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Hi, Carla, and welcome to our group. What a great introductory post--and what a long journey it's been for you, starting as you did back when you were a child!

The challenges you mention are ones I have faced/am facing, too. I used to drink a lot of calories in lattes--without ever checking the calorie count, so wasn't even aware that's what I was doing--and it wasn't until I started IE that I realized they just didn't make me feel all that good afterwards. I had my first latte last week since April when I started IE in earnest, and I ended up getting the smallest size and barely being able to finish it. I used to use those instead of breakfast, telling myself I didn't have time for breakfast (and frankly I was never hungry in the morning because of how much I'd eaten at night), but now that I'm actually sitting down and having breakfast, I find the lattes have minimal appeal. I only used to drink them on the days when I worked in the office (two days/week), and one of those days my commute buddy still wants to stop at Starbucks, but I'm never hungry and also want to be able to enjoy my lunch break (I only eat lunch out on the days I work in the office), so the lattes just naturally started not sounding as good as they used to. I never felt like I was "being good" or depriving myself by not ordering one--instead I just plain didn't want one, even though the easiest thing would have been to go ahead and get one, because after all, I was there with my commute buddy.

Can't say I've got this perfect by a long shot--I still overeat nights after the long days in the office, unless I can get myself to realize that eating won't solve how tired I am, and just go to bed with a good book. But there's even some progress there. I also find, oddly, that I would *rather* do most of my eating earlier in the day now--I, who balked and could never follow Bob Greene's so-strict rule of not eating anything after 7:00 or 8:00. Now many evenings I prefer just have a cup of tea. So strange.

I look forward to hearing more from you. Welcome aboard! Lots of good support here.

Laurie

I'm new and this is my story.

Hello everyone,

My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

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Welcome ! Thanks for sharing your history!JodySent from my iPhone

Hello everyone,

My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

I grew up constantly in hospitals because of a heart problem I have, and was constantly attending dietician meetings. I was forced into following the low-fat everything diet that the medical community was pushing at the time. My brother, sister and father had the same condition as I did, so my mother was vigilant in controlling our diets with what I now realize were 'fake' foods.

Because of experimental medication in my childhood, I hit puberty quite late which made me develop a hateful view of my body. I was an adult in my mind but not physically caught up to my peers. When I finally did start to develop, it hurt when my younger, perfect, more beautiful sister beat me to the punch. I was always horrible at gym class and gave up on all my dance classes, sporting events. I ended up becoming quite obese as a child. The mantra I was taught was, 'eat as much healthy stuff as you like because it's healthy!'

My mother binged, even though I couldn't tell if she knew that's what it was. I don't know if she hid food because of us and not wanting us to eat it, or if it was because she was ashamed of her secret habit. At night she would make herself giant bowls of custard or she would consume all the marshmallows out of the Lucky Charms box. During the rest of the day she was very healthy and always made us nutritious meals, but alongside the binging she was constantly on one diet or another. My father didn't help matters as he made comments about women and their weight in front of me on a regular basis. In my mind, thin, starving and weak equalled woman.

My family was heavily religious and one day a woman came to our church talking about the Weigh Down Workshop. For those who aren't familiar with it, it's similar in principle to Intuitive Eating, but it features a major theme of turning to God when your emotional eating starts to emerge. I never did understand this diet and to this day think that your religion shouldn't be tied to your waistline. But it did give me a peek into the 'only when you're hungry, stop when you're full' mentality.

I started rebelling when I moved out and lived on my own during college. I loved eating and went through a phase of having all the things I was never allowed to before. I baked banana bread for my dorm, I watched Nigella Lawson make brownies and then made them with her. I ate real butter and whole milk lattes. It was brilliant. The funny thing about that period is that I lost a lot of weight. I wasn't eating healthfully, but I was enjoying food and not eating diet food to compensate for what I really wanted. Too bad I didn't figure out Intuitive Eating around this time. As college went on, I developed severe depression and for years after this was in a dark slump that I couldn't kick. I quickly shot up to my highest weight of 195lbs (I'm 5'7'').

After college, I joined Weight Watchers with a colleague, and over the course of a year lost close to 50 pounds. It was such hard work and it reminded me a lot of my restrictive childhood. I was pointing and still keeping that mentality of 'eat as much healthy food as you like because it's healthy'. But I would have terrible cravings for things I didn't even like because I was putting everything out of sight, out of mind. Once I lost all that weight the attention was flattering and it made me feel amazing. However, it wasn't to be. I remember being in Scotland and not being able to eat anything and crying in a food court to my fiance. He couldn't get why the act of eating should be that upsetting. But there was nothing within my points allowance in that country (haha!) I gained all of the weight back and went back into depression mode - I felt like a complete failure with no control over my own body.

