Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? proflaf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Yeppers. Nada " loves " her dogs so much that she doesn't get them vaccines, tags, regular vet care, lets them get way overweight, lets them suffer with pain until it's an emergency before going to the vet, never bathes or grooms them, never walks them, and never trains them. If anyone dare suggest though that her " babies " are misbehaved and unsafe she will defend them to the end of time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Yeppers. Nada " loves " her dogs so much that she doesn't get them vaccines, tags, regular vet care, lets them get way overweight, lets them suffer with pain until it's an emergency before going to the vet, never bathes or grooms them, never walks them, and never trains them. If anyone dare suggest though that her " babies " are misbehaved and unsafe she will defend them to the end of time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Yeppers. Nada " loves " her dogs so much that she doesn't get them vaccines, tags, regular vet care, lets them get way overweight, lets them suffer with pain until it's an emergency before going to the vet, never bathes or grooms them, never walks them, and never trains them. If anyone dare suggest though that her " babies " are misbehaved and unsafe she will defend them to the end of time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Yep, like Girlscout's nada mine flirted with animal hoarder territory as well. I also was exposed to the death of kittens in my arms and up close views of decaying bodies and bodies hit by cars as I " helped " her retrieve and bury them. I can't begin to say how much it traumatized me. She seemed to have no understanding that a child should be shielded from these things - at least somewhat - and that it was a parent's duty to help them process the emotions of what they couldn't be shielded from. My nada always treated the cats with love as if they were dolls in a way. She loved to feed them and to interact with them. She didn't love cleaning up after them or making sure they had good quality food that they didn't have to compete with insects to eat. If a cat got ill or had a problem she rarely wanted to take it to the veterinarian - it was always " too much " even when she didn't know what was wrong. And she never, ever took responsibility for anything bad that happened with her pets even though sometimes it was quite clear she was at fault with her " benign " neglect. As for me, I still love cats and have them to this day. They were the only source of uncomplicated love for me growing up - which made it doubly traumatic when they died. And those cats of mine get better health care than I do. I probably take them to the vet too much and spend far too much on them, but it is important to me *every day* to not be like my nada in that way. Profafl, thanks for asking about this it helps to write about it. Good on you for giving a new life to your nada's pets. I think the pets do suffer with them. Eckart Tolle says that animals in their natural state are a perfect example of living in " the now " (or grace if you will) and they only become distorted from that while interacting with neurotic people. I believe him. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Yep, like Girlscout's nada mine flirted with animal hoarder territory as well. I also was exposed to the death of kittens in my arms and up close views of decaying bodies and bodies hit by cars as I " helped " her retrieve and bury them. I can't begin to say how much it traumatized me. She seemed to have no understanding that a child should be shielded from these things - at least somewhat - and that it was a parent's duty to help them process the emotions of what they couldn't be shielded from. My nada always treated the cats with love as if they were dolls in a way. She loved to feed them and to interact with them. She didn't love cleaning up after them or making sure they had good quality food that they didn't have to compete with insects to eat. If a cat got ill or had a problem she rarely wanted to take it to the veterinarian - it was always " too much " even when she didn't know what was wrong. And she never, ever took responsibility for anything bad that happened with her pets even though sometimes it was quite clear she was at fault with her " benign " neglect. As for me, I still love cats and have them to this day. They were the only source of uncomplicated love for me growing up - which made it doubly traumatic when they died. And those cats of mine get better health care than I do. I probably take them to the vet too much and spend far too much on them, but it is important to me *every day* to not be like my nada in that way. Profafl, thanks for asking about this it helps to write about it. Good on you for giving a new life to your nada's pets. I think the pets do suffer with them. Eckart Tolle says that animals in their natural state are a perfect example of living in " the now " (or grace if you will) and they only become distorted from that while interacting with neurotic people. I believe him. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Yep, like Girlscout's nada mine flirted with animal hoarder territory as well. I also was exposed to the death of kittens in my arms and up close views of decaying bodies and bodies hit by cars as I " helped " her retrieve and bury them. I can't begin to say how much it traumatized me. She seemed to have no understanding that a child should be shielded from these things - at least somewhat - and that it was a parent's duty to help them process the emotions of what they couldn't be shielded from. My nada always treated the cats with love as if they were dolls in a way. She loved to feed them and to interact with them. She didn't love cleaning up after them or making sure they had good quality food that they didn't have to compete with insects to eat. If a cat got ill or had a problem she rarely wanted to take it to the veterinarian - it was always " too much " even when she didn't know what was wrong. And she never, ever took responsibility for anything bad that happened with her pets even though sometimes it was quite clear she was at fault with her " benign " neglect. As for me, I still love cats and have them to this day. They were the only source of uncomplicated love for me growing up - which made it doubly traumatic when they died. And those cats of mine get better health care than I do. I probably take them to the vet too much and spend far too much on them, but it is important to me *every day* to not be like my nada in that way. Profafl, thanks for asking about this it helps to write about it. Good on you for giving a new life to your nada's pets. I think the pets do suffer with them. Eckart Tolle says that animals in their natural state are a perfect example of living in " the now " (or grace if you will) and they only become distorted from that while interacting with neurotic people. I believe him. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Nadas only care about nada! My nada openly HATES animals except small WHITE dogs and even then she never let me have any pets growing up except birds which SHE loved so even then it was all about her. BPD is a mental illness as we all know so since they could never even care for their own CHILD OR CHILDREN properly - at least emotionally, then why would any of us expect them to be good to an animal? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Nadas only care about nada! My nada openly HATES animals except small WHITE dogs and even then she never let me have any pets growing up except birds which SHE loved so even then it was all about her. BPD is a mental illness as we all know so since they could never even care for their own CHILD OR CHILDREN properly - at least emotionally, then why would any of us expect them to be good to an animal? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Nadas only care about nada! My nada openly HATES animals except small WHITE dogs and even then she never let me have any pets growing up except birds which SHE loved so even then it was all about her. BPD is a mental illness as we all know so since they could never even care for their own CHILD OR CHILDREN properly - at least emotionally, then why would any of us expect them to be good to an animal? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Thought so. She didn't flirt in hoarder terraotry as much as neglectful terratory. She didn't do bad when dad was alive, just a matter of the animals would come to me or dad instead of her. Let's say the last 7 years has probably been rough on them. Someone else wound up with the dogs luckily. They were probably so messed so messed up it will take a lot of time to correct the behavioral damage done. Apparently the poodle was a disaster area grooming wise. Supposidly has a nice temperment, sorry that dog is an idiot, it's nada's monkeys thinking she's a nice girl, NOT. Who knows with that other dog how little training she did with it. I'm wondering if they could potentially be the " attatchment' figure they speak of too since she had nobody or if one of her monkey friends became the attatchment figure. Strange bunch of people she hung out with. Wonder if they sense the mental instability becausxe since tabby has been with me and Jon and Charlie she's hardly hid at all, used to hide with my parents all the time. more later. proflaf Subject: Re: nadas and pets To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Sunday, August 22, 2010, 7:20 PM  Yep, like Girlscout's nada mine flirted with animal hoarder territory as well. I also was exposed to the death of kittens in my arms and up close views of decaying bodies and bodies hit by cars as I " helped " her retrieve and bury them. I can't begin to say how much it traumatized me. She seemed to have no understanding that a child should be shielded from these things - at least somewhat - and that it was a parent's duty to help them process the emotions of what they couldn't be shielded from. My nada always treated the cats with love as if they were dolls in a way. She loved to feed them and to interact with them. She didn't love cleaning up after them or making sure they had good quality food that they didn't have to compete with insects to eat. If a cat got ill or had a