Re: Wow, your culture is so different!

July 31, 2010

Good Lord. How do you deal with that? That makes me just want to scream!!

Poor India. To be blamed for BPD. . .

Seriously, I think people instinctively look for ANY explanation, no matter how

ridiculous, to " normalize " BPD behavior. If you can blame it on a culture, then

you don't have to deal with the reality that the person you are looking at is

NUTS!!!

I've been actively avoiding a young man at church. I kindly and respectfully

emailed him and asked him to stop posting racially charged/offensive stuff on

his FB page. He attacked me back through a FB email. Last function I went to,

I found out he had a concealed weapon on him. Yes. At a church function. And

no, he's not in law enforcement--he's a student. Everyone's explanation for

this hot-headed kid packing heat to a church function? " He's from Texas. You

know they are like cowboys there. " Sheesh!!!

What a good post--thanks for bringing this one up!

Blessings,

Karla

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> As I've been explaining Nada's BPD craziness to lawyers, social workers etc,

their first response is always how all of these traits are so foreign to them

because of the cultural differences (my FOO is from India).

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> It is SO frustrating to explain that most of these traits are a mental illness

and NONE of their Indian friends who came to America at the same time as them

(40 years ago) do anything similar. It takes some pretty extreme examples for

people to finally get that this is truly a mental illness and not just some

" weird cultural thing " they don't understand. It really sucks feeling like I

have to justify myself over and over again. Us KOs have so much doubt already, I

don't need that reflected in everyone I'm seeking help from!

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> Has anyone else experienced this?? How have you dealt with it??

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