It was only when I moved to Europe that I realized how people eat great, rich food, but in smaller portions. They love food, enjoy it and only eat enough to satisfy them. I still couldn't wrap my head around this but I started to think in my head that diets were never going to work. There's a part in the book Intuitive Eating (it may have been another book) where the author talks about your personal value system and the value system of the diet you are following. I never believed in restriction, deprivation or starvation. I never thought we were put on this earth to resist all the great things around us. And that's why diets weren't for me. They wanted me to be something I wasn't.

After I read Intuitive Eating, it opened my eyes. Right away I started feeling better about myself. I didn't call myself fat in the mirror anymore. I stopped complaining to my fiance about my appearance. I didn't think I had every gastrointestinal condition in the book when I realized the bloating was from stuffing myself. I threw out all the clothing that was too uncomfortable but would fit 'one day'. And I started eating whatever I wanted. And it's true, you learn that cookies for dinner or hamburgers for breakfast aren't as good in reality as they are in your mind. Now it's salads full of rich carbohydrates, vegetables and protein. Sandwiches on thick bread with real ingredients. Pasta. Anything. And I don't give any one food group a hard time. Guilt doesn't belong in the kitchen.

The one thing I've had a hard time overcoming is the 'will this actually work' questioning. I need to lose the idea that there is always another diet if this lifestyle fails. I need to throw out my scales because they are determining my emotions. It's just very hard to gauge things on how you 'feel.' I hardly exercise and am not motivated at all to start. I'm an unconscious eater that often eats while doing something else. And I'm known to drink a lot of my calories because I'm so busy (lattes). This prevents me from feeling my hunger. These are my weaknesses.

I never had control over my food choices in the past and now I do. That is empowering. I want to give the book Intuitive Eating to everyone I see struggling with food and diets because I want them to have the hope I feel. I just hope it lasts.

Thanks for listening and welcoming me to your community.

Carla

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Welcome ! Thanks for sharing your history!JodySent from my iPhone

Hello everyone,

My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

I grew up constantly in hospitals because of a heart problem I have, and was constantly attending dietician meetings. I was forced into following the low-fat everything diet that the medical community was pushing at the time. My brother, sister and father had the same condition as I did, so my mother was vigilant in controlling our diets with what I now realize were 'fake' foods.

Because of experimental medication in my childhood, I hit puberty quite late which made me develop a hateful view of my body. I was an adult in my mind but not physically caught up to my peers. When I finally did start to develop, it hurt when my younger, perfect, more beautiful sister beat me to the punch. I was always horrible at gym class and gave up on all my dance classes, sporting events. I ended up becoming quite obese as a child. The mantra I was taught was, 'eat as much healthy stuff as you like because it's healthy!'

My mother binged, even though I couldn't tell if she knew that's what it was. I don't know if she hid food because of us and not wanting us to eat it, or if it was because she was ashamed of her secret habit. At night she would make herself giant bowls of custard or she would consume all the marshmallows out of the Lucky Charms box. During the rest of the day she was very healthy and always made us nutritious meals, but alongside the binging she was constantly on one diet or another. My father didn't help matters as he made comments about women and their weight in front of me on a regular basis. In my mind, thin, starving and weak equalled woman.

My family was heavily religious and one day a woman came to our church talking about the Weigh Down Workshop. For those who aren't familiar with it, it's similar in principle to Intuitive Eating, but it features a major theme of turning to God when your emotional eating starts to emerge. I never did understand this diet and to this day think that your religion shouldn't be tied to your waistline. But it did give me a peek into the 'only when you're hungry, stop when you're full' mentality.

I started rebelling when I moved out and lived on my own during college. I loved eating and went through a phase of having all the things I was never allowed to before. I baked banana bread for my dorm, I watched Nigella Lawson make brownies and then made them with her. I ate real butter and whole milk lattes. It was brilliant. The funny thing about that period is that I lost a lot of weight. I wasn't eating healthfully, but I was enjoying food and not eating diet food to compensate for what I really wanted. Too bad I didn't figure out Intuitive Eating around this time. As college went on, I developed severe depression and for years after this was in a dark slump that I couldn't kick. I quickly shot up to my highest weight of 195lbs (I'm 5'7'').

