Guest guest Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 Turns out she has some kind of lung disease - can't tell from the third hand info, but she was already anorexic for several years after my father's death (he took care of her for 40+ years), and then was being treated with meds that were making her nauseous. Anyway, now she's hospitalized again and my sister is there, trying to reason with her about needing to go to a nursing home for rehab (if not just to die), and found out today that she's blown the $ my father left her 3 years ago, which could be used now for her care...Everything is so difficult. People make practical suggestions when you tell them about stuff like this, and it's so hard to explain that, no, that won't work with Nada... Joanna > > > > > > > > > > So lately I've been noticing over and over and over how often the plot of the NC child making up with the estranged parent and forgiving them their parenting failures is in movies/television. And of course it's fiction and they want a happy ending, so somehow it always works out and the parent is now not that bad or has reformed. It's presented as a sappy sweet glorious thing that the angry adult child drops their defenses and gives the not-a-parent an invitation back into their lives. > > > > > > > > > > And it pisses me off. Why is it so *not okay* to honestly represent the reality of so many people that sometimes parents are bad, sometimes estrangement happens for good reasons, and it's really okay not to forgive and forget? I also can't stand the thought of this theme out there encouraging my fada and various other nadas and fadas to continue to " hold out hope " and try to force contact with KO's of various kinds. > > > > > > > > > > Even now I feel some internalized corner of my mind brainwashed by society saying....oh that's awfully mean of me not to want people to hold out hope. GAH! > > > > > > > > > > This has been a rant...thank you for listening. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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