Re: Re: music, movies, books

[Guest guest]

Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men

ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my

nada many times.

See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one

said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too.

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 5:49 PM, josephinebl67 wrote:

>

>

> good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great

> idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny.

> Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a

> diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that

> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> >

> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

> the

> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> >

> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

> the

> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I

> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

> of

> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> >

> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you.

> > XOXO Girlscout

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men

ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my

nada many times.

See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one

said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too.

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 5:49 PM, josephinebl67 wrote:

>

>

> good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great

> idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny.

> Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a

> diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that

> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> >

> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

> the

> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> >

> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

> the

> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I

> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

> of

> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> >

> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you.

> > XOXO Girlscout

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men

ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my

nada many times.

See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one

said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too.

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 5:49 PM, josephinebl67 wrote:

>

>

> good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great

> idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny.

> Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a

> diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that

> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> >

> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

> the

> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> >

> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

> the

> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I

> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

> of

> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> >

> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you.

> > XOXO Girlscout

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Kay guys, here is my theme song. Just like the song to Great American Hero,

right? When I have to put on my big girl pants, and call the cops or

whatever, this is the song I sing to myself.

http://mog.com/music/Ani_DiFranco/To_the_Teeth/Freakshow

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 6:35 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

> Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men

> ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my

> nada many times.

>

> See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one

> said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too.

>

> On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 5:49 PM, josephinebl67 <

> josephinebl67@yahooKaycom> wrote:

>

>>

>>

>> good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great

>> idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny.

>> Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a

>> diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive.

>>

>>

>>

>> >

>> > Hey Guys,

>> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

>> your

>> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything

>> that

>> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

>> monkey

>> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

>> metaphor

>> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

>> >

>> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

>> goodbye

>> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

>> the

>> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

>> show. "

>> >

>> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

>> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

>> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

>> rough,

>> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

>> the

>> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

>> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this.

>> I

>> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

>> of

>> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

>> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

>> >

>> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps

>> you.

>> > XOXO Girlscout

>> >

>> >

>> >

[Guest guest]

Kay guys, here is my theme song. Just like the song to Great American Hero,

right? When I have to put on my big girl pants, and call the cops or

whatever, this is the song I sing to myself.

http://mog.com/music/Ani_DiFranco/To_the_Teeth/Freakshow

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 6:35 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

> Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men

> ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my

> nada many times.

>

> See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one

> said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too.

>

> On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 5:49 PM, josephinebl67 <

> josephinebl67@yahooKaycom> wrote:

>

>>

>>

>> good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great

>> idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny.

>> Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a

>> diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive.

>>

>>

>>

>> >

>> > Hey Guys,

>> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

>> your

>> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything

>> that

>> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

>> monkey

>> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

>> metaphor

>> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

>> >

>> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

>> goodbye

>> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

>> the

>> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

>> show. "

>> >

>> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

>> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

>> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

>> rough,

>> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

>> the

>> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

>> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this.

>> I

>> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

>> of

>> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

>> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

>> >

>> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps

>> you.

>> > XOXO Girlscout

>> >

>> >

>> >

[Guest guest]

Here's another one - the metaphore is that I'm just a regular guy, turned

into a super hero by surviving BPD. Plus its a way fun memory, brings you

out of feeling sad. I guess these are kind of some mind tricks I do on

myself to feel better. Wow.. Hugs everyone! Good night.

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 10:24 PM, kyjohnson40days <kyjohnson40days@...

> wrote:

>

>

> I always think of nada (highly functional) as birthday cake. Great fun on a

> rare occasion. Sheer poison if you have it every day.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that

> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> >

> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

> the

> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> >

> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

> the

> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I

> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

> of

> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> >

> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you.

> > XOXO Girlscout

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Here's another one - the metaphore is that I'm just a regular guy, turned

into a super hero by surviving BPD. Plus its a way fun memory, brings you

out of feeling sad. I guess these are kind of some mind tricks I do on

myself to feel better. Wow.. Hugs everyone! Good night.

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 10:24 PM, kyjohnson40days <kyjohnson40days@...

> wrote:

>

>

> I always think of nada (highly functional) as birthday cake. Great fun on a

> rare occasion. Sheer poison if you have it every day.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that

> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> >

> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

> the

> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> >

> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

> the

> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I

> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

> of

> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> >

> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you.

> > XOXO Girlscout

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Here's another one - the metaphore is that I'm just a regular guy, turned

into a super hero by surviving BPD. Plus its a way fun memory, brings you

out of feeling sad. I guess these are kind of some mind tricks I do on

myself to feel better. Wow.. Hugs everyone! Good night.

On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 10:24 PM, kyjohnson40days <kyjohnson40days@...

> wrote:

>

>

> I always think of nada (highly functional) as birthday cake. Great fun on a

> rare occasion. Sheer poison if you have it every day.

>

>

>

> >

> > Hey Guys,

> > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that

> > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> >

> > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told

> the

> > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> >

> > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great

> > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that

> > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from

> the

> > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple

> > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I

> > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest

> of

> > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist?

> > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> >

> > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you.

