Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I found this article on BPD: http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/office/htm/bpd.htm The writer has some valid points, but goes on to say that people with BPD don't " want " their disorder. I have a hard time with this. People with BPD don't want to ADMIT they have the disorder is much more believable. If I was diagnosed with cancer, I'd have treatment. If I had diabetes, I'd go to the doctor. If I had BPD, I'd get help. So why didn't my mother get help? Because a) she wouldn't admit she needed help and she obviously didn't love her children enough to protect them from her own problems. It's that last one that really bothers me most. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I understand your point, but I differ with you slightly. They did not seek thier disorder, or try to obtain it. But once developing it, they are highly resistant to admitting or changing any part of it. I don t think any of them desire to be as they are. As horrible as they are to us, I truly belive the suffer all the torments of the damned inside thier own lives. They are thier own punishement. Yet try as they might, most cannot let go and heal. We can, . That is what matters. WE CAN! May we all heal. Doug > > > > I found this article on BPD: http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/office/htm/bpd.htm > > The writer has some valid points, but goes on to say that people with BPD don't " want " their disorder. > > I have a hard time with this. People with BPD don't want to ADMIT they have the disorder is much more believable. > > If I was diagnosed with cancer, I'd have treatment. If I had diabetes, I'd go to the doctor. If I had BPD, I'd get help. So why didn't my mother get help? Because a) she wouldn't admit she needed help and she obviously didn't love her children enough to protect them from her own problems. > > It's that last one that really bothers me most. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I understand your point, but I differ with you slightly. They did not seek thier disorder, or try to obtain it. But once developing it, they are highly resistant to admitting or changing any part of it. I don t think any of them desire to be as they are. As horrible as they are to us, I truly belive the suffer all the torments of the damned inside thier own lives. They are thier own punishement. Yet try as they might, most cannot let go and heal. We can, . That is what matters. WE CAN! May we all heal. Doug > > > > I found this article on BPD: http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/office/htm/bpd.htm > > The writer has some valid points, but goes on to say that people with BPD don't " want " their disorder. > > I have a hard time with this. People with BPD don't want to ADMIT they have the disorder is much more believable. > > If I was diagnosed with cancer, I'd have treatment. If I had diabetes, I'd go to the doctor. If I had BPD, I'd get help. So why didn't my mother get help? Because a) she wouldn't admit she needed help and she obviously didn't love her children enough to protect them from her own problems. > > It's that last one that really bothers me most. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I understand your point, but I differ with you slightly. They did not seek thier disorder, or try to obtain it. But once developing it, they are highly resistant to admitting or changing any part of it. I don t think any of them desire to be as they are. As horrible as they are to us, I truly belive the suffer all the torments of the damned inside thier own lives. They are thier own punishement. Yet try as they might, most cannot let go and heal. We can, . That is what matters. WE CAN! May we all heal. Doug > > > > I found this article on BPD: http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/office/htm/bpd.htm > > The writer has some valid points, but goes on to say that people with BPD don't " want " their disorder. > > I have a hard time with this. People with BPD don't want to ADMIT they have the disorder is much more believable. > > If I was diagnosed with cancer, I'd have treatment. If I had diabetes, I'd go to the doctor. If I had BPD, I'd get help. So why didn't my mother get help? Because a) she wouldn't admit she needed help and she obviously didn't love her children enough to protect them from her own problems. > > It's that last one that really bothers me most. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2010 Report Share Posted August 23, 2010 yeah, I dont believe they wanted it either, but I do believe now that they have it, they know and do not care to change it because it gets them the attention they seek. Re: BPD...they don't want it? I understand your point, but I differ with you slightly. They did not seek thier disorder, or try to obtain it. But once developing it, they are highly resistant to admitting or changing any part of it. I don t think any of them desire to be as they are. As horrible as they are to us, I truly belive the suffer all the torments of the damned inside thier own lives. They are thier own punishement. Yet try as they might, most cannot let go and heal. We can, . That is what matters. WE CAN! May we all heal. Doug > > > > I found this article on BPD: http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/office/htm/bpd.htm > > The writer has some valid points, but goes on to say that people with BPD don't " want " their disorder. > > I have a hard time with this. People with BPD don't want to ADMIT they have the disorder is much more believable. > > If I was diagnosed with cancer, I'd have treatment. If I had diabetes, I'd go to the doctor. If I had BPD, I'd get help. So why didn't my mother get help? Because a) she wouldn't admit she needed help and she obviously didn't love her children enough to protect them from her own problems. > > It's that last one that really bothers me most. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2010 Report Share Posted August 23, 2010 I'd like to add to LB's point, each nada is different, some may want to change, however others don't, others think the world should adjust to them and try to force it to do so. I think alhtough there are similarities in all our experieces there are major differences, like when this group was first started to now where there are treatments for it now. more later proflaf Subject: Re: BPD...they don't want it? To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Monday, August 23, 2010, 11:24 AM  and Doug, I think as we go through our journey of loving a person with BPD we go through different phases for example maybe anger, peace, pain, or understanding, we feel differently about our loved one with BPD at different times. I think maybe you are able to understand each other but view this slightly different right now because you both may be walking the same path, but just not quite on the same spot of the journey. LB > > > > > > > > I found this article on BPD: > http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/office/htm/bpd.htm > > > > The writer has some valid points, but goes on to say that people with > BPD don't " want " their disorder. > > > > I have a hard time with this. People with BPD don't want to ADMIT > they have the disorder is much more believable. > > > > If I was diagnosed with cancer, I'd have treatment. If I had diabetes, > I'd go to the doctor. If I had BPD, I'd get help. So why didn't my > mother get help? Because a) she wouldn't admit she needed help and > she obviously didn't love her children enough to protect them from her > own problems. > > > > It's that last one that really bothers me most. > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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