Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 Haha, my nada had turned my aunt against me for a while, but we have reconciled and we have a great relationship. She has dealt with the same stuff I have when it comes to nada. Nada has accused both of our husbands of " brainwashing " us...so we laugh about that...like our husbands are sitting behind a desk like Mr Burns from the Simpsons TV show...tapping his fingers together and saying " excelllent...very good very good, my plan has worked! " Sometimes it's so hard to find humor in all this. My heart feels so black and darkened by pain and sadness and anger, but every now and then I can get a good belly laugh out of stuff. My husband calls her a puppetmaster, and even does the hand motions to imitate someone controlling a puppet on a string. He does that when I talk about how enmeshed my sister is. It's quite funny. ~SJJ > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 Haha, my nada had turned my aunt against me for a while, but we have reconciled and we have a great relationship. She has dealt with the same stuff I have when it comes to nada. Nada has accused both of our husbands of " brainwashing " us...so we laugh about that...like our husbands are sitting behind a desk like Mr Burns from the Simpsons TV show...tapping his fingers together and saying " excelllent...very good very good, my plan has worked! " Sometimes it's so hard to find humor in all this. My heart feels so black and darkened by pain and sadness and anger, but every now and then I can get a good belly laugh out of stuff. My husband calls her a puppetmaster, and even does the hand motions to imitate someone controlling a puppet on a string. He does that when I talk about how enmeshed my sister is. It's quite funny. ~SJJ > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 Haha, my nada had turned my aunt against me for a while, but we have reconciled and we have a great relationship. She has dealt with the same stuff I have when it comes to nada. Nada has accused both of our husbands of " brainwashing " us...so we laugh about that...like our husbands are sitting behind a desk like Mr Burns from the Simpsons TV show...tapping his fingers together and saying " excelllent...very good very good, my plan has worked! " Sometimes it's so hard to find humor in all this. My heart feels so black and darkened by pain and sadness and anger, but every now and then I can get a good belly laugh out of stuff. My husband calls her a puppetmaster, and even does the hand motions to imitate someone controlling a puppet on a string. He does that when I talk about how enmeshed my sister is. It's quite funny. ~SJJ > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 I think of my dad as a mix between an angry Homer Simpson and violent baboon/chimp/ or any other primate. Especially when he talks. It makes more sense if I look at the sounds coming out of his mouth as angry primate shrieks, yells, and grunts. I try to pretend that they happen to sound like human words is just happenstance. On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 6:12 PM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten > your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying > monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak > show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets > rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 I think of my dad as a mix between an angry Homer Simpson and violent baboon/chimp/ or any other primate. Especially when he talks. It makes more sense if I look at the sounds coming out of his mouth as angry primate shrieks, yells, and grunts. I try to pretend that they happen to sound like human words is just happenstance. On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 6:12 PM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten > your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying > monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak > show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets > rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 I think of my dad as a mix between an angry Homer Simpson and violent baboon/chimp/ or any other primate. Especially when he talks. It makes more sense if I look at the sounds coming out of his mouth as angry primate shrieks, yells, and grunts. I try to pretend that they happen to sound like human words is just happenstance. On Fri, Jul 30, 2010 at 6:12 PM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten > your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying > monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak > show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets > rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 This is funny...two Simpsons references so far! I haven't even watched the show in years. ~SJJ > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten > > your > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying > > monkey > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak > > show. " > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets > > rough, > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 This is funny...two Simpsons references so far! I haven't even watched the show in years. ~SJJ > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten > > your > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying > > monkey > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak > > show. " > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets > > rough, > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 This is funny...two Simpsons references so far! I haven't even watched the show in years. ~SJJ > > > > > > > Hey Guys, > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten > > your > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying > > monkey > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak > > show. " > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets > > rough, > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny. Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny. Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 good grief, I have never thought of comparing it to anything funny. Great idea for reframing it. It would take some work to make my NPD fada funny. Grumpy Old Men, probably, times infinity. I imagine my mother sometimes in a diaper, baby bonnet and a bottle. because she is so passive. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 I always think of nada (highly functional) as birthday cake. Great fun on a rare occasion. Sheer poison if you have it every day. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 I always think of nada (highly functional) as birthday cake. Great fun on a rare occasion. Sheer poison if you have it every day. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2010 Report Share Posted July 30, 2010 I always think of nada (highly functional) as birthday cake. Great fun on a rare occasion. Sheer poison if you have it every day. