Re: Just when I thought Nada couldn't get worse

July 28, 2010

Change therapists and get a restraining order. You have a right to be concerned.

Tina

>

> I have been LC and NC for about a year. Nada sends texts saying we don't have

to get along, but she has every right to see and talk to my son (5). Nada just

got a family friend's 6 yr old to call my cell phone and ask for my 5 year old

son. Immediatley tuned in to the situation, I said my son was not there and

asked who asked him to call. Someone was telling him what to say, so I asked him

to let me talk to his mommy. She said we want your son to go to a waterpark 3

hours away on this week. Her voice was harsh and sarcastic. I asked who was

going and she said my nada and 2 flying monkies that have already been blocked

Now I have hit paranoia. I have checked the locks on the doors 3 times and

closed the blinds at the house. She sends one of these flying monkies to drive

past my house at least once a week. It makes me not want to play outside with

my son. Writing this has calmed me down tremendously. I have seen a therapist,

but the therapist tends to think I should not go NC. I don't think I can take

any more, but yet I still worry about her being lonely. I feel like I am going

crazy.

>

August 2, 2010

Totally agree, get a new therapist, start a police record to help u

get a restraining order, don't deal with her or her flying monkeys.

Let the cops deal w her. Hugs!!!

>

> How much experience does your therapist have with BPD and how it

> affects family members? If the answer to that is " not much " ,

> then I don't think your therapist's opinion on the matter is

> worth much. People who have no understanding of what it is like

> to deal with BPD on a daily basis generally can't begin to

> understand what it is like. Perhaps you need a new therapist

> with experience in the issues you're dealing with. Even if this

> one is a good therapist in general, no one therapist can be an

> expert in all situations.

>

> Having other people drive by your house to watch you isn't much

> different from doing it herself, and that's a form of stalking.

> Continuing to have contact with a stalker generally isn't a good

> idea. Using a young child the way she used that 6 year-old is

> disgusting and a sign of just how far she's willing to go. She's

> making you feel afraid in your own home. That sure sounds to me

> like time to go NC. Whether she's lonely or not is not your

> responsibility. If she's lonely without you, it will be because

> of the choices she's made in life. It sounds like she has

> multiple flying monkeys, so let them try to fill her loneliness.

>

> At 10:40 PM 07/27/2010 want2luvlife wrote:

>>I have been LC and NC for about a year. Nada sends texts saying

>>we don't have to get along, but she has every right to see and

>>talk to my son (5). Nada just got a family friend's 6 yr old

>>to call my cell phone and ask for my 5 year old

>>son. Immediatley tuned in to the situation, I said my son was

>>not there and asked who asked him to call. Someone was telling

>>him what to say, so I asked him to let me talk to his

>>mommy. She said we want your son to go to a waterpark 3 hours

>>away on this week. Her voice was harsh and sarcastic. I asked

>>who was going and she said my nada and 2 flying monkies that

>>have already been blocked Now I have hit paranoia. I have

>>checked the locks on the doors 3 times and closed the blinds at

>>the house. She sends one of these flying monkies to drive past

>>my house at least once a week. It makes me not want to play

>>outside with my son. Writing this has calmed me down

>>tremendously. I have seen a therapist, but the therapist tends

>>to think I should not go NC. I don't think I can take any

>>more, but yet I still worry about her being lonely. I feel

>>like I am going crazy.

>

> --

> Katrina

>

August 2, 2010