Re: not that its all about fashion. .. but

[Guest guest]

my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to push

this off on her daughters !

Jackie

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary

> from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head

> like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since

> Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

[Guest guest]

my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to push

this off on her daughters !

Jackie

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary

> from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head

> like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since

> Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

[Guest guest]

my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to push

this off on her daughters !

Jackie

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary

> from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head

> like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since

> Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

[Guest guest]

Mine dresses like Punky Brewster..or Rainbow bright.If anyone remebers them

As many bright colors as she can..print mixed with other prints...and bright

red goes with everything:)

>

>

> my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

> prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to

> push

> this off on her daughters !

>

> Jackie

>

>

> > Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary

> > from

> > year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that

> they

> > don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I

> know

> > who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head

> > like

> > a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since

> > Shirley

> > Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> > overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> > overall dresses to wear to church. "

> >

> > One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> > just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> > problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mine dresses like Punky Brewster..or Rainbow bright.If anyone remebers them

As many bright colors as she can..print mixed with other prints...and bright

red goes with everything:)

>

>

> my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

> prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to

> push

> this off on her daughters !

>

> Jackie

>

>

> > Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary

> > from

> > year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that

> they

> > don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I

> know

> > who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head

> > like

> > a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since

> > Shirley

> > Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> > overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> > overall dresses to wear to church. "

> >

> > One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> > just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> > problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mine dresses like Punky Brewster..or Rainbow bright.If anyone remebers them

As many bright colors as she can..print mixed with other prints...and bright

red goes with everything:)

>

>

> my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

> prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to

> push

> this off on her daughters !

>

> Jackie

>

>

> > Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary

> > from

> > year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that

> they

> > don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I

> know

> > who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head

> > like

> > a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since

> > Shirley

> > Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> > overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> > overall dresses to wear to church. "

> >

> > One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> > just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> > problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Ohyes. My nada was an attractive woman, but had a horrible sense of fashion and

decorating. My sister and I say she could make anything tacky. She wore

polyester pantsuits from the mid 70s well into the 80's. When I said anything

about it, as a young teenager, she seemed to take joy in digging in her heels

and embarassing me. For me, there's a lot of shame related to nada that is a

big part of my baggage. Why I had to move away, etc. Besides her mode of dress,

there are the vehicles she would either paint or embellish with bumper stickers,

the ridiculous letters the editor, etc. Lots of embarassment/shame.

Joanna

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can't say mine had a weird way of dressing but she was inappropriate at times.

She liked to dress in real short dresses and high heels when she was in her

40's. That seemed a bit off to me since she was dressing like a sexy teeny

bopper. Maybe I'm just too conservative. I've seen the occasional show on TV

where a young woman is complaining about her older Mom dressing too sexy. I'm

not sure where to draw the line. But I didn't even dress like that when I was a

teenager. Plus she would flirt with men all the time even if she was married at

the time.

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can't say mine had a weird way of dressing but she was inappropriate at times.

She liked to dress in real short dresses and high heels when she was in her

40's. That seemed a bit off to me since she was dressing like a sexy teeny

bopper. Maybe I'm just too conservative. I've seen the occasional show on TV

where a young woman is complaining about her older Mom dressing too sexy. I'm

not sure where to draw the line. But I didn't even dress like that when I was a

teenager. Plus she would flirt with men all the time even if she was married at

the time.

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can't say mine had a weird way of dressing but she was inappropriate at times.

She liked to dress in real short dresses and high heels when she was in her

40's. That seemed a bit off to me since she was dressing like a sexy teeny

bopper. Maybe I'm just too conservative. I've seen the occasional show on TV

where a young woman is complaining about her older Mom dressing too sexy. I'm

not sure where to draw the line. But I didn't even dress like that when I was a

teenager. Plus she would flirt with men all the time even if she was married at

the time.

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Jackie,

My nada has always dressed tastefully and conservatively but she tended to be

domineering and controlling about how Sister and I dressed also. Nada often

wanted Sister and/or me to dress like her and would buy us clothing in her taste

and style instead of age-appropriate clothing in our individual tastes and

styles.

Nada even (still!) will from time to time push me to dress exactly the same as

her as though we are twins, which I never could stand to do and which she will

still push for (even though we are rarely in contact now and even though I've

made it clear each time that I am not interested in doing that.

I think nada chooses not to " hear " things she doesn't want to hear, as though

she is a spoiled 2-year-old who repeatedly demands ice cream before dinner even

though she's been told " no " over and over: a behavior that I find only mildly

annoying coming from a real 2-year-old but incredibly irritating when coming

from an adult.

