do nice moms trigger you?

[Guest guest]

My boss is a very nice woman. Perhaps in some ways she is a substitute

mother for me. She's about my nada's age, but she straightens my skirt,

takes an interest in my personal projects, we laugh together at jokes, play

gentle tricks on each other and celebrate each other's birthdays. That kind

of thing. We've known each other for years, but worked together very closely

for 4 years.

So her daughter just finished college. She is emotionally a bit fragile,

probably depressed, anxious, probably needs some good meds and maybe a good

doctor or therapist. And of course she resists treatment wanting to go the

natual route. The daughter moved home with her parents about 2 weeks ago.

And then yesterday she was not feeling well so my boss ran out of the office

to go to her daughter and take her to the hospital and get everything

checked out. Then she took the next day off to spend with her daughter - who

is in her early 20s.

Would this trigger anyone else? I am oscillating between feelings of

jealousy (I spent some time in the hospital at that age due to surgeries,

severe migraines etc, and I always made sure Nada didn't know about it until

I was fully recovered, and of course she still lashed out at me every single

time) and then other times I think her daughter is a wimp for needing her

mom at her age (which I think is a fada thing, according to my dad, we were

all wimps and needed to learn to be independent- and I was by the time I was

about 7, taking care of everyone else by 10 or 12).

And the whole thing just triggers me. Plus I'm already triggering still

because of my stalking situation last week.Ahhh brain - stop!

Thoughts?

xoxo, GS