problem she rarely wanted to take it to the veterinarian - it was always " too much " even when she didn't know what was wrong. And she never, ever took responsibility for anything bad that happened with her pets even though sometimes it was quite clear she was at fault with her " benign " neglect. As for me, I still love cats and have them to this day. They were the only source of uncomplicated love for me growing up - which made it doubly traumatic when they died. And those cats of mine get better health care than I do. I probably take them to the vet too much and spend far too much on them, but it is important to me *every day* to not be like my nada in that way. Profafl, thanks for asking about this it helps to write about it. Good on you for giving a new life to your nada's pets. I think the pets do suffer with them. Eckart Tolle says that animals in their natural state are a perfect example of living in " the now " (or grace if you will) and they only become distorted from that while interacting with neurotic people. I believe him. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Thought so. She didn't flirt in hoarder terraotry as much as neglectful terratory. She didn't do bad when dad was alive, just a matter of the animals would come to me or dad instead of her. Let's say the last 7 years has probably been rough on them. Someone else wound up with the dogs luckily. They were probably so messed so messed up it will take a lot of time to correct the behavioral damage done. Apparently the poodle was a disaster area grooming wise. Supposidly has a nice temperment, sorry that dog is an idiot, it's nada's monkeys thinking she's a nice girl, NOT. Who knows with that other dog how little training she did with it. I'm wondering if they could potentially be the " attatchment' figure they speak of too since she had nobody or if one of her monkey friends became the attatchment figure. Strange bunch of people she hung out with. Wonder if they sense the mental instability becausxe since tabby has been with me and Jon and Charlie she's hardly hid at all, used to hide with my parents all the time. more later. proflaf Subject: Re: nadas and pets To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Sunday, August 22, 2010, 7:20 PM  Yep, like Girlscout's nada mine flirted with animal hoarder territory as well. I also was exposed to the death of kittens in my arms and up close views of decaying bodies and bodies hit by cars as I " helped " her retrieve and bury them. I can't begin to say how much it traumatized me. She seemed to have no understanding that a child should be shielded from these things - at least somewhat - and that it was a parent's duty to help them process the emotions of what they couldn't be shielded from. My nada always treated the cats with love as if they were dolls in a way. She loved to feed them and to interact with them. She didn't love cleaning up after them or making sure they had good quality food that they didn't have to compete with insects to eat. If a cat got ill or had a problem she rarely wanted to take it to the veterinarian - it was always " too much " even when she didn't know what was wrong. And she never, ever took responsibility for anything bad that happened with her pets even though sometimes it was quite clear she was at fault with her " benign " neglect. As for me, I still love cats and have them to this day. They were the only source of uncomplicated love for me growing up - which made it doubly traumatic when they died. And those cats of mine get better health care than I do. I probably take them to the vet too much and spend far too much on them, but it is important to me *every day* to not be like my nada in that way. Profafl, thanks for asking about this it helps to write about it. Good on you for giving a new life to your nada's pets. I think the pets do suffer with them. Eckart Tolle says that animals in their natural state are a perfect example of living in " the now " (or grace if you will) and they only become distorted from that while interacting with neurotic people. I believe him. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 Thought so. She didn't flirt in hoarder terraotry as much as neglectful terratory. She didn't do bad when dad was alive, just a matter of the animals would come to me or dad instead of her. Let's say the last 7 years has probably been rough on them. Someone else wound up with the dogs luckily. They were probably so messed so messed up it will take a lot of time to correct the behavioral damage done. Apparently the poodle was a disaster area grooming wise. Supposidly has a nice temperment, sorry that dog is an idiot, it's nada's monkeys thinking she's a nice girl, NOT. Who knows with that other dog how little training she did with it. I'm wondering if they could potentially be the " attatchment' figure they speak of too since she had nobody or if one of her monkey friends became the attatchment figure. Strange bunch of people she hung out with. Wonder if they sense the mental instability becausxe since tabby has been with me and Jon and Charlie she's hardly hid at all, used to hide with my parents all the time. more later. proflaf Subject: Re: