Re: You Can't Make Me Angry

[Guest guest]

I believe that we can not always have control over the way a person

treats us. But we do have control over how we respond. People who

test our anger/patience are a reminder we need to work on that area of

ourselves for the most part. Its a reminder that we can choose how to

respond or not respond to circumstances and life. My choice, I choose

to be happy and not let anger get in the way of that. I have chosen

to say NO to people who do not want to be happy and who thrive on

making others miserable just so they can feel better about themselves.

I have chosen to only help those who want to be helped instead of

trying to force help on those who do not want it. I guess I now chose

to stop typing LOL. I told Liane I was decluttering my home and life.

Sorry Alice I guess I had to type it to reinstate it LOL.

Blessings

Darla

P.S.

Please excuse my ramblings

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> You Can't Make Me Angry

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> I can't prove it's true, but I choose to believe people treat me the

way I've taught them to treat me.

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> This creates a big responsibility for me.

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> It means that if I don't like the way someone is treating me, I can

alter their behavior by first changing my own.

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> I can have a positive influence on the situation.

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> Since I have, by my behavior, taught them to treat me the way they

are treating me, I can often, by changing my behavior, teach them to

treat me differently.

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> If I want them to change, I must change first.

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> It is a basic psychological teaching that if we want to change the

way we feel, we must first change the way we act.

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> -- You Can't Make Me Angry, Dr. O.

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[Guest guest]

Great! We will always have people that have the potential of annoying and bothering us but it is trully our choice how we will experience these interactions. I for one have been working on taking even the most difficult situations and trying to find something good about the person while in the midst of the the interaction. Seems to re-direct my focus to a more positive place and takes the whole interaction toward the most positive outcome possible. Thanks for sharing! --von Baron