Re: How many days if travel? Insurance pay? Daughter embarrassed! Overall shame!!

[Guest guest]

Dear Paddy,

You are bound to have many questions, and in the files section there

is a FAQ section and also a folder with explant information in it. I

will post some of this information for you. Once you've looked it

over, if you still have questions, please ask.

Some doctors will be able to consult with you the day before your

surgery, I believe. But of course, you will need to follow their

recommendations. I don't know exactly how many days you will need to

be gone, but this is all information that you can discuss with the

doctor. Some prefer that you stay in town long enough for the drains

to be removed; others may not leave the drains in very long and let

you go home quite soon after surgery. It all depends on what they

prefer, and how well you heal.

You should discuss any concerns about your health in preparation for

surgery beforehand with the doctors by phone, and let them guide you.

I'm sorry that this has been a difficult prospect for your

children...my husband was also not supportive initially and it hurt!

But the best way that I know of to get through this difficult time is

to be fully convinced in your own heart that this is absolutely the

best thing you can do for yourself, and let them see that you are

standing by your conviction no matter what, and that you believe it

is the right thing for you and them. Most children admire the

strength others exhibit. Hopefully, this will be a chance for all of

you to experience a new closeness and togetherness, and your children

can learn the importance of being there for you and honoring you as

their mother. I have no clue what your family dynamics are, and

sometimes these things are not easy. But remain hopeful!

Paddy, if there is anything I can do for you as you struggle with

what you've called the " humiliation " , the desire of my heart is to

confirm for you your value as a woman above all! You are a treasure

that God loves deeply. You are more than a pair of boobs, and I'm

praying that once those implants are removed, you will feel liberated

and free, as so many of us have. There is no need for shame. There

is something about being free of implants that allows you to

experience authenticity in a new way, with appreciation of your

uniqueness. People may notice that you look different, and many

times they will ask something like, " Have you lost weight? " There is

no shame in keeping it a private matter if that is what you are most

comfortable with. And if talking about your health issues as a

result of implants feels appropriate too, then you can help enlighten

other people about the dangers of implants (especially since the

doctors are not doing it!) The bottom line is this: Experiencing the

authenticity of being " naturally you " again can be empowering if you

let it be. It's all a matter of belief, and replacing lies with the

truth. Shame is a negative emotion that you can toss out the door,

and replace it with the positive emotion that you have learned the

truth about your implants, and you have the strength to move toward

healing now!

You can overcome any obstacle with the right attitude. The lie is

that our boobs matter. The truth is that they really don't...when

life is all said and done, and we are on our death bed, our boobs

will be the last thing we are concerned about. They won't matter!

What will matter is the relationships that we've had with our

friends, our family, our loved ones, and the fullness and richness of

those relationships that we've built over the years. I'll be

praying that this will be an opportunity for you all to grow closer

together, as you share with them your needs and concerns.

Believe in your future...it will be much brighter when you are free

of those toxic implants!

Take care,

Patty

>

> I really don't even know where to begin, but want to start working

> towards getting these things out of me..starting tomorrow. What do

I

> need to do?? If I have to travel to Ohio or Georgia, how many days

> do I need to plan to be gone? Is there a checklist somewhere of

> things to do? Doesn't a doctor need to see me in advance; I mean,

> does this require more than one trip? How do I know if I am

healthy

> enough to have surgery?

>

> As far as insurance, I have group coverage and a thick med file. I

> think my chiro and family doctor would support that they need to

come

> out because my shoulders are visually rounded forward, and I have

> breathing problems; which I think they would say is worsened

because

> of implants??

>

> I talked to my 11 year old tonight and was very surprised by her

> response which is " what about my school conferences? " Further

> discussion disclosed she was embarrassed at the thought that I

would

> go from being large chested to small and my health being better

> didn't seem of much interest.

