Re: As long as you don't make me mad

[Guest guest]

Ninera, congrats on your award!!!! YAY!!!!!

Yeah, I don't know if my nada said " satan spawn " but stuff along those

lines. I was like a 3.8 GPA student and it wasn't ever good enough for her.

Yet my bro got Cs, Ds, Fs and he was golden.

So I've been thinking A LOT lately about how she used to scream at me quotes

for Shakespeare (because she had to prove how intelligent she was) so she

would yell (with that raging snake look): " More Bitter than A SERPANT " S

TOOTH it is to have a THANKLESS CHILD! "

Of course, this is King Lear and he is talking about the only daughter he

had (of 3) who actually had good, honest intentions toward him and later he

is proven a fool for not trusting her. Nice mom, you look real smart now. I

read that play in 10th grade English, duh.

Okay I feel better. But I think I am going to embroider a pillow or

something with that quote on it. Call it art therapy.

>

>

>

> They are so dramatic, aren't they? My mother once said I was " worse than a

> kid on drugs " because I had snuck off (at 19, mind you) to go see the

> fireworks at the beach with my friends FROM CHURCH. She took my car away for

> 6 months. A car I paid for.

>

> I told my therapist today that if I knew then what I do now, I'd have done

> exactly what I wanted to do and not let her get away with her crap.

>

>

> Re: " As long as you don't make me mad "

> > To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>

> > Date: Wednesday, August 25, 2010, 12:44 AM

> > Sometimes I tell my mother " Call me

> > back when you're done with your temper tantrum. " And she'll

> > leave me voicemails or emails that say " I would have had a

> > tantrum if you didn't... *whatever I did/said she didn't

> > like " . No responsibility for her own actions, no realization

> > that no matter what I did or said 57 year olds should be

> > throwing tantrums!!

> >

> > She also told me a lot of things like that as a kid, like

> > " Why do you like to hurt me? " Sometimes making it sound like

> > my purpose in life - hell my EXISTANCE - is just to hurt

> > her.

> >

> > A couple weeks ago she determined that EVERYTHING i do is

> > because i hate her and so I'm trying to " rebel " (i'm way

> > past that - i'm almost 30) and do everything opposite. Her

> > examples are that I'm fat and don't ever exercise (I don't

> > even know why she determined I don't exercise, I was just

> > telling her a few days before this that I tried to go on my

> > exercise bike 3 times a week), that I picked my partner

> > based on what she wouldn't like (yes I don't actually feel

> > love, I just pretend to love someone to piss her off), and

> > that I am a computer nerd because I knew it would piss her

> > off to be so much like my dad. It's like I have no self at

> > all, everything I do or don't do or like is all about her!

> >

> > More quotes from childhood - " I had to have another kid

> > because you didn't love me enough " " Don't make your brother

> > hit you! " (my brother was also never considered responsible

> > for his actions, except if he hit HER) " Why did you make me

> > say/do that? " " You must like it when I'm depressed/mat or

> > you wouldn't make me be that way! "

> >

> >

> >

> > > > >

> > > > > This is the USUAL catchy phrase that my nada

> > uses every time she comes for a visit.

> > > > > She starts with a " well, let's hope that

> > everythig goes well.. " and to the typical response " Why

> > shouldn't it go well? " she always ends with a cryptic

> > " things will go well, as long as you don't make me mad " ,

> > which infuriates me right away.

> > > > >

> > > > > She knows very well that the rage and the

> > arguments are always around the corner, but with a

> > 'preemptive strike' she put the blame already on me, no

> > matter what. Even before nothing happens, she is ready to

> > blame me or my family if SHE starts acting up.

> > > > >

> > > > > They are devilish, aren't they?

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------------------------------

> >

> > **This group is based on principles in Randi Kreger's new

> > book The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality

> > Disorder: New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells,

> > available at www.BPDCentral.com.** Problems? Write

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> > Recommended: " Toxic Parents, " " Surviving a Borderline

> > Parent, " and " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (hard to

> > find)

[Guest guest]

Ninera, congrats on your award!!!! YAY!!!!!