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Usually I liken my mother to the Annie Wilkes character in Misery: sugary sweet/fervently religious to outsiders but freaking batsh*t crazy to those in her charge. If I were to find a *funny* character to liken her to, Kathy Bates comes to the rescue again in her role as Adam Sandler's mother in The Waterboy. My mom blames just about everything that goes wrong on the devil. With my current NC, she even wrote me a letter tangentially indicating that the devil was taking me from her (that is, before she incorrectly concluded that my husband was abusing me). Now if I can just picture her accusing " the Debbil! " ala Kathy Bates, I can sit back and chuckle. Heehee. > > > > Hey Guys, > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Usually I liken my mother to the Annie Wilkes character in Misery: sugary sweet/fervently religious to outsiders but freaking batsh*t crazy to those in her charge. If I were to find a *funny* character to liken her to, Kathy Bates comes to the rescue again in her role as Adam Sandler's mother in The Waterboy. My mom blames just about everything that goes wrong on the devil. With my current NC, she even wrote me a letter tangentially indicating that the devil was taking me from her (that is, before she incorrectly concluded that my husband was abusing me). Now if I can just picture her accusing " the Debbil! " ala Kathy Bates, I can sit back and chuckle. Heehee. > > > > Hey Guys, > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Usually I liken my mother to the Annie Wilkes character in Misery: sugary sweet/fervently religious to outsiders but freaking batsh*t crazy to those in her charge. If I were to find a *funny* character to liken her to, Kathy Bates comes to the rescue again in her role as Adam Sandler's mother in The Waterboy. My mom blames just about everything that goes wrong on the devil. With my current NC, she even wrote me a letter tangentially indicating that the devil was taking me from her (that is, before she incorrectly concluded that my husband was abusing me). Now if I can just picture her accusing " the Debbil! " ala Kathy Bates, I can sit back and chuckle. Heehee. > > > > Hey Guys, > > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > > XOXO Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Don't know about metaphors (I'll have to think about that one) but another song that strikes a chord (pun totally intended) is the last verse of " St. Infirmary " - my attitude toward my mom, her attacks on my self-image, my definition of " forgiveness " for the sake of saving my own sanity - and the decision to go NC/very LC: " Let her go, let her go, God bless her, Wherever she may be She may search this whole world over, But she'll never find a good gal like me. " > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Don't know about metaphors (I'll have to think about that one) but another song that strikes a chord (pun totally intended) is the last verse of " St. Infirmary " - my attitude toward my mom, her attacks on my self-image, my definition of " forgiveness " for the sake of saving my own sanity - and the decision to go NC/very LC: " Let her go, let her go, God bless her, Wherever she may be She may search this whole world over, But she'll never find a good gal like me. " > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 Don't know about metaphors (I'll have to think about that one) but another song that strikes a chord (pun totally intended) is the last verse of " St. Infirmary " - my attitude toward my mom, her attacks on my self-image, my definition of " forgiveness " for the sake of saving my own sanity - and the decision to go NC/very LC: " Let her go, let her go, God bless her, Wherever she may be She may search this whole world over, But she'll never find a good gal like me. " > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 You all are so clever and great at taking a stinky situation and finding a reason to laugh. I'll have to think of something quirky to make me smile when I feel like screaming. Right now all I usually do is refer to her as " Drama Mama. " > > Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men > ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my > nada many times. > > See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one > said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 You all are so clever and great at taking a stinky situation and finding a reason to laugh. I'll have to think of something quirky to make me smile when I feel like screaming. Right now all I usually do is refer to her as " Drama Mama. " > > Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men > ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my > nada many times. > > See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one > said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 You all are so clever and great at taking a stinky situation and finding a reason to laugh. I'll have to think of something quirky to make me smile when I feel like screaming. Right now all I usually do is refer to her as " Drama Mama. " > > Ha ha ha, love these! Love the primate, can totally see it. Grumpy Old Men > ha ha ha. Love the diaper, bonnet, bottle, I've thought of that one for my > nada many times. > > See if you can find others. I know its dumb, but it totally helps! No one > said Mommy Dearest yet, that one works for me, too. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2010 Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 One scene from a movie - There was a comedy starring Gene Wilder, set in a spooky English mansion, with a cast of other comedians. One of these was Dom Dee, who dressed up as a woman for the part. In this one scene, he/she comes down the stairs like Norma Desmond in Sunset Boulevard, pauses dramatically, and in a high falsetto, declares, " This house is CURSED. " My husband started laughing his head off and elbowed me, hissing, " It's your mom! " Thinking about it, Norma Desmond is another character who reminds me of my Nada. Always the drama, always the star. I'm not sure if that makes me Holden, the chauffeur, or the chimp. > > Hey Guys, > I think we've talked about this before, but what metaphors help lighten your > load? Like do you compare your relationship with the FOO to anything that > makes you smile. I just heard someone say something about " the flying monkey > squadron " and that made me laugh so hard. It just helps to have a metaphor > that helps explain it and lets you smile. > > I'll tell you mine. Many many years ago, back when I started saying goodbye > to my FOO, I was newly divorced, 28 years old, and dating a guy. I told the > guy a story about my FOO, and he said " wow, sounds like a total freak show. " > > So, since then " Freak Show " has been my mantra for coping. And its great > because there is actually a song by Ani DiFranco called Freak Show that > starts out " Life in the circus aint easy. .. " So when the going gets rough, > I sing that song to myself, remind myself that all I did is retire from the > freak show, and go on with my day.Even thinking about it in those simple > terms makes me feel a million times lighter and like I can handle this. I > was born into a Freak Show, but I don't have to work there for the rest of > my life. And what would I have been? An exotic dancer? A contortionist? > Trapeze artist? We all had our roles. . . . > > Okay, maybe a weird topic, but look up that song and see if it helps you. > XOXO Girlscout > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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