Guest guest Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Hi, ,Wow, Burn the Fat Feed the Muscle-- I tried that one, too. I'm sure it's great for folks who do not think in eating disordered terms, but it did not help me at all. It just led to unhealthy black and white thinking and obsessiveness.Welcome. I think you are in the right place. Some of us have found links to biochemistry and other things in our journey. You mention your family having a history of EDs. Mine does, too (along with various addictions). I think it's helpful to see that genetic sort of link to compulsive eating/behaviors. I have found that eating balanced meals on a sort of schedule really helps me with not eating compulsively/bingeing, etc.I also wanted to mention that my 6 year old daughter also exhibits the same biochemical relationship toward food that I have-- eat, eat, eat mindlessly and craving certain foods. We have been working together for the past month on eating mindfully. i am already seeing HUGE changes in her because of our eating slowly together and enjoying food. She is quite thin now and active and takes after her dad's build. She has asked why I am fat, and we have discussed intuitive eating/mindful eating. She told me a week or so ago, "Wow, mom. The stuff you are saying is really smart! Did your mom tell you that?" I laughed and said no (heck no. My mom was always dieting and still is). I think she's so lucky to be learning it now. I remember bingeing from age 5 on. What a waste. I'm 33 now, and it's taken the past 4 + years to really begin sorting out my issues.Anyway, welcome...Subject: New to the GroupTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 10:12 AM Hi! I'm . I'm 28 years old, the mother of a 11 year old boy, an engineering student, and a happy newlywed. I've dealt with disordered eating since I was a kid. Unfortunately for me, eating disorders run in my family...my grandmother died with bulimia, her son (my father) is also bulimic, her daughter (my aunt) died with anorexia a few years ago, and both my sister and I have been bitten by the ED bug too (although my sis won't see treatment for it). What's even more frightening is that my son has started showing early signs of ED. It's like a family curse. My school dietitian recommended I read Intuitive Eating about 9 months ago while I was on a hard core "muscle building" kick (Tom Venuto's Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle). Yeah, it was a secret ploy to lose weight again, but I worked hard to fool myself into believing that it wasn't. After reading the book I went to the kitchen and ate. For months I ate whatever I wanted in whatever quantity I wanted to eat it. I went to the grocery store and opened myself up to the idea that I had the money to BUY whatever I want and EAT it. I was no longer a child being forced to eat healthy against my will. I accepted that I was NEVER going to be deprived of the foods I truly wanted ever again. It was great eating macaroni and cheese, chips, chocolate, ice cream, and REAL butter. What was even better was not beating myself up over it and feeling guilty. I was so happy to be able to explore sugar, salt, and fat to my heart's content. It was liberating. I refused to step on the scale the whole time; not because I was over the weight thing, but (honestly) because I was afraid to look. After eating whatever I wanted for a few months (and, frankly, losing my taste for mac 'n' cheese and processed sugar) I decided that I needed to become a little more active. I bought a bike, started walking, and started moving. Not a lot, but enough to begin to appreciate being out of breath, having my heart racing, and pushing my physical limits. So now that I've opened myself to physical activity and I'm past the fear of deprivation I'm trying to listen to my body in regards to hunger and satiety. It is much harder than gorging on "forbidden" foods and I'm really in need of some guidance. I don't even have a grasp of my hunger scale. And, worse, I'm beginning to obsess over "understanding my hunger signals" the same way I used to obsess over food. I really need some help. I want to rid myself of ED for good and set a proper example for my son. I know it's a long, slow process and that's okay with me. I've been doing the ED dance for most of life and taking another couple of years to slowly heal my mind and body is better to me than spending another 20 years with this disorder. I just can't do it anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Hi, ,Wow, Burn the Fat Feed the Muscle-- I tried that one, too. I'm sure it's great for folks who do not think in eating disordered terms, but it did not help me at all. It just led to unhealthy black and white thinking and obsessiveness.Welcome. I think you are in the right place. Some of us have found links to biochemistry and other things in our journey. You mention your family having a history of EDs. Mine does, too (along with various addictions). I think it's helpful to see that genetic sort of link to compulsive eating/behaviors. I have found that eating balanced meals on a sort of schedule really helps me with not eating compulsively/bingeing, etc.I also wanted to mention that my 6 year old daughter also exhibits the same biochemical relationship toward food that I have-- eat, eat, eat mindlessly and craving certain foods. We have been working together for the past month on eating mindfully. i am already seeing HUGE changes in her because of our eating slowly together and enjoying food. She is quite thin now and active