After college, I joined Weight Watchers with a colleague, and over the course of a year lost close to 50 pounds. It was such hard work and it reminded me a lot of my restrictive childhood. I was pointing and still keeping that mentality of 'eat as much healthy food as you like because it's healthy'. But I would have terrible cravings for things I didn't even like because I was putting everything out of sight, out of mind. Once I lost all that weight the attention was flattering and it made me feel amazing. However, it wasn't to be. I remember being in Scotland and not being able to eat anything and crying in a food court to my fiance. He couldn't get why the act of eating should be that upsetting. But there was nothing within my points allowance in that country (haha!) I gained all of the weight back and went back into depression mode - I felt like a complete failure with no control over my own body.

It was only when I moved to Europe that I realized how people eat great, rich food, but in smaller portions. They love food, enjoy it and only eat enough to satisfy them. I still couldn't wrap my head around this but I started to think in my head that diets were never going to work. There's a part in the book Intuitive Eating (it may have been another book) where the author talks about your personal value system and the value system of the diet you are following. I never believed in restriction, deprivation or starvation. I never thought we were put on this earth to resist all the great things around us. And that's why diets weren't for me. They wanted me to be something I wasn't.

After I read Intuitive Eating, it opened my eyes. Right away I started feeling better about myself. I didn't call myself fat in the mirror anymore. I stopped complaining to my fiance about my appearance. I didn't think I had every gastrointestinal condition in the book when I realized the bloating was from stuffing myself. I threw out all the clothing that was too uncomfortable but would fit 'one day'. And I started eating whatever I wanted. And it's true, you learn that cookies for dinner or hamburgers for breakfast aren't as good in reality as they are in your mind. Now it's salads full of rich carbohydrates, vegetables and protein. Sandwiches on thick bread with real ingredients. Pasta. Anything. And I don't give any one food group a hard time. Guilt doesn't belong in the kitchen.

The one thing I've had a hard time overcoming is the 'will this actually work' questioning. I need to lose the idea that there is always another diet if this lifestyle fails. I need to throw out my scales because they are determining my emotions. It's just very hard to gauge things on how you 'feel.' I hardly exercise and am not motivated at all to start. I'm an unconscious eater that often eats while doing something else. And I'm known to drink a lot of my calories because I'm so busy (lattes). This prevents me from feeling my hunger. These are my weaknesses.

I never had control over my food choices in the past and now I do. That is empowering. I want to give the book Intuitive Eating to everyone I see struggling with food and diets because I want them to have the hope I feel. I just hope it lasts.

Thanks for listening and welcoming me to your community.

Carla

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Welcome ! Thanks for sharing your history!JodySent from my iPhone

Hello everyone,

My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

I grew up constantly in hospitals because of a heart problem I have, and was constantly attending dietician meetings. I was forced into following the low-fat everything diet that the medical community was pushing at the time. My brother, sister and father had the same condition as I did, so my mother was vigilant in controlling our diets with what I now realize were 'fake' foods.

Because of experimental medication in my childhood, I hit puberty quite late which made me develop a hateful view of my body. I was an adult in my mind but not physically caught up to my peers. When I finally did start to develop, it hurt when my younger, perfect, more beautiful sister beat me to the punch. I was always horrible at gym class and gave up on all my dance classes, sporting events. I ended up becoming quite obese as a child. The mantra I was taught was, 'eat as much healthy stuff as you like because it's healthy!'

My mother binged, even though I couldn't tell if she knew that's what it was. I don't know if she hid food because of us and not wanting us to eat it, or if it was because she was ashamed of her secret habit. At night she would make herself giant bowls of custard or she would consume all the marshmallows out of the Lucky Charms box. During the rest of the day she was very healthy and always made us nutritious meals, but alongside the binging she was constantly on one diet or another. My father didn't help matters as he made comments about women and their weight in front of me on a regular basis. In my mind, thin, starving and weak equalled woman.

My family was heavily religious and one day a woman came to our church talking about the Weigh Down Workshop. For those who aren't familiar with it, it's similar in principle to Intuitive Eating, but it features a major theme of turning to God when your emotional eating starts to emerge. I never did understand this diet and to this day think that your religion shouldn't be tied to your waistline. But it did give me a peek into the 'only when you're hungry, stop when you're full' mentality.