>

> What about humiliation?? I've never even told anyone that these

big

> boobs I have are fake because I'm ashamed and embarrassed-they've

> always drawn attention which is something I never anticipated. I

> think my kids have grown up proud of my big, stupid, boobs... I'm

> sorry but this is something I struggle with... not getting rid of

> them but the lack of support from my kids. Well, long story, hard

to

> explain. I have no problem getting rid of them; I would like to

> blend in.

>

[Guest guest]

Paddy,

I love your attitude! You've chosen the right way, dear one, with

refusing to give in to anger, bitterness and depression. Though let

me tell you, when most women discover that it is actually their

implants that have made them ill, they have a right to be angry. Those

doctors have led us down a dark path by telling us that implants are safe.

But once we experience that anger, we have to let it go. Anger and

bitter emotions destroy us all, though some people like to wallow in

it. There is freedom on the other side of forgiveness, not for THEM,

but for US!!

So, make that phone call to Cleveland! Dr. Lu Feng is one of the

most compassionate and expert plastic surgeons for explant in this

country, and we've had many, many women tell us that the first phone

call was a breath of fresh air and brought sweet relief. I do not

believe that Dr. Feng's office takes insurance though. Please let me

know if that is what you find to be the case.

Paddy, you have a long road of healing ahead of you, but I'm here and

other sweet and caring women are here to give you hope. We've had

dozens and dozens of women move on with life after coming here

hopeless...they've gone on to get married, go back to school, get new

careers, have more babies, and just LIVE again. So, we absolutely know

that there is life after breast implants for many women. I am a

testimony to that, if you've read my story!

But the healing process is not the same for everyone, and we have no

idea how long it will take. Everyone has different physical

impairments...while we share many of the same symptoms, we don't

always share the same degree of debilitation. Everyone is

biologically unique, so that while one woman may have horrible brain

fog, another woman may not, but have a different area of the body

under more severe attack, but just be just as debilitated. I think it

is all a matter of the immune system, the strength of the liver and

eliminative processes, the digestive system, the endocrine system, the

different environmental exposures we've had, what we eat or don't eat,

and all of that. It's a big complicated mosaic of issues.

So, we tackle them by detoxing the body, and supporting the bodily

processes that create good health. You'll learn more about detoxing as

you go along, and that will be vital. There are so many easy things

you can do at home, that are cheap, safe and effective...so this

doesn't have to cost you an arm and a leg.

But the most important thing first is to get those implants out and

that will be the most expensive. Call Dr. Feng in Cleveland today and

then let us know what they've told you.

I'm praying for you Paddy, and trusting God for paving the way for you

to make everything possible.

Hugs,

Patty

>

>

> Patty...thank you for the info and your kind, supportive words. My

> family will have to deal with their issues-I am going to do this. If

> it is a path I have to walk alone..so be it. It certainly has been

> an extremely lonely path for the last 8 years. I no longer exist...I

> left many, many years ago and my kids don't even know it because it

> was so long ago. I know it, and my mom knows it. My joy remains, my

> happiness remains, my soul remains, but the core of my personality

> was put in to a coma many, many years ago. This site has given me

> hope that it might reawaken-if we can just get these damn blocks

> lifted off my chest. I used to spend my days with my children,

> running, rollerblading, biking, hiking, cmping, wieghtlifting, etc..

> Busy-busy- busy. My two older ones are gone and when they see me now

> they think I've just become lazy. I've been sick you younger ones

> entire childhood so she doesn't know any different and I don't think

> she believes I was really active at one time. I think she too thinks

> I'm sorta just lazy. The years have been spent watching movies; day

> in and day out; there isn't anything else I can do. I could be crazy,

> angry, bitter, depressed, etc., but those emotions would only make me

> more miserable so I choose the complete opposite emotions. Now you

> tell me there may be a way out of this comatose lifestyle...well I " m

> jumping in both feet. Here I am; reporting for duty! What next?

> Sounds like I need to call Cleveland in the morning. Check!

>