Guest guest Posted August 19, 2010 Report Share Posted August 19, 2010 I hope you do look into getting a bodyguard for the event(s)) you think your parents are going to show up at, and I hope you get a restraining order against them. I also think its a good idea to just vanish out of town when you think they might be in your vicinity; just drive yourself to a hotel, don't stay with friends or tell anyone where you're going. Since you haven't gone " underground " very deeply (there are too many people who know your original name and your new name, and know where you are now living) your new " secret identity " isn't so very secret. Your relentless parents have too many clues and leads that they can follow, and because of that they will probably locate you again sooner or later. Your mother sounds like the cyborg from the original " Terminator " film, frankly! Best of luck to you; at this point I think a restraining order and a bodyguard(s) are all that will really work. -Annie > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2010 Report Share Posted August 19, 2010 I hope you do look into getting a bodyguard for the event(s)) you think your parents are going to show up at, and I hope you get a restraining order against them. I also think its a good idea to just vanish out of town when you think they might be in your vicinity; just drive yourself to a hotel, don't stay with friends or tell anyone where you're going. Since you haven't gone " underground " very deeply (there are too many people who know your original name and your new name, and know where you are now living) your new " secret identity " isn't so very secret. Your relentless parents have too many clues and leads that they can follow, and because of that they will probably locate you again sooner or later. Your mother sounds like the cyborg from the original " Terminator " film, frankly! Best of luck to you; at this point I think a restraining order and a bodyguard(s) are all that will really work. -Annie > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2010 Report Share Posted August 19, 2010 I hope you do look into getting a bodyguard for the event(s)) you think your parents are going to show up at, and I hope you get a restraining order against them. I also think its a good idea to just vanish out of town when you think they might be in your vicinity; just drive yourself to a hotel, don't stay with friends or tell anyone where you're going. Since you haven't gone " underground " very deeply (there are too many people who know your original name and your new name, and know where you are now living) your new " secret identity " isn't so very secret. Your relentless parents have too many clues and leads that they can follow, and because of that they will probably locate you again sooner or later. Your mother sounds like the cyborg from the original " Terminator " film, frankly! Best of luck to you; at this point I think a restraining order and a bodyguard(s) are all that will really work. -Annie > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2010 Report Share Posted August 20, 2010 Wow , this must be such a tough time for you! I can definitely understand the detachment feelings that you described. I am the same at the moment with my situation (me going N.C and mother's behaviour escalating). It really is a coping mechanism I think. Try not to worry about the emotions lurking underneath. You will confront them in due course. For now you need to stay really focused on protecting yourself, so it is a blessing to feel removed. I also think it's a possibility that you may have processed more than you think. You have spent a life-time mourning the loss a true mother figure and you might find when all this passes that you really have moved forward more than you imagined. Relocating and moving away from your support network isn't easy. What you have done is incredibly courageous and you should feel really proud of yourself. I think it is true about the fact that they really can't hurt you any more. I feel scared at the moment in my situation as well, because I don't know what to expect next. I think that is their plan isn't it. The old manipulation tactics aren't working any more, so they desperately search for new ways to get to us. I think imagining the worst case scenario and thinking through how you would respond is great advice and might help to minimise some of your anxiety. For instance, what if she caused a scene in front of your college friends? It wouldn't reflect badly on you. At very worst they might feel sorry for you. I know that minimising the fear isn't easy. I am having trouble with that myself. Their omnipresence is really overwhelming isn't it! I think your own strategy sounded really spot on and is one that I'm trying to practise at the moment- trying to be in the moment as much as you can manage and not allowing her to spoil this wonderful time in your life. Oh and any help you can get on the legal side of things- definitely go for that restraining order/body guard if you feel you need it. In the meantime, take any opportunity to have fun and enjoy this new chapter in your life- including the company of handsome fellow students . You have worked hard and you deserve it! Please keep in touch. Take good care, Lynda > > > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2010 Report Share Posted August 20, 2010 Wow , this must be such a tough time for you! I can definitely understand the detachment feelings that you described. I am the same at the moment with my situation (me going N.C and mother's behaviour escalating). It really is a coping mechanism I think. Try not to worry about the emotions lurking underneath. You will confront them in due course. For now you need to stay really focused on protecting yourself, so it is a blessing to feel removed. I also think it's a possibility that you may have processed more than you think. You have spent a life-time mourning the loss a true mother figure and you might find when all this passes that you really have moved forward more than you imagined. Relocating and moving away from your support network isn't easy. What you have done is incredibly courageous and you should feel really proud of yourself. I think it is true about the fact that they really can't hurt you any more. I feel scared at the moment in my situation as well, because I don't know what to expect next. I think that is their plan isn't it. The old manipulation tactics aren't working any more, so they desperately search for new ways to get to us. I think imagining the worst case scenario and thinking through how you would respond is great advice and might help to minimise some of your anxiety. For instance, what if she caused a scene in front of your college friends? It wouldn't reflect badly on you. At very worst they might feel sorry for you. I know that minimising the fear isn't easy. I am having trouble with that myself. Their omnipresence is really overwhelming isn't it! I think your own strategy sounded really spot on and is one that I'm trying to practise at the moment- trying to be in the moment as much as you can manage and not allowing