I started rebelling when I moved out and lived on my own during college. I loved eating and went through a phase of having all the things I was never allowed to before. I baked banana bread for my dorm, I watched Nigella Lawson make brownies and then made them with her. I ate real butter and whole milk lattes. It was brilliant. The funny thing about that period is that I lost a lot of weight. I wasn't eating healthfully, but I was enjoying food and not eating diet food to compensate for what I really wanted. Too bad I didn't figure out Intuitive Eating around this time. As college went on, I developed severe depression and for years after this was in a dark slump that I couldn't kick. I quickly shot up to my highest weight of 195lbs (I'm 5'7'').

After college, I joined Weight Watchers with a colleague, and over the course of a year lost close to 50 pounds. It was such hard work and it reminded me a lot of my restrictive childhood. I was pointing and still keeping that mentality of 'eat as much healthy food as you like because it's healthy'. But I would have terrible cravings for things I didn't even like because I was putting everything out of sight, out of mind. Once I lost all that weight the attention was flattering and it made me feel amazing. However, it wasn't to be. I remember being in Scotland and not being able to eat anything and crying in a food court to my fiance. He couldn't get why the act of eating should be that upsetting. But there was nothing within my points allowance in that country (haha!) I gained all of the weight back and went back into depression mode - I felt like a complete failure with no control over my own body.

It was only when I moved to Europe that I realized how people eat great, rich food, but in smaller portions. They love food, enjoy it and only eat enough to satisfy them. I still couldn't wrap my head around this but I started to think in my head that diets were never going to work. There's a part in the book Intuitive Eating (it may have been another book) where the author talks about your personal value system and the value system of the diet you are following. I never believed in restriction, deprivation or starvation. I never thought we were put on this earth to resist all the great things around us. And that's why diets weren't for me. They wanted me to be something I wasn't.

After I read Intuitive Eating, it opened my eyes. Right away I started feeling better about myself. I didn't call myself fat in the mirror anymore. I stopped complaining to my fiance about my appearance. I didn't think I had every gastrointestinal condition in the book when I realized the bloating was from stuffing myself. I threw out all the clothing that was too uncomfortable but would fit 'one day'. And I started eating whatever I wanted. And it's true, you learn that cookies for dinner or hamburgers for breakfast aren't as good in reality as they are in your mind. Now it's salads full of rich carbohydrates, vegetables and protein. Sandwiches on thick bread with real ingredients. Pasta. Anything. And I don't give any one food group a hard time. Guilt doesn't belong in the kitchen.

The one thing I've had a hard time overcoming is the 'will this actually work' questioning. I need to lose the idea that there is always another diet if this lifestyle fails. I need to throw out my scales because they are determining my emotions. It's just very hard to gauge things on how you 'feel.' I hardly exercise and am not motivated at all to start. I'm an unconscious eater that often eats while doing something else. And I'm known to drink a lot of my calories because I'm so busy (lattes). This prevents me from feeling my hunger. These are my weaknesses.

I never had control over my food choices in the past and now I do. That is empowering. I want to give the book Intuitive Eating to everyone I see struggling with food and diets because I want them to have the hope I feel. I just hope it lasts.

Thanks for listening and welcoming me to your community.

Carla

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Hi Carla,

Welcome to the group. Sounds like you have already made a lot of progress!

Looking forward to getting to know you better.

Josie

>

> Hello everyone,

>

> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Carla,

Welcome to the group. Sounds like you have already made a lot of progress!

Looking forward to getting to know you better.

Josie

>

> Hello everyone,

>

> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Carla,

Welcome to the group. Sounds like you have already made a lot of progress!

Looking forward to getting to know you better.

Josie

>

> Hello everyone,

>

> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

>

[Guest guest]

Carla,Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's always so interesting to hear others' personal journeys...You say something towards the end of your email about struggling with " will this actually work? "

What I want to say to you is: yes! It already IS working! You say, " Right away I started feeling better about myself. I didn't call myself fat in the mirror anymore. I stopped complaining to my fiance about my appearance. I didn't think I had every gastrointestinal condition in the book when I realized the bloating was from stuffing myself. I threw out all the clothing that was too uncomfortable but would fit 'one day'. And I started eating whatever I wanted. And it's true, you learn that cookies for dinner or hamburgers for breakfast aren't as good in reality as they are in your mind. Now it's salads full of rich carbohydrates, vegetables and protein. Sandwiches on thick bread with real ingredients. Pasta. Anything. And I don't give any one food group a hard time. Guilt doesn't belong in the kitchen. "

Carla, these are HUGE wins! This is the whole point of IE! It's not to lose weight, it's so much better than that, it's to make peace with yourself and to enjoy your life! To stop defining yourself by your weight... because you are SOOOO much more than your weight! Today! Regardless of your weight! Oh, and by the way, weight loss is often a happy side effect of the process. 