-Annie

>

> my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

> prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to push

> this off on her daughters !

>

> Jackie

[Guest guest]

Hi Jackie,

My nada has always dressed tastefully and conservatively but she tended to be

domineering and controlling about how Sister and I dressed also. Nada often

wanted Sister and/or me to dress like her and would buy us clothing in her taste

and style instead of age-appropriate clothing in our individual tastes and

styles.

Nada even (still!) will from time to time push me to dress exactly the same as

her as though we are twins, which I never could stand to do and which she will

still push for (even though we are rarely in contact now and even though I've

made it clear each time that I am not interested in doing that.

I think nada chooses not to " hear " things she doesn't want to hear, as though

she is a spoiled 2-year-old who repeatedly demands ice cream before dinner even

though she's been told " no " over and over: a behavior that I find only mildly

annoying coming from a real 2-year-old but incredibly irritating when coming

from an adult.

-Annie

>

> my nada always wears extremely bright, loud clothing, with loud

> prints...almost to the point of being tasteless, and of course tries to push

> this off on her daughters !

>

> Jackie

[Guest guest]

Hi Annie, yes, nada has gotten me and my sisters clothing that SHE would

like, not something any of us would ever wear !! and usually I get " old

lady " stuff even when I was still in my 20's and 30's...she once got me an

old lady sweater and had someone paint it ( with fabric paints) a bright

purple and pink and had sequins and glitter all over it !!! NOT me !! when

I showed it to my sister in law, she said it looked just like something nada

would love..and asked how did I ever find it, then I told her nada sent it

to me for my birthday !! it was a button up sweater with a pocket on each

side and ribbed collar ,cuffs and hem...

Jackie

> Hi Jackie,

>

> My nada has always dressed tastefully and conservatively but she tended to

> be domineering and controlling about how Sister and I dressed also. Nada

> often wanted Sister and/or me to dress like her and would buy us clothing

> in her taste and style instead of age-appropriate clothing in our

> individual tastes and styles.

>

> Nada even (still!) will from time to time push me to dress exactly the

> same as her as though we are twins, which I never could stand to do and

> which she will still push for (even though we are rarely in contact now

> and even though I've made it clear each time that I am not interested in

> doing that.

>

> I think nada chooses not to " hear " things she doesn't want to hear, as

> though she is a spoiled 2-year-old who repeatedly demands ice cream before

> dinner even though she's been told " no " over and over: a behavior that I

> find only mildly annoying coming from a real 2-year-old but incredibly

> irritating when coming from an adult.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Annie, yes, nada has gotten me and my sisters clothing that SHE would

like, not something any of us would ever wear !! and usually I get " old

lady " stuff even when I was still in my 20's and 30's...she once got me an

old lady sweater and had someone paint it ( with fabric paints) a bright

purple and pink and had sequins and glitter all over it !!! NOT me !! when

I showed it to my sister in law, she said it looked just like something nada

would love..and asked how did I ever find it, then I told her nada sent it

to me for my birthday !! it was a button up sweater with a pocket on each

side and ribbed collar ,cuffs and hem...

Jackie

> Hi Jackie,

>

> My nada has always dressed tastefully and conservatively but she tended to

> be domineering and controlling about how Sister and I dressed also. Nada

> often wanted Sister and/or me to dress like her and would buy us clothing

> in her taste and style instead of age-appropriate clothing in our

> individual tastes and styles.

>

> Nada even (still!) will from time to time push me to dress exactly the

> same as her as though we are twins, which I never could stand to do and

> which she will still push for (even though we are rarely in contact now

> and even though I've made it clear each time that I am not interested in

> doing that.

>

> I think nada chooses not to " hear " things she doesn't want to hear, as

> though she is a spoiled 2-year-old who repeatedly demands ice cream before

> dinner even though she's been told " no " over and over: a behavior that I

> find only mildly annoying coming from a real 2-year-old but incredibly

> irritating when coming from an adult.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Yeppers!

From the " Christian Pot Luck " outfits to the " hippie wear " to the " overtly

sexified mini's " to the " pre-school teacher " sweatshirts with matching pants and

matching Keds " to the " yoga pants/workout era " to the " overalls and demin'

phase... I've seen it all. She was always dressing in a 'role'... a costume of

such as if she was trying to define who she was externally - outside in -

instead of expressing who she was - inside out. I expect teens to do this...

she never outgrew it.

