Re:Update on NC

[Guest guest]

Wow, . I have been witnessing this transition of yours as you've

shared over the past few months.

I'd not fully realized that you were going so abruptly NC, from your

nada and fada's perspective. I know you have been planning this for a

long while and you have been preparing emotionally.

Kind of reminds me of my moving out when I was 18. I knew, with

certainty my June birthday, that I was moving as soon as it was

feasible to do so. OK, so it took me nearly six months to clean my

room and get emotionally and financially read to do it. My mom had no

clue until the night before my move, when I brought the packed boxes

downstairs!

Then, she thought she would talk me out of it.... and we all went to

bed. While nada slept, I put everything out onto the lawn. And was gone.

Took her about six months to get over it. As for me, I was going

through so much change with my own identity and independence (no name

change though) that my issues with her were just part of the process

of self-acceptance. I learned from this that leaving nada was just a

first step .Wherever I have gone since then, there is always something

to learn about myself and grow into or out of. Having a space to

heal, that is not impacted by nada's direct influence, is what really

matters.

Wishing you the best in your new life adventure.

Best,