her to spoil this wonderful time in your life. Oh and any help you can get on the legal side of things- definitely go for that restraining order/body guard if you feel you need it. In the meantime, take any opportunity to have fun and enjoy this new chapter in your life- including the company of handsome fellow students . You have worked hard and you deserve it! Please keep in touch. Take good care, Lynda > > > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2010 Report Share Posted August 20, 2010 Wow , this must be such a tough time for you! I can definitely understand the detachment feelings that you described. I am the same at the moment with my situation (me going N.C and mother's behaviour escalating). It really is a coping mechanism I think. Try not to worry about the emotions lurking underneath. You will confront them in due course. For now you need to stay really focused on protecting yourself, so it is a blessing to feel removed. I also think it's a possibility that you may have processed more than you think. You have spent a life-time mourning the loss a true mother figure and you might find when all this passes that you really have moved forward more than you imagined. Relocating and moving away from your support network isn't easy. What you have done is incredibly courageous and you should feel really proud of yourself. I think it is true about the fact that they really can't hurt you any more. I feel scared at the moment in my situation as well, because I don't know what to expect next. I think that is their plan isn't it. The old manipulation tactics aren't working any more, so they desperately search for new ways to get to us. I think imagining the worst case scenario and thinking through how you would respond is great advice and might help to minimise some of your anxiety. For instance, what if she caused a scene in front of your college friends? It wouldn't reflect badly on you. At very worst they might feel sorry for you. I know that minimising the fear isn't easy. I am having trouble with that myself. Their omnipresence is really overwhelming isn't it! I think your own strategy sounded really spot on and is one that I'm trying to practise at the moment- trying to be in the moment as much as you can manage and not allowing her to spoil this wonderful time in your life. Oh and any help you can get on the legal side of things- definitely go for that restraining order/body guard if you feel you need it. In the meantime, take any opportunity to have fun and enjoy this new chapter in your life- including the company of handsome fellow students . You have worked hard and you deserve it! Please keep in touch. Take good care, Lynda > > > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 Hi (and everyone), I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 Hi (and everyone), I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 Hi (and everyone), I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Hi , glad to hear you are okay even though things are difficult. Have you thought about getting a local therapist where you are now? I've found most people outside this group just can't deal with hearing about issues around a mentally ill parent - it's just too alien an experience (luckily) for them. The losses are huge, but remember too what you've won - you've taken a huge stand for your emotional freedom. Stay strong! > > Hi (and everyone), > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Hi , glad to hear you are okay even though things are difficult. Have you thought about getting a local therapist where you are now? I've found most people outside this group just can't deal with hearing about issues around a mentally ill parent - it's just too alien an experience (luckily) for them. The losses are huge, but remember too what you've won - you've taken a huge stand for your emotional freedom. Stay strong! > > Hi (and everyone), > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Hi , glad to hear you are okay even though things are difficult. Have you thought about getting a local therapist where you are now? I've found most people outside this group just can't deal with hearing about issues around a mentally ill parent - it's just too alien an experience (luckily) for them. The losses are huge, but remember too what you've won - you've taken a huge stand for your emotional freedom. Stay strong! > > Hi (and everyone), > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Its good to hear from you, thanks for keeping us posted. I had a feeling that your nada would keep pursuing contact for a while; she's a nada version of the energizer bunny: " she just keeps going and going. " How sad that all that focused energy and obsessiveness are being used for " evil " instead of " good " , but that's your mother's choice. You're showing a lot of personal strength and endurance to maintain your separation in spite of her relentless, obsessive stalking and harassment. That's very impressive. I'm glad for you that you have the support of your school and at least one good in-person friend, in addition to us here in this Group. I think that if you find a new therapist there at your school, that will be another good source of support and validation for you. You can unburden yourself to a therapist without worrying or feeling like you have to hold back. That's what the therapist is there for! Best wishes to you, and post when you can. We're here for you. -Annie > > Hi (and everyone), > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Its good to hear from you, thanks for keeping us posted. I had a feeling that your nada would keep pursuing contact for a while; she's a nada version of the energizer bunny: " she just keeps going and going. " How sad that all that focused energy and obsessiveness are being used for " evil " instead of " good " , but that's your mother's choice. You're showing a lot of personal strength and endurance to maintain your separation in spite of her relentless, obsessive stalking and harassment. That's very impressive. I'm glad for you that you have the support of your school and at least one good in-person friend, in addition to us here in this Group. I think that if you find a new therapist there at your school, that will be another good source of support and validation for you. You can unburden yourself to a therapist without worrying or feeling like you have to hold back. That's what the therapist is there for! Best wishes to you, and post when you can. We're here for you. -Annie > > Hi (and everyone), > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Its good to hear from you, thanks for keeping us posted. I had a feeling that your nada would keep pursuing contact for a while; she's a nada version of the energizer bunny: " she just keeps going and going. " How sad that all that focused energy and obsessiveness are being used for " evil " instead of " good " , but that's your mother's choice. You're showing a lot of personal strength and endurance to maintain your separation in spite of her relentless, obsessive stalking and harassment. That's very impressive. I'm glad for you that you have the support