Going NC?

[Guest guest]

Hello,

I am leaning more and more towards going NC officially with nada. I still

have some things to work out and on another board a new concern has

emerged. I still do not know how to handle FOO members when going NC with

nada. I am having a hard time deciding if I want to notify nada and/or FOO

about the decision. I have also realized that there are things I cannot

stop that nada can do and I don't know if or how much responsibility I

have. If nada lists me as next of kin and is hospitalized, what if anything

am I responsible for when the hospital calls? Legally do I have to make

decisions, go to the hospital, pay the bills? Nada is severely in debt if

she passes do I become responsible for her debt? For medical or nursing home

expenses? Can my brother sue me to have me help with medical or final

expenses? If my mother leaves something to me or instructions to me in her

will do I have to accept or comply?

Nada once before gave my SSN to a utility company she owed money to and they

came after me for the debt. Even though I was 17 when the debt was accrued

and she provided my SSN after the fact when I was 19 I cannot get it

removed. I am told that if they have my SSN then I must have agreed to the

debt, even though they know and have on record that nada provided the SSN.

Can she do this again? Put me down on her debts without my knowledge or

consent? I am now afraid that whatever I do to go NC that there will be

times that I have no choice but to help.