Re: Please help! Urgently need advice.

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the only advice I have is to love yourself curves & all & to be proud of the

fact that you are NOT buying into that billion dollar a year diet industry that

has caused us to be at war with our bodies, to " hide " who we really are, & to

shut ourselves up in our houses with mounds of food in order to avoid people

who's judgements don't mean a damn thing. Here is the thing, I am not a good

housekeeper & my mom & sister are immaculate. I used to run around getting

everything cleaned up if I knew my mom would be dropping over, which was fairly

often since she lived right next door. THEN, one day I realized, hey Mom is

coming to see me, not my house. I relaxed & we had an awesome visit. I realized

that whatever she thought of my messy house was her business & how I lived was

mine. That one decision TRANSFORMED our entire relationship. We became relaxed

around each other & had a great time together. I think it has to do with being

'authentic' with who we are & not 'hiding' anything by 'running away' or

disguising ourselves (Geneen calls this 'bolting').

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> Hi all,

> Hope all is well... I've been doing so well lately and really focusing on

taking care of my mind and body. I haven't binged in a while and just being a

lot more present and really settling into IE. However, I still have not lost

any weight. In fact, I think I have gained some as I've been listening to my

body and taking it easy on my workouts and doing things that I feel like doing

and not being as rigorous as before - I used to really torture myself.

> This all truly means progress in my mind, HUGE progress, but I'm supposed to

see my boyfriend's family tomorrow and I'm just feeling so self conscious all of

a sudden and feeling so embarrassed! None of my clothes are fitting and I even

went shopping today and couldn't find anything that I liked in my new size 16 -

the last time they saw me, I was a wonderful size 10. I'm supposed to drive

down there in the morning and really just want to curl up in bed and not go at

all.

> I know I'm beautiful and he loves all my curves and loves me the way I am, and

I'm hope his family will too, but I don't want them to see me when I'm feeling

so self conscious.

> I have an outfit put together, but I just don't feel good in my body right

now. PLEASE help!!!

> I'm supposed to see them again over Thanksgiving... would be such a bad idea

to cancel tomorrow and give myself another two weeks? I'm worried this pressure

is going to make me start binging again. I know its pressure that I'm putting

on myself, but I can't help it. If you have any advice, I would really really

appreciate it!!

> Thanks so much!

> Mali

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