Oh, and by the way, look at how well this worked for you in college! Good luck, and feel good.Best,Abby

 

Hi Carla,

Welcome to the group. Sounds like you have already made a lot of progress! Looking forward to getting to know you better.

Josie

>

> Hello everyone,

>

> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

>

[Guest guest]

Carla,Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's always so interesting to hear others' personal journeys...You say something towards the end of your email about struggling with " will this actually work? "

What I want to say to you is: yes! It already IS working! You say, " Right away I started feeling better about myself. I didn't call myself fat in the mirror anymore. I stopped complaining to my fiance about my appearance. I didn't think I had every gastrointestinal condition in the book when I realized the bloating was from stuffing myself. I threw out all the clothing that was too uncomfortable but would fit 'one day'. And I started eating whatever I wanted. And it's true, you learn that cookies for dinner or hamburgers for breakfast aren't as good in reality as they are in your mind. Now it's salads full of rich carbohydrates, vegetables and protein. Sandwiches on thick bread with real ingredients. Pasta. Anything. And I don't give any one food group a hard time. Guilt doesn't belong in the kitchen. "

Carla, these are HUGE wins! This is the whole point of IE! It's not to lose weight, it's so much better than that, it's to make peace with yourself and to enjoy your life! To stop defining yourself by your weight... because you are SOOOO much more than your weight! Today! Regardless of your weight! Oh, and by the way, weight loss is often a happy side effect of the process. 

Oh, and by the way, look at how well this worked for you in college! Good luck, and feel good.Best,Abby

 

Hi Carla,

Welcome to the group. Sounds like you have already made a lot of progress! Looking forward to getting to know you better.

Josie

>

> Hello everyone,

>

> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

>

[Guest guest]

Carla,Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's always so interesting to hear others' personal journeys...You say something towards the end of your email about struggling with " will this actually work? "

What I want to say to you is: yes! It already IS working! You say, " Right away I started feeling better about myself. I didn't call myself fat in the mirror anymore. I stopped complaining to my fiance about my appearance. I didn't think I had every gastrointestinal condition in the book when I realized the bloating was from stuffing myself. I threw out all the clothing that was too uncomfortable but would fit 'one day'. And I started eating whatever I wanted. And it's true, you learn that cookies for dinner or hamburgers for breakfast aren't as good in reality as they are in your mind. Now it's salads full of rich carbohydrates, vegetables and protein. Sandwiches on thick bread with real ingredients. Pasta. Anything. And I don't give any one food group a hard time. Guilt doesn't belong in the kitchen. "

Carla, these are HUGE wins! This is the whole point of IE! It's not to lose weight, it's so much better than that, it's to make peace with yourself and to enjoy your life! To stop defining yourself by your weight... because you are SOOOO much more than your weight! Today! Regardless of your weight! Oh, and by the way, weight loss is often a happy side effect of the process. 

Oh, and by the way, look at how well this worked for you in college! Good luck, and feel good.Best,Abby

 

Hi Carla,

Welcome to the group. Sounds like you have already made a lot of progress! Looking forward to getting to know you better.

Josie

>

> Hello everyone,

>

> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Carla,

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Welcome to the group. I love it here

because there is always so much support. I often find myself coming here

instead of eating when I am not hungry. I just love how the web connects us all

without even having to leave the house.

So welcome & you are already on your way, girl.

mj

> > >

> > > Hello everyone,

> > >

> > > My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Carla,

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Welcome to the group. I love it here

because there is always so much support. I often find myself coming here

instead of eating when I am not hungry. I just love how the web connects us all

without even having to leave the house.

So welcome & you are already on your way, girl.

mj

> > >

> > > Hello everyone,

> > >

> > > My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Carla,

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Welcome to the group. I love it here

because there is always so much support. I often find myself coming here

instead of eating when I am not hungry. I just love how the web connects us all

without even having to leave the house.

So welcome & you are already on your way, girl.

mj

> > >

> > > Hello everyone,

> > >

> > > My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Abby,

I think in my head I am stuck in that 'weight loss is the end goal' mentality.

