Re: Update on NC

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Ahelly -

I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are bringing back that

feeling I had when my nada was stalking me. It is terrifying. One thing I

found helpful was to anticipate the things you think she may do and then write

out a brief plan of how you will handle it. I found that I felt more in control

of the situation if I had set out some plans already. It sounds like you are

doing a lot of this already. I found though that I had to revise my plans of

counter-attack when nada escalated at her worst.

peace and strength,

patinage

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> Oh my goodness, nada is spiraling into crazy faster than I had expected. I

think part of me wanted to believe I was exaggerating how crazy nada is, and now

I can see she's far, far worse. She has already started on texting my friends

saying fada is deathly Ill so she needs to get in touch w me. (they are still

not calling back). Now that she's moved on to texting, I'm worried she's going

to pull out the " I'll kill myself if you don't give me her info " . I'm esp

worried about my best friend from college who she's comfortable with and has

relentlessly been harassing. I offered to pay for call blocking for her and I

hope she accepts. Nada has been trying FOG w her and said she had excellent

family values and nada knew shed be understanding and compassionate. Sigh. I

know I expected all of this but it just *feels* different in the moment. I just

got back from my T and I feel comfortable enough to finally take a shower but

I'm pretty petrified to do anything

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> To the people who suggested bodyguards, I think I'll def do that if things get

out of control. I want to wait for right now because I don't want to call

attention to myself at orientation.

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> Thank you all for your support, you make me feel a lot less alone in a new

city where I don't know anyone!

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> Ahelly

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