and takes after her dad's build. She has asked why I am fat, and we have discussed intuitive eating/mindful eating. She told me a week or so ago, "Wow, mom. The stuff you are saying is really smart! Did your mom tell you that?" I laughed and said no (heck no. My mom was always dieting and still is). I think she's so lucky to be learning it now. I remember bingeing from age 5 on. What a waste. I'm 33 now, and it's taken the past 4 + years to really begin sorting out my issues.Anyway, welcome...Subject: New to the GroupTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 10:12 AM Hi! I'm . I'm 28 years old, the mother of a 11 year old boy, an engineering student, and a happy newlywed. I've dealt with disordered eating since I was a kid. Unfortunately for me, eating disorders run in my family...my grandmother died with bulimia, her son (my father) is also bulimic, her daughter (my aunt) died with anorexia a few years ago, and both my sister and I have been bitten by the ED bug too (although my sis won't see treatment for it). What's even more frightening is that my son has started showing early signs of ED. It's like a family curse. My school dietitian recommended I read Intuitive Eating about 9 months ago while I was on a hard core "muscle building" kick (Tom Venuto's Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle). Yeah, it was a secret ploy to lose weight again, but I worked hard to fool myself into believing that it wasn't. After reading the book I went to the kitchen and ate. For months I ate whatever I wanted in whatever quantity I wanted to eat it. I went to the grocery store and opened myself up to the idea that I had the money to BUY whatever I want and EAT it. I was no longer a child being forced to eat healthy against my will. I accepted that I was NEVER going to be deprived of the foods I truly wanted ever again. It was great eating macaroni and cheese, chips, chocolate, ice cream, and REAL butter. What was even better was not beating myself up over it and feeling guilty. I was so happy to be able to explore sugar, salt, and fat to my heart's content. It was liberating. I refused to step on the scale the whole time; not because I was over the weight thing, but (honestly) because I was afraid to look. After eating whatever I wanted for a few months (and, frankly, losing my taste for mac 'n' cheese and processed sugar) I decided that I needed to become a little more active. I bought a bike, started walking, and started moving. Not a lot, but enough to begin to appreciate being out of breath, having my heart racing, and pushing my physical limits. So now that I've opened myself to physical activity and I'm past the fear of deprivation I'm trying to listen to my body in regards to hunger and satiety. It is much harder than gorging on "forbidden" foods and I'm really in need of some guidance. I don't even have a grasp of my hunger scale. And, worse, I'm beginning to obsess over "understanding my hunger signals" the same way I used to obsess over food. I really need some help. I want to rid myself of ED for good and set a proper example for my son. I know it's a long, slow process and that's okay with me. I've been doing the ED dance for most of life and taking another couple of years to slowly heal my mind and body is better to me than spending another 20 years with this disorder. I just can't do it anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2010 Report Share Posted May 12, 2010 Wow, , what an amazing gift you are giving to your daughter! Many of us have had well intentioned parents putting us on diets at a young age and making weight a battle growing up. I know I did. Your daughter will reap the rewards of your patience and experience. > > > Subject: New to the Group > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Date: Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 10:12 AM > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > Hi! I'm . I'm 28 years old, the mother of a 11 year old boy, an engineering student, and a happy newlywed. > > > > I've dealt with disordered eating since I was a kid. Unfortunately for me, eating disorders run in my family...my grandmother died with bulimia, her son (my father) is also bulimic, her daughter (my aunt) died with anorexia a few years ago, and both my sister and I have been bitten by the ED bug too (although my sis won't see treatment for it). What's even more frightening is that my son has started showing early signs of ED. It's like a family curse. > > > > My school dietitian recommended I read Intuitive Eating about 9 months ago while I was on a hard core " muscle building " kick (Tom Venuto's Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle). Yeah, it was a secret ploy to lose weight again, but I worked hard to fool myself into believing that it wasn't. > > > > After reading the book I went to the kitchen and ate. For months I ate whatever I wanted in whatever quantity I wanted to eat it. I went to the grocery store and opened myself up to the idea that I had the money to BUY whatever I want and EAT it. I was no longer a child being forced to eat healthy against my will. I accepted that I was NEVER going to be deprived of the foods I truly wanted ever again. > > > > It was great eating macaroni and cheese, chips, chocolate, ice cream, and REAL butter. What was even better was not beating myself up over it and feeling guilty. I was so happy to be able to explore sugar, salt, and fat to my heart's content. It was liberating. I refused to step on the scale the whole time; not because I was over