And I want for it to be so badly. I can't yet part with my scales and have a

wedding next year. I feel I need to lose so much weight because I can't stand

the thought of myself in photographs. I just came from my sister's wedding and I

felt I looked horrific. I want to be in shape and healthy and at a healthy

weight. I don't even want to be skinny, I just don't feel like I am at my

healthy best. I know exercise is part of the problem - I don't do it at the

moment. I work so much I find it hard to hand my free time over to working out.

C

> > >

> > > Hello everyone,

> > >

> > > My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Abby,

I think in my head I am stuck in that 'weight loss is the end goal' mentality.

And I want for it to be so badly. I can't yet part with my scales and have a

wedding next year. I feel I need to lose so much weight because I can't stand

the thought of myself in photographs. I just came from my sister's wedding and I

felt I looked horrific. I want to be in shape and healthy and at a healthy

weight. I don't even want to be skinny, I just don't feel like I am at my

healthy best. I know exercise is part of the problem - I don't do it at the

moment. I work so much I find it hard to hand my free time over to working out.

C

> > >

> > > Hello everyone,

> > >

> > > My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Abby,

I think in my head I am stuck in that 'weight loss is the end goal' mentality.

And I want for it to be so badly. I can't yet part with my scales and have a

wedding next year. I feel I need to lose so much weight because I can't stand

the thought of myself in photographs. I just came from my sister's wedding and I

felt I looked horrific. I want to be in shape and healthy and at a healthy

weight. I don't even want to be skinny, I just don't feel like I am at my

healthy best. I know exercise is part of the problem - I don't do it at the

moment. I work so much I find it hard to hand my free time over to working out.

C

> > >

> > > Hello everyone,

> > >

> > > My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Laurie,

Nice to meet you as well. I don't really know where 'drinks' fit in on the

Intuitive Eating plan. I basically eat when I am hungry and stop when I am full

(most of the time) but I don't know how drinks work into that. Do you have a

drink as part of a 'meal' and stop when you are full? Or does it fall under the

'taste' category and you can just have one whenever you like? I always get skim

milk instead of full fat, but only because I can't taste the difference (that

was in the Intuitive Eating book as ok) but I probably drink three a day. I find

that when I drink something to fill my hunger that I am soon hungry afterwards

and are just concerned I'm not getting enough 'real food' during the day.

Sometimes I worry I'm not eating enough! Or I'm drinking a lot of my calories in

order to keep myself awake for work. It completely exhausts me with the hours I

work.

You sound like you've been there, maybe you can shed some light.

Thanks in advance!

C

>

> Hi, Carla, and welcome to our group. What a great introductory post--and what

a long journey it's been for you, starting as you did back when you were a

child!

>

>

> The challenges you mention are ones I have faced/am facing, too. I used to

drink a lot of calories in lattes--without ever checking the calorie count, so

wasn't even aware that's what I was doing--and it wasn't until I started IE that

I realized they just didn't make me feel all that good afterwards. I had my

first latte last week since April when I started IE in earnest, and I ended up

getting the smallest size and barely being able to finish it. I used to use

those instead of breakfast, telling myself I didn't have time for breakfast (and

frankly I was never hungry in the morning because of how much I'd eaten at

night), but now that I'm actually sitting down and having breakfast, I find the

lattes have minimal appeal. I only used to drink them on the days when I worked

in the office (two days/week), and one of those days my commute buddy still

wants to stop at Starbucks, but I'm never hungry and also want to be able to

enjoy my lunch break (I only eat lunch out on the days I work in the office), so

the lattes just naturally started not sounding as good as they used to. I never

felt like I was " being good " or depriving myself by not ordering one--instead I

just plain didn't want one, even though the easiest thing would have been to go

ahead and get one, because after all, I was there with my commute buddy.

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> Can't say I've got this perfect by a long shot--I still overeat nights after

the long days in the office, unless I can get myself to realize that eating

won't solve how tired I am, and just go to bed with a good book. But there's

even some progress there. I also find, oddly, that I would *rather* do most of

my eating earlier in the day now--I, who balked and could never follow Bob

Greene's so-strict rule of not eating anything after 7:00 or 8:00. Now many

evenings I prefer just have a cup of tea. So strange.

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> I look forward to hearing more from you. Welcome aboard! Lots of good support

here.

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> My name is Carla and this is my first post. Here's a bit about me:

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