of your school and at least one good in-person friend, in addition to us here in this Group. I think that if you find a new therapist there at your school, that will be another good source of support and validation for you. You can unburden yourself to a therapist without worrying or feeling like you have to hold back. That's what the therapist is there for! Best wishes to you, and post when you can. We're here for you. -Annie > > Hi (and everyone), > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy multiple times, which nada ignored. > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Good job, sweetie! Yeah, I wouldn't unburden on a fellow student. A therapist is a great idea. Stay strong and stay in touch. We are thinking of you every day! On Wed, Aug 25, 2010 at 12:20 AM, climberkayak wrote: > > > Hi , glad to hear you are okay even though things are difficult. Have > you thought about getting a local therapist where you are now? I've found > most people outside this group just can't deal with hearing about issues > around a mentally ill parent - it's just too alien an experience (luckily) > for them. The losses are huge, but remember too what you've won - you've > taken a huge stand for your emotional freedom. > > Stay strong! > > > > > > > > Hi (and everyone), > > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to > my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't > offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy > multiple times, which nada ignored. > > > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, > very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like > I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran > buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask > personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's > going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a > childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel > like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your > experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Good job, sweetie! Yeah, I wouldn't unburden on a fellow student. A therapist is a great idea. Stay strong and stay in touch. We are thinking of you every day! On Wed, Aug 25, 2010 at 12:20 AM, climberkayak wrote: > > > Hi , glad to hear you are okay even though things are difficult. Have > you thought about getting a local therapist where you are now? I've found > most people outside this group just can't deal with hearing about issues > around a mentally ill parent - it's just too alien an experience (luckily) > for them. The losses are huge, but remember too what you've won - you've > taken a huge stand for your emotional freedom. > > Stay strong! > > > > > > > > Hi (and everyone), > > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to > my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't > offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy > multiple times, which nada ignored. > > > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, > very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like > I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran > buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask > personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's > going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a > childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel > like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your > experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2010 Report Share Posted August 25, 2010 Good job, sweetie! Yeah, I wouldn't unburden on a fellow student. A therapist is a great idea. Stay strong and stay in touch. We are thinking of you every day! On Wed, Aug 25, 2010 at 12:20 AM, climberkayak wrote: > > > Hi , glad to hear you are okay even though things are difficult. Have > you thought about getting a local therapist where you are now? I've found > most people outside this group just can't deal with hearing about issues > around a mentally ill parent - it's just too alien an experience (luckily) > for them. The losses are huge, but remember too what you've won - you've > taken a huge stand for your emotional freedom. > > Stay strong! > > > > > > > > Hi (and everyone), > > I'm not sure what my nada is up to at this point. On monday she spoke to > my old therapist to get information on me. Of course, my therapist didn't > offer any information but kindly suggested she could benefit from therapy > multiple times, which nada ignored. > > > > School has been a welcome distraction, but at the same time, I feel very, > very isolated. I don't even know what I'd do without this group! I feel like > I've been through a war I can't talk about, and I don't know who my veteran > buddies are. I've mostly made friends with guys because they don't ask > personal questions, and although my best (girl) friend here knows what's > going on, I don't know how to talk about it. > > > > Despite nada's actions, I know regardless, I have lost. I have lost a > childhood, a mother, a family, a support system. I am trying to not feel > like a victim but it feels impossible not to. I know from many of your > experiences that things will get better, so I'm holding on. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2010 Report Share Posted August 26, 2010 just chiming in to say I'm thinking about you and hoping you will update us soon on what is going on with you! Hope you ended up having a peaceful weekend and everything went okay. Hugs! > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2010 Report Share Posted August 26, 2010 just chiming in to say I'm thinking about you and hoping you will update us soon on what is going on with you! Hope you ended up having a peaceful weekend and everything went okay. Hugs! > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2010 Report Share Posted August 26, 2010 just chiming in to say I'm thinking about you and hoping you will update us soon on what is going on with you! Hope you ended up having a peaceful weekend and everything went okay. Hugs! > > Girlscout cowboy, thanks!! Very interesting...I've just emailed some friends who are a train ride away to see if I can leave. The timing sucks because orientation ends so late I don't know if I could leave fri night but thanks for the advice. Fada isn't working this weekend so this would be a very likely time for them to come. > > , so sorry, forgot to reply to your post in my last posting. Emotionally...it's a little lonely here. I have two good girl friends and one guy friend (who is really freaking hot, trying to keep him as a friend ), and only one of my girl friends knows what's going on. Ironically, she has an exbf stalking her and he started emailing me for info on her. She has been great and really understanding but...it's always on my mind and I don't always want to be talking about it. I'm trying to focus on the present moment and enjoy all our group activities etc. I def need to work on that and maybe it will help some of this anxiety... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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