Her closets were/are always huge...filled with personalities of people she

wanted to be... it was always a strage experience... she could go through the

above listed personas ... in about a week.

Lynnette

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yeppers!

From the " Christian Pot Luck " outfits to the " hippie wear " to the " overtly

sexified mini's " to the " pre-school teacher " sweatshirts with matching pants and

matching Keds " to the " yoga pants/workout era " to the " overalls and demin'

phase... I've seen it all. She was always dressing in a 'role'... a costume of

such as if she was trying to define who she was externally - outside in -

instead of expressing who she was - inside out. I expect teens to do this...

she never outgrew it.

Her closets were/are always huge...filled with personalities of people she

wanted to be... it was always a strage experience... she could go through the

above listed personas ... in about a week.

Lynnette

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mine always looks like a cross between a bag lady and a 2-year old who dressed

herself.

She often forgets/doesn't bother to comb her hair and walks around like that all

day. Dare I mention her glasses that are falling down her nose and completely

covered in crap?

Once, when a woman flirted with my father, she decided to have " stunningly

glamorous " picture (add a sigh of amazement for effect) taken of herself looking

really gorgeous. She had it all worked out--if someone flirted with my father,

he would show the hussy this gorgeous photo of his movie-star wife, and the

hussy would run away scared.

To get this glamourous shot taken, she dressed up like normal, didn't put on any

makeup, and went to Walmart's photo department.

Later, when I asked about the photo, she slumped in disappointment. " It didn't

come out glamorous, like I wanted it to. "

Kind of a disconnect there, no?

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mine always looks like a cross between a bag lady and a 2-year old who dressed

herself.

She often forgets/doesn't bother to comb her hair and walks around like that all

day. Dare I mention her glasses that are falling down her nose and completely

covered in crap?

Once, when a woman flirted with my father, she decided to have " stunningly

glamorous " picture (add a sigh of amazement for effect) taken of herself looking

really gorgeous. She had it all worked out--if someone flirted with my father,

he would show the hussy this gorgeous photo of his movie-star wife, and the

hussy would run away scared.

To get this glamourous shot taken, she dressed up like normal, didn't put on any

makeup, and went to Walmart's photo department.

Later, when I asked about the photo, she slumped in disappointment. " It didn't

come out glamorous, like I wanted it to. "

Kind of a disconnect there, no?

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mine always looks like a cross between a bag lady and a 2-year old who dressed

herself.

She often forgets/doesn't bother to comb her hair and walks around like that all

day. Dare I mention her glasses that are falling down her nose and completely

covered in crap?

Once, when a woman flirted with my father, she decided to have " stunningly

glamorous " picture (add a sigh of amazement for effect) taken of herself looking

really gorgeous. She had it all worked out--if someone flirted with my father,

he would show the hussy this gorgeous photo of his movie-star wife, and the

hussy would run away scared.

To get this glamourous shot taken, she dressed up like normal, didn't put on any

makeup, and went to Walmart's photo department.

Later, when I asked about the photo, she slumped in disappointment. " It didn't

come out glamorous, like I wanted it to. "

Kind of a disconnect there, no?

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mine decided to become a " fashion designer " (read: spend hundreds/thousands of

dollars on expensive fabric for garish/outlandish designs, get fed up with

actually having to sew them, and send them away to be sewn up and returned then

claim them as her own handiwork). I didn't mind so much as long as I didn't have

to wear them, but she ALWAYS tried to get me to be her " model " so she could sell

them then be upset if they didn't fit right, or if I really didn't want to wear

them in public.

>

> Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> overall dresses to wear to church. "

>

> One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> problems.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Box:

Ouch.

> >

> > Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> > year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> > don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> > who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> > a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> > Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> > overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> > overall dresses to wear to church. "

> >

> > One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> > just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> > problems.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Box:

Ouch.

> >

> > Did anyone's nada have a real strange way of dressing? That would vary from

> > year to year. I just was rereading the basics and it reminded me that they

> > don't really have a sense of self. So for a couple of years it was " I know

> > who I am, I'm the lady who ties an ugly scrap of fabric around her head like

> > a ribbon every single day in a style that hasn't been popular since Shirley

> > Temple was 5 years old. " The next year it was " I know who I am, I'm the

> > overweight Mormon lady who wears overalls every where I go. I even have

> > overall dresses to wear to church. "

> >

> > One of the weirdo nada things. People would comment all the time, and i'm

> > just like, dude, it thats what she wants to wear, thats the least of my

> > problems.

> >

> >

> >