Yeah, I don't know if my nada said " satan spawn " but stuff along those

lines. I was like a 3.8 GPA student and it wasn't ever good enough for her.

Yet my bro got Cs, Ds, Fs and he was golden.

So I've been thinking A LOT lately about how she used to scream at me quotes

for Shakespeare (because she had to prove how intelligent she was) so she

would yell (with that raging snake look): " More Bitter than A SERPANT " S

TOOTH it is to have a THANKLESS CHILD! "

Of course, this is King Lear and he is talking about the only daughter he

had (of 3) who actually had good, honest intentions toward him and later he

is proven a fool for not trusting her. Nice mom, you look real smart now. I

read that play in 10th grade English, duh.

Okay I feel better. But I think I am going to embroider a pillow or

something with that quote on it. Call it art therapy.

>

>

>

> They are so dramatic, aren't they? My mother once said I was " worse than a

> kid on drugs " because I had snuck off (at 19, mind you) to go see the

> fireworks at the beach with my friends FROM CHURCH. She took my car away for

> 6 months. A car I paid for.

>

> I told my therapist today that if I knew then what I do now, I'd have done

> exactly what I wanted to do and not let her get away with her crap.

>

>

> Re: " As long as you don't make me mad "

> > To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>

> > Date: Wednesday, August 25, 2010, 12:44 AM

> > Sometimes I tell my mother " Call me

> > back when you're done with your temper tantrum. " And she'll

> > leave me voicemails or emails that say " I would have had a

> > tantrum if you didn't... *whatever I did/said she didn't

> > like " . No responsibility for her own actions, no realization

> > that no matter what I did or said 57 year olds should be

> > throwing tantrums!!

> >

> > She also told me a lot of things like that as a kid, like

> > " Why do you like to hurt me? " Sometimes making it sound like

> > my purpose in life - hell my EXISTANCE - is just to hurt

> > her.

> >

> > A couple weeks ago she determined that EVERYTHING i do is

> > because i hate her and so I'm trying to " rebel " (i'm way

> > past that - i'm almost 30) and do everything opposite. Her

> > examples are that I'm fat and don't ever exercise (I don't

> > even know why she determined I don't exercise, I was just

> > telling her a few days before this that I tried to go on my

> > exercise bike 3 times a week), that I picked my partner

> > based on what she wouldn't like (yes I don't actually feel

> > love, I just pretend to love someone to piss her off), and

> > that I am a computer nerd because I knew it would piss her

> > off to be so much like my dad. It's like I have no self at

> > all, everything I do or don't do or like is all about her!

> >

> > More quotes from childhood - " I had to have another kid

> > because you didn't love me enough " " Don't make your brother

> > hit you! " (my brother was also never considered responsible

> > for his actions, except if he hit HER) " Why did you make me

> > say/do that? " " You must like it when I'm depressed/mat or

> > you wouldn't make me be that way! "

> >

> >

> >

> > > > >

> > > > > This is the USUAL catchy phrase that my nada

> > uses every time she comes for a visit.

> > > > > She starts with a " well, let's hope that

> > everythig goes well.. " and to the typical response " Why

> > shouldn't it go well? " she always ends with a cryptic

> > " things will go well, as long as you don't make me mad " ,

> > which infuriates me right away.

> > > > >

> > > > > She knows very well that the rage and the

> > arguments are always around the corner, but with a

> > 'preemptive strike' she put the blame already on me, no

> > matter what. Even before nothing happens, she is ready to

> > blame me or my family if SHE starts acting up.

> > > > >

> > > > > They are devilish, aren't they?

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------------------------------

> >

> > **This group is based on principles in Randi Kreger's new

> > book The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality

> > Disorder: New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells,

> > available at www.BPDCentral.com.** Problems? Write

@...<%40BPDCentral.com>

> .

> > DO NOT RESPOND ON THE LIST.

> >

> > To unsub from this list, send a blank email to

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> .

> >

> >

> > Recommended: " Toxic Parents, " " Surviving a Borderline

> > Parent, " and " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (hard to

> > find)

[Guest guest]

Ninera, congrats on your award!!!! YAY!!!!!

