Guest guest Posted August 9, 2010 Report Share Posted August 9, 2010 yes groups like 12-step groups have helped me to learn some of the social skills i lacked growing up.. and meeting like -minded people there have led to lasting friendships and opportunities for social activities. Â it is a learning process, one day at a time.ann Subject: Re-wiring my brain To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Sunday, August 1, 2010, 10:43 AM Â The trauma I've suffered at my borderline parents hands has left a huge hole in my ability to feel safe interacting with other people. My resulting avoidance of personal interactions has left my social skills somewhat stunted. I'm still not a pro at setting boundaries, and I some times miss hints when other people set boundaries. I feel really shitty when I cross boundaries, so I try to maintain an emotional distance from people so I don't accidentally cross them. This leaves me feeling isolated. I feel like if I had a surrogate family, I could pick these skills up. Don't get me wrong, therapy is working well for me, but I really want to get some hands on experience interacting with people in a safe and loving environment, so I can learn the social skills necessary to identify good people to be around, and to know how interact with them. I'm sometimes think a survivor of BPD parent group therapy coupled with a social activity would do the trick. Like cooking dinner together, or going to a park, etc.... With a therapist or two to help make sure that we that we keep the experience positive and constructive. Any one have any thoughts on this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2010 Report Share Posted August 9, 2010 I like the 12 step idea, but another thought - what are you passionate about? Get involved in it and you will meet tons of friends. As for me, I think I'm the opposite, extremely outgoing, friendly, expressive. . . I always have a million projects and I volunteer for everything. Can you say parentified? And can you say people pleaser? Etc. . .. I often wonder how much of my personality is a flea and how much of it is me in there. > > > yes groups like 12-step groups have helped me to learn some of the social > skills i lacked growing up.. and meeting like -minded people there have led > to lasting friendships and opportunities for social activities. it is a > learning process, one day at a time.ann > > > > From: Zaire <sinyud@... <sinyud%40gmail.com>> > Subject: Re-wiring my brain > To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com> > Date: Sunday, August 1, 2010, 10:43 AM > > > > > The trauma I've suffered at my borderline parents hands has left a huge > hole > > in my ability to feel safe interacting with other people. My resulting > > avoidance of personal interactions has left my social skills somewhat > > stunted. I'm still not a pro at setting boundaries, and I some times miss > > hints when other people set boundaries. I feel really shitty when I cross > > boundaries, so I try to maintain an emotional distance from people so I > > don't accidentally cross them. This leaves me feeling isolated. > > I feel like if I had a surrogate family, I could pick these skills up. > > Don't get me wrong, therapy is working well for me, but I really want to > > get some hands on experience interacting with people in a safe and loving > > environment, so I can learn the social skills necessary to identify good > > people to be around, and to know how interact with them. > > I'm sometimes think a survivor of BPD parent group therapy coupled with a > > social activity would do the trick. Like cooking dinner together, or going > > to a park, etc.... With a therapist or two to help make sure that we that > > we keep the experience positive and constructive. > > Any one have any thoughts on this? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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