the weight thing, but (honestly) because I was afraid to look. > > > > After eating whatever I wanted for a few months (and, frankly, losing my taste for mac 'n' cheese and processed sugar) I decided that I needed to become a little more active. I bought a bike, started walking, and started moving. Not a lot, but enough to begin to appreciate being out of breath, having my heart racing, and pushing my physical limits. > > > > So now that I've opened myself to physical activity and I'm past the fear of deprivation I'm trying to listen to my body in regards to hunger and satiety. It is much harder than gorging on " forbidden " foods and I'm really in need of some guidance. I don't even have a grasp of my hunger scale. And, worse, I'm beginning to obsess over " understanding my hunger signals " the same way I used to obsess over food. > > > > I really need some help. I want to rid myself of ED for good and set a proper example for my son. I know it's a long, slow process and that's okay with me. I've been doing the ED dance for most of life and taking another couple of years to slowly heal my mind and body is better to me than spending another 20 years with this disorder. I just can't do it anymore. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2010 Report Share Posted May 12, 2010 Wow, , what an amazing gift you are giving to your daughter! Many of us have had well intentioned parents putting us on diets at a young age and making weight a battle growing up. I know I did. Your daughter will reap the rewards of your patience and experience. > > > Subject: New to the Group > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Date: Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 10:12 AM > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > Hi! I'm . I'm 28 years old, the mother of a 11 year old boy, an engineering student, and a happy newlywed. > > > > I've dealt with disordered eating since I was a kid. Unfortunately for me, eating disorders run in my family...my grandmother died with bulimia, her son (my father) is also bulimic, her daughter (my aunt) died with anorexia a few years ago, and both my sister and I have been bitten by the ED bug too (although my sis won't see treatment for it). What's even more frightening is that my son has started showing early signs of ED. It's like a family curse. > > > > My school dietitian recommended I read Intuitive Eating about 9 months ago while I was on a hard core " muscle building " kick (Tom Venuto's Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle). Yeah, it was a secret ploy to lose weight again, but I worked hard to fool myself into believing that it wasn't. > > > > After reading the book I went to the kitchen and ate. For months I ate whatever I wanted in whatever quantity I wanted to eat it. I went to the grocery store and opened myself up to the idea that I had the money to BUY whatever I want and EAT it. I was no longer a child being forced to eat healthy against my will. I accepted that I was NEVER going to be deprived of the foods I truly wanted ever again. > > > > It was great eating macaroni and cheese, chips, chocolate, ice cream, and REAL butter. What was even better was not beating myself up over it and feeling guilty. I was so happy to be able to explore sugar, salt, and fat to my heart's content. It was liberating. I refused to step on the scale the whole time; not because I was over the weight thing, but (honestly) because I was afraid to look. > > > > After eating whatever I wanted for a few months (and, frankly, losing my taste for mac 'n' cheese and processed sugar) I decided that I needed to become a little more active. I bought a bike, started walking, and started moving. Not a lot, but enough to begin to appreciate being out of breath, having my heart racing, and pushing my physical limits. > > > > So now that I've opened myself to physical activity and I'm past the fear of deprivation I'm trying to listen to my body in regards to hunger and satiety. It is much harder than gorging on " forbidden " foods and I'm really in need of some guidance. I don't even have a grasp of my hunger scale. And, worse, I'm beginning to obsess over " understanding my hunger signals " the same way I used to obsess over food. > > > > I really need some help. I want to rid myself of ED for good and set a proper example for my son. I know it's a long, slow process and that's okay with me. I've been doing the ED dance for most of life and taking another couple of years to slowly heal my mind and body is better to me than spending another 20 years with this disorder. I just can't do it anymore. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 2010 Report Share Posted May 12, 2010 Wow, , what an amazing gift you are giving to your daughter! Many of us have had well intentioned parents putting us on diets at a young age and making weight a battle growing up. I know I did. Your daughter will reap the rewards of your patience and experience. > > > Subject: New to the Group > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Date: Tuesday, May 11, 2010, 10:12 AM > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > Hi! I'm . I'm 28 years old, the mother of a 11 year old boy, an engineering student, and a happy newlywed. > > > > I've dealt with disordered eating since I was a kid. Unfortunately for me, eating disorders run in my family...my grandmother died with bulimia, her son (my father) is also bulimic, her daughter (my aunt) died with anorexia a few years ago, and both my sister and I have been bitten by the ED