shrink on Monday. This> makes me wonder because her "father" was court> martialed and kicked out of the Marines for beating> all of us. I'm wondering if she's trying to prove> something by making these guys mad or if she's> trying to prove to herself that "if they are all bad> then her father must be bad too so there must not be> anything wrong with her." She has always questioned> what she did to make him not "want her." Too many> options here and none of them sound good!> > The good news: she's going out tomorrow with a great> kid (KID) he's 17 and works at Mc's, his dad's> a truck driver and the mom stays home and paints,> sews and decorates. I HAVE to meet this woman! The> guy seems nice. No military relatives. They're> going to the movies, dinner and then Putt Putt> because he LOVES Putt Putt and then he'll "bring her> straight home.:" He was one of the kids over here> the other day hanging out in the hot tub and> watching movies. She was "housebound" so they all> came to her.> > > > > > Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2004 Report Share Posted July 11, 2004 Well--I hope she does better on the first try than we did. Kathy Re: Well hell Yay! A "normal" boy. Good luck with that! I think theshrink is an excellent idea.Dawn--- Christy wrote:> I think we're calling the shrink on Monday. This> makes me wonder because her "father" was court> martialed and kicked out of the Marines for beating> all of us. I'm wondering if she's trying to prove> something by making these guys mad or if she's> trying to prove to herself that "if they are all bad> then her father must be bad too so there must not be> anything wrong with her." She has always questioned> what she did to make him not "want her." Too many> options here and none of them sound good!> > The good news: she's going out tomorrow with a great> kid (KID) he's 17 and works at Mc's, his dad's> a truck driver and the mom stays home and paints,> sews and decorates. I HAVE to meet this woman! The> guy seems nice. No military relatives. They're> going to the movies, dinner and then Putt Putt> because he LOVES Putt Putt and then he'll "bring her> straight home.:" He was one of the kids over here> the other day hanging out in the hot tub and> watching movies. She was "housebound" so they all> came to her.> > > > > > Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Please visit our website at:http://ACES_Autoimmune.tripod.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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