> > XOXO Girlscout

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Ha ha, you guys rock!!! I'm gonna go watch Water Boy again!

So another pop culture reference that occurs to me - lately I'm struggling

more with not having the support of my best friends. They just don't get it.

And seriously, like how far do you go and how many stories do you tell? So

it occurs to me that maybe these friends aren't on my side because they grew

up watching the Brady Bunch and they think that is how families behave.

Ha ha, we should remake the Brady Bunch as the BPD Bunch and use it as an

instructional video.

On Sat, Jul 31, 2010 at 8:37 AM, shirleyspawn wrote:

>

>

> Manque - OMG, every time I find myself becoming overcontrolling or hovering

> to my teenaged son, one or the other of us will say, " Come back in Mama's

> bedroom and let me brush your hair " like Kathy Bates in The Waterboy. She

> was priceless. And the whole fake-coma thing was SO my Nada!

>

>

>

>

> > > >

> > > > Hey Guys,

> > > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help

> lighten your

> > > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything

> that

> > > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > > > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> > > >

> > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I

> told the

> > > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> > > >

> > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its

> great

> > > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show

> that

> > > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire

> from the

> > > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those

> simple

> > > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle

> this. I

> > > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the

> rest of

> > > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A

> contortionist?

> > > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> > > >

> > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps

> you.

> > > > XOXO Girlscout

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Ha ha, you guys rock!!! I'm gonna go watch Water Boy again!

So another pop culture reference that occurs to me - lately I'm struggling

more with not having the support of my best friends. They just don't get it.

And seriously, like how far do you go and how many stories do you tell? So

it occurs to me that maybe these friends aren't on my side because they grew

up watching the Brady Bunch and they think that is how families behave.

Ha ha, we should remake the Brady Bunch as the BPD Bunch and use it as an

instructional video.

On Sat, Jul 31, 2010 at 8:37 AM, shirleyspawn wrote:

>

>

> Manque - OMG, every time I find myself becoming overcontrolling or hovering

> to my teenaged son, one or the other of us will say, " Come back in Mama's

> bedroom and let me brush your hair " like Kathy Bates in The Waterboy. She

> was priceless. And the whole fake-coma thing was SO my Nada!

>

>

>

>

> > > >

> > > > Hey Guys,

> > > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help

> lighten your

> > > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything

> that

> > > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > > > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> > > >

> > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I

> told the

> > > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> > > >

> > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its

> great

> > > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show

> that

> > > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire

> from the

> > > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those

> simple

> > > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle

> this. I

> > > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the

> rest of

> > > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A

> contortionist?

> > > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> > > >

> > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps

> you.

> > > > XOXO Girlscout

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Ha ha, you guys rock!!! I'm gonna go watch Water Boy again!

So another pop culture reference that occurs to me - lately I'm struggling

more with not having the support of my best friends. They just don't get it.

And seriously, like how far do you go and how many stories do you tell? So

it occurs to me that maybe these friends aren't on my side because they grew

up watching the Brady Bunch and they think that is how families behave.

Ha ha, we should remake the Brady Bunch as the BPD Bunch and use it as an

instructional video.

On Sat, Jul 31, 2010 at 8:37 AM, shirleyspawn wrote:

>

>

> Manque - OMG, every time I find myself becoming overcontrolling or hovering

> to my teenaged son, one or the other of us will say, " Come back in Mama's

> bedroom and let me brush your hair " like Kathy Bates in The Waterboy. She

> was priceless. And the whole fake-coma thing was SO my Nada!

>

>

>

>

> > > >

> > > > Hey Guys,

> > > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help

> lighten your

> > > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything

> that

> > > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying

> monkey

> > > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a

> metaphor

> > > > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> > > >

> > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying

> goodbye

> > > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I

> told the

> > > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak

> show. "

> > > >

> > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its

> great

> > > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show

> that

> > > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets

> rough,

> > > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire

> from the

> > > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those

> simple

> > > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle

> this. I

> > > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the

> rest of

> > > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A

> contortionist?

> > > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> > > >

> > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps

> you.

> > > > XOXO Girlscout

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Oh awesome, we might just have to express that in a painting or poem. Armed

Mental Party, that even gives me ideas for drink recipes. Its not the Arnold

Palmer, its the Armed Mental Party!!!

>

>

> " I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten

> your

> > > load? "

>

> This one keeps making me laugh.

>

> I am trying to write a novel with BPD characters, and I'm at the stage

> where it's time to clean up the opening and put in real stuff that I didn't

> have time to research before, such as police radio dialogue.

>

> My story has a BP threatening suicide with a gun, and I had to ask how that

> would come over across the police radio. My cop answered back with this

> line:

>

> " Unit 125, respond to 1710 Stockton in reference to an armed mental party. "

>

> That line is just priceless. So now, after a short prologue, you will turn

> to Chapter One and read its title: " Armed Mental Party. "

>

> I mean, is that the greatest description of BPD you've ever read???