bug too (although my sis won't see treatment for it). What's even more frightening is that my son has started showing early signs of ED. It's like a family curse. > > > > My school dietitian recommended I read Intuitive Eating about 9 months ago while I was on a hard core " muscle building " kick (Tom Venuto's Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle). Yeah, it was a secret ploy to lose weight again, but I worked hard to fool myself into believing that it wasn't. > > > > After reading the book I went to the kitchen and ate. For months I ate whatever I wanted in whatever quantity I wanted to eat it. I went to the grocery store and opened myself up to the idea that I had the money to BUY whatever I want and EAT it. I was no longer a child being forced to eat healthy against my will. I accepted that I was NEVER going to be deprived of the foods I truly wanted ever again. > > > > It was great eating macaroni and cheese, chips, chocolate, ice cream, and REAL butter. What was even better was not beating myself up over it and feeling guilty. I was so happy to be able to explore sugar, salt, and fat to my heart's content. It was liberating. I refused to step on the scale the whole time; not because I was over the weight thing, but (honestly) because I was afraid to look. > > > > After eating whatever I wanted for a few months (and, frankly, losing my taste for mac 'n' cheese and processed sugar) I decided that I needed to become a little more active. I bought a bike, started walking, and started moving. Not a lot, but enough to begin to appreciate being out of breath, having my heart racing, and pushing my physical limits. > > > > So now that I've opened myself to physical activity and I'm past the fear of deprivation I'm trying to listen to my body in regards to hunger and satiety. It is much harder than gorging on " forbidden " foods and I'm really in need of some guidance. I don't even have a grasp of my hunger scale. And, worse, I'm beginning to obsess over " understanding my hunger signals " the same way I used to obsess over food. > > > > I really need some help. I want to rid myself of ED for good and set a proper example for my son. I know it's a long, slow process and that's okay with me. I've been doing the ED dance for most of life and taking another couple of years to slowly heal my mind and body is better to me than spending another 20 years with this disorder. I just can't do it anymore. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 Welcome to the group! Your post came accross just fine. You have come to the right place to share your successes as well as your struggles. You will be in good company! I'm not familiar with May's Am I Hungry program, so maybe you can share a little bit more about that with us. I look forward to hearing more from you in the future. PJ > > Hello out there, > I am new to this type of communication and am not at all sure that this message is being received. I tried sending a message a month ago and never heard anything, so would appreciate a response from someone. I am working hard on combining May's Am I Hungry program with the Weight Watchers online program and would like to be able to share successes and struggles with others. My Am I Hungry coach recommended me to this group. Look forward to learning and sharing. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 Welcome to the group! Your post came accross just fine. You have come to the right place to share your successes as well as your struggles. You will be in good company! I'm not familiar with May's Am I Hungry program, so maybe you can share a little bit more about that with us. I look forward to hearing more from you in the future. PJ > > Hello out there, > I am new to this type of communication and am not at all sure that this message is being received. I tried sending a message a month ago and never heard anything, so would appreciate a response from someone. I am working hard on combining May's Am I Hungry program with the Weight Watchers online program and would like to be able to share successes and struggles with others. My Am I Hungry coach recommended me to this group. Look forward to learning and sharing. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 Hi, Louise, Welcome to the group! I'm copying your personal email address to try to make sure to get through to you. Check the group's website if you aren't seeing your messages come through to your box--it may be a filter on your end. I've never heard of May's program, but the name sounds like it's based on a good principle. Can you tell us a little more about it, and how it's working for you? I did WW online for most of a year and felt I learned at least not to overeat, but I got very tired of feeling monitored by their point system (instead of my own internal sense). I'd also stopped losing weight with WW (as I've always done with all diets), so the decision was an easy one for me. All best, Laurie Louise wrote: >>>Hello out there, I am new to this type of communication and am not at all sure that this message is being received. I tried sending a message a month ago and never heard anything, so would appreciate a response from someone. I am working hard on combining May's Am I Hungry program with the Weight Watchers online program and would like to be able to share successes and struggles with others. My Am I Hungry coach recommended me to this group. Look forward to learning and sharing.<<< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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