Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 Well, I've never been able to completely refrain from doing this. One of the reasons I was happy to find IE when I did was that I had noticed when I got back from living in Africa for the Peace Corps that I had a tendency to check out my reflection in anything shiny, and to judge myself because of it. I was really tired of being so critical. The best advice that I can think of would be to try to think of something you like about the way you look, even if it's something small and try to think of that when you find yourself doing this. You don't have to love everything about your reflection, but everyone has something good. If you really can't think of anything about your looks, maybe there is something about your personality, etc. that you can remind yourself of. I still find myself being critical about my reflection, but I try to mix in some positive thoughts when I can. > > How do you refrain from doing body checks? I find that i do this subtly and deliberately. i do it on myself when I see myself in a mirror or my shadow. I'm about 184 lbs.( my doctor weighs me and announces my weight, I don't go near a scale)and that may be my " normal weight " factoring in my age, genetics and activity level. How do I accept this? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 Well, I've never been able to completely refrain from doing this. One of the reasons I was happy to find IE when I did was that I had noticed when I got back from living in Africa for the Peace Corps that I had a tendency to check out my reflection in anything shiny, and to judge myself because of it. I was really tired of being so critical. The best advice that I can think of would be to try to think of something you like about the way you look, even if it's something small and try to think of that when you find yourself doing this. You don't have to love everything about your reflection, but everyone has something good. If you really can't think of anything about your looks, maybe there is something about your personality, etc. that you can remind yourself of. I still find myself being critical about my reflection, but I try to mix in some positive thoughts when I can. > > How do you refrain from doing body checks? I find that i do this subtly and deliberately. i do it on myself when I see myself in a mirror or my shadow. I'm about 184 lbs.( my doctor weighs me and announces my weight, I don't go near a scale)and that may be my " normal weight " factoring in my age, genetics and activity level. How do I accept this? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 Well, I've never been able to completely refrain from doing this. One of the reasons I was happy to find IE when I did was that I had noticed when I got back from living in Africa for the Peace Corps that I had a tendency to check out my reflection in anything shiny, and to judge myself because of it. I was really tired of being so critical. The best advice that I can think of would be to try to think of something you like about the way you look, even if it's something small and try to think of that when you find yourself doing this. You don't have to love everything about your reflection, but everyone has something good. If you really can't think of anything about your looks, maybe there is something about your personality, etc. that you can remind yourself of. I still find myself being critical about my reflection, but I try to mix in some positive thoughts when I can. > > How do you refrain from doing body checks? I find that i do this subtly and deliberately. i do it on myself when I see myself in a mirror or my shadow. I'm about 184 lbs.( my doctor weighs me and announces my weight, I don't go near a scale)and that may be my " normal weight " factoring in my age, genetics and activity level. How do I accept this? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2010 Report Share Posted August 5, 2010 I just had another thought about this that I thought I would share. Actually, less my thought and more Geneen Roth. This morning after I had worked out at the gym, I caught myself being critical of my image in the mirror in the locker room. I tried the " positive thing " approach, and I guess it was a nice mix to the negative thoughts I was having but I don't think it really got to the root of the issue. Anyway, I've been reading " Breaking Free From Emotional Eating " by Geneen Roth the past few days, and the chapter I started on today happened to be about judgement- judging ourselves, our bodies, dealing with judgements of loved ones. If you are interested, it was a good and relevant read. I think what struck me the most after reading the chapter is the distinction that Roth makes between judging and being aware. She says that awareness begets change while judgement usually just makes the situation worse. She had a number of exercises to do on judgement; in general, I think the most useful thing she said was to try and be aware and to question (not berate) yourself about why you are judging yourself or about what the reality of the situation is. My experience, I don't know about others here, is that I have times when I feel unattractive and I have times when I feel attractive, and I do think that this is kind of separate from reality. I think I could look exactly the same on two different days and feel totally ugly on one and feel pretty on the other, and I think that has been true no matter what weight I've been at. So judging myself and berating myself over my looks probably has limited utility. It's probably more useful to gently question why I am thinking this way than to get caught up in the action. I don't know if that helps, but I felt like it was relevant. > > How do you refrain from doing body checks? I find that i do this subtly and deliberately. i do it on myself when I see myself in a mirror or my shadow. I'm about 184 lbs.( my doctor weighs me and announces my weight, I don't go near a scale)and that may be my " normal weight " factoring in my age, genetics and activity level. How do I accept this? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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