Yeah, I don't know if my nada said " satan spawn " but stuff along those

lines. I was like a 3.8 GPA student and it wasn't ever good enough for her.

Yet my bro got Cs, Ds, Fs and he was golden.

So I've been thinking A LOT lately about how she used to scream at me quotes

for Shakespeare (because she had to prove how intelligent she was) so she

would yell (with that raging snake look): " More Bitter than A SERPANT " S

TOOTH it is to have a THANKLESS CHILD! "

Of course, this is King Lear and he is talking about the only daughter he

had (of 3) who actually had good, honest intentions toward him and later he

is proven a fool for not trusting her. Nice mom, you look real smart now. I

read that play in 10th grade English, duh.

Okay I feel better. But I think I am going to embroider a pillow or

something with that quote on it. Call it art therapy.

>

>

>

> They are so dramatic, aren't they? My mother once said I was " worse than a

> kid on drugs " because I had snuck off (at 19, mind you) to go see the

> fireworks at the beach with my friends FROM CHURCH. She took my car away for

> 6 months. A car I paid for.

>

> I told my therapist today that if I knew then what I do now, I'd have done

> exactly what I wanted to do and not let her get away with her crap.

>

>

> Re: " As long as you don't make me mad "

> > To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>

> > Date: Wednesday, August 25, 2010, 12:44 AM

> > Sometimes I tell my mother " Call me

> > back when you're done with your temper tantrum. " And she'll

> > leave me voicemails or emails that say " I would have had a

> > tantrum if you didn't... *whatever I did/said she didn't

> > like " . No responsibility for her own actions, no realization

> > that no matter what I did or said 57 year olds should be

> > throwing tantrums!!

> >

> > She also told me a lot of things like that as a kid, like

> > " Why do you like to hurt me? " Sometimes making it sound like

> > my purpose in life - hell my EXISTANCE - is just to hurt

> > her.

> >

> > A couple weeks ago she determined that EVERYTHING i do is

> > because i hate her and so I'm trying to " rebel " (i'm way

> > past that - i'm almost 30) and do everything opposite. Her

> > examples are that I'm fat and don't ever exercise (I don't

> > even know why she determined I don't exercise, I was just

> > telling her a few days before this that I tried to go on my

> > exercise bike 3 times a week), that I picked my partner

> > based on what she wouldn't like (yes I don't actually feel

> > love, I just pretend to love someone to piss her off), and

> > that I am a computer nerd because I knew it would piss her

> > off to be so much like my dad. It's like I have no self at

> > all, everything I do or don't do or like is all about her!

> >

> > More quotes from childhood - " I had to have another kid

> > because you didn't love me enough " " Don't make your brother

> > hit you! " (my brother was also never considered responsible

> > for his actions, except if he hit HER) " Why did you make me

> > say/do that? " " You must like it when I'm depressed/mat or

> > you wouldn't make me be that way! "

> >

> >

> >

> > > > >

> > > > > This is the USUAL catchy phrase that my nada

> > uses every time she comes for a visit.

> > > > > She starts with a " well, let's hope that

> > everythig goes well.. " and to the typical response " Why

> > shouldn't it go well? " she always ends with a cryptic

> > " things will go well, as long as you don't make me mad " ,

> > which infuriates me right away.

> > > > >

> > > > > She knows very well that the rage and the

> > arguments are always around the corner, but with a

> > 'preemptive strike' she put the blame already on me, no

> > matter what. Even before nothing happens, she is ready to

> > blame me or my family if SHE starts acting up.

> > > > >

> > > > > They are devilish, aren't they?

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------------------------------

> >

> > **This group is based on principles in Randi Kreger's new

> > book The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality

> > Disorder: New Tips and Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells,

> > available at www.BPDCentral.com.** Problems? Write

@...<%40BPDCentral.com>

> .

> > DO NOT RESPOND ON THE LIST.

> >

> > To unsub from this list, send a blank email to

>

WTOAdultChildren1-unsubscribe <WTOAdultChildren1-unsubscribe%40ya\

hoogroups.com>

> .

> >

> >

> > Recommended: " Toxic Parents, " " Surviving a Borderline

> > Parent, " and " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (hard to

> > find)