>

> *falling over laughing*

>

> --.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I usually use the phrase " bat shit crazy " . Don't know why it makes me giggle,

but it does...I rarely, if ever, use profanity but that one always works for me.

And I *do* use the Mommie Dearest reference...particularly if I get confronted

with someone trying to make sense of nada and/or trying to get me to break NC.

I just say " You know, when I was a little girl I saw Mommie Dearest and I was

baffled as to why they portrayed my mother as a movie star when she was a

housewife. "

Ninera

>

> >

> >

> > good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to

> anything funny. Great

> > idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make

> my NPD fada funny.

> > Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my

> mother sometimes in a

> > diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so

> passive.

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > > Hey Guys,

> > > I think we've talked about this before, but what

> metaphors help lighten

> > your

> > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with

> the FOO to anything that

> > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say

> something about " the flying

> > monkey

> > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just

> helps to have a

> > metaphor

> > > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> > >

> > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back

> when I started saying

> > goodbye

> > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old,

> and dating a guy. I told

> > the

> > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow,

> sounds like a total freak

> > show. "

> > >

> > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra

> for coping. And its great

> > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco

> called Freak Show that

> > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So

> when the going gets

> > rough,

> > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that

> all I did is retire from

> > the

> > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking

> about it in those simple

> > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and

> like I can handle this. I

> > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to

> work there for the rest

> > of

> > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic

> dancer? A contortionist?

> > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> > >

> > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song

> and see if it helps you.

> > > XOXO Girlscout

> > >

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> > >

> >

> > 

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I usually use the phrase " bat shit crazy " . Don't know why it makes me giggle,

but it does...I rarely, if ever, use profanity but that one always works for me.

And I *do* use the Mommie Dearest reference...particularly if I get confronted

with someone trying to make sense of nada and/or trying to get me to break NC.

I just say " You know, when I was a little girl I saw Mommie Dearest and I was

baffled as to why they portrayed my mother as a movie star when she was a

housewife. "

Ninera

>

> >

> >

> > good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to

> anything funny. Great

> > idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make

> my NPD fada funny.

> > Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my

> mother sometimes in a

> > diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so

> passive.

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > > Hey Guys,

> > > I think we've talked about this before, but what

> metaphors help lighten

> > your

> > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with

> the FOO to anything that

> > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say

> something about " the flying

> > monkey

> > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just

> helps to have a

> > metaphor

> > > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> > >

> > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back

> when I started saying

> > goodbye

> > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old,

> and dating a guy. I told

> > the

> > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow,

> sounds like a total freak

> > show. "

> > >

> > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra

> for coping. And its great

> > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco

> called Freak Show that

> > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So

> when the going gets

> > rough,

> > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that

> all I did is retire from

> > the

> > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking

> about it in those simple

> > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and

> like I can handle this. I

> > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to

> work there for the rest

> > of

> > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic

> dancer? A contortionist?

> > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> > >

> > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song

> and see if it helps you.

> > > XOXO Girlscout

> > >

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> > >

> >

> > 

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

LOL...my nada once tried to convince a therapist that I needed to be seen by an

exorcist because, clearly, my " terrible " grades in school were a sign that I was

possessed by Satan.

Those terrible grades? B's. Her argument was that someone as bright as I

supposedly was should be getting straight A's and the fact that I was *not*

meant that I was deliberately out to get her.

And every time she threw that exorcist threat at me all I could do was picture

the Church Lady from Saturday Night Live screeching " Saaaaay-TAN! "

Ninera

>

> Subject: Re: music, movies, books

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Saturday, July 31, 2010, 12:33 PM

> Usually I liken my mother to the

> Annie Wilkes character in Misery: sugary sweet/fervently

> religious to outsiders but freaking batsh*t crazy to those

> in her charge.

>

> If I were to find a *funny* character to liken her to,

> Kathy Bates comes to the rescue again in her role as Adam

> Sandler's mother in The Waterboy.  My mom blames just

> about everything that goes wrong on the devil.  With my

> current NC, she even wrote me a letter tangentially

> indicating that the devil was taking me from her (that is,

> before she incorrectly concluded that my husband was abusing

> me).  Now if I can just picture her accusing " the

> Debbil! " ala Kathy Bates, I can sit back and chuckle. 

> Heehee.

>

>

> > >

> > > Hey Guys,

> > > I think we've talked about this before, but what

> metaphors help lighten your

> > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with

> the FOO to anything that

> > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say

> something about " the flying monkey

> > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just

> helps to have a metaphor

> > > that helps explain it and lets you smile.

> > >

> > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back

> when I started saying goodbye

> > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old,

> and dating a guy. I told the

> > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow,

> sounds like a total freak show. "

> > >

> > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra

> for coping. And its great

> > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco

> called Freak Show that

> > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So

> when the going gets rough,

> > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that

> all I did is retire from the

> > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking

> about it in those simple

> > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and

> like I can handle this. I

> > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to

> work there for the rest of

> > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic

> dancer? A contortionist?

> > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . .

> > >

> > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song

> and see if it helps you.

> > > XOXO Girlscout

> > >

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> > >

> >

>

>

>

>

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