nadas and pets To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Sunday, August 22, 2010, 7:20 PM  Yep, like Girlscout's nada mine flirted with animal hoarder territory as well. I also was exposed to the death of kittens in my arms and up close views of decaying bodies and bodies hit by cars as I " helped " her retrieve and bury them. I can't begin to say how much it traumatized me. She seemed to have no understanding that a child should be shielded from these things - at least somewhat - and that it was a parent's duty to help them process the emotions of what they couldn't be shielded from. My nada always treated the cats with love as if they were dolls in a way. She loved to feed them and to interact with them. She didn't love cleaning up after them or making sure they had good quality food that they didn't have to compete with insects to eat. If a cat got ill or had a problem she rarely wanted to take it to the veterinarian - it was always " too much " even when she didn't know what was wrong. And she never, ever took responsibility for anything bad that happened with her pets even though sometimes it was quite clear she was at fault with her " benign " neglect. As for me, I still love cats and have them to this day. They were the only source of uncomplicated love for me growing up - which made it doubly traumatic when they died. And those cats of mine get better health care than I do. I probably take them to the vet too much and spend far too much on them, but it is important to me *every day* to not be like my nada in that way. Profafl, thanks for asking about this it helps to write about it. Good on you for giving a new life to your nada's pets. I think the pets do suffer with them. Eckart Tolle says that animals in their natural state are a perfect example of living in " the now " (or grace if you will) and they only become distorted from that while interacting with neurotic people. I believe him. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 My nada (and dishrag dad) were just terrible about pets. Simply awful. In the interest of revealing conflicts of interest, I am a huge softie when it comes to animals. That said, I found it jaw-dropping that my parents would buy animals and expect them to behave without any constructive effort on their part. For example, one of their cats took to jumping up on counters. They did absolutely nothing to fix this, just screamed at the cat and b!tched to me about the cat's behavior. Ultimately, they had the cat put to sleep. Except nada's explanation to me was that the cat " went away " . They also got a beautiful golden retriever, let it run wild on their farm, and would then beat it when it misbehaved. No treats, no positive feedback, ever. That pet, too, was put to sleep. They've gone through a number of pets that way, including mine which they had put to sleep while I was at school, because I " wasn't taking care of it " . The first I had heard that I wasn't meeting their pet-care standards was after the dog was dead. Arrrggghhh. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 My nada (and dishrag dad) were just terrible about pets. Simply awful. In the interest of revealing conflicts of interest, I am a huge softie when it comes to animals. That said, I found it jaw-dropping that my parents would buy animals and expect them to behave without any constructive effort on their part. For example, one of their cats took to jumping up on counters. They did absolutely nothing to fix this, just screamed at the cat and b!tched to me about the cat's behavior. Ultimately, they had the cat put to sleep. Except nada's explanation to me was that the cat " went away " . They also got a beautiful golden retriever, let it run wild on their farm, and would then beat it when it misbehaved. No treats, no positive feedback, ever. That pet, too, was put to sleep. They've gone through a number of pets that way, including mine which they had put to sleep while I was at school, because I " wasn't taking care of it " . The first I had heard that I wasn't meeting their pet-care standards was after the dog was dead. Arrrggghhh. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 My nada (and dishrag dad) were just terrible about pets. Simply awful. In the interest of revealing conflicts of interest, I am a huge softie when it comes to animals. That said, I found it jaw-dropping that my parents would buy animals and expect them to behave without any constructive effort on their part. For example, one of their cats took to jumping up on counters. They did absolutely nothing to fix this, just screamed at the cat and b!tched to me about the cat's behavior. Ultimately, they had the cat put to sleep. Except nada's explanation to me was that the cat " went away " . They also got a beautiful golden retriever, let it run wild on their farm, and would then beat it when it misbehaved. No treats, no positive feedback, ever. That pet, too, was put to sleep. They've gone through a number of pets that way, including mine which they had put to sleep while I was at school, because I " wasn't taking care of it " . The first I had heard that I wasn't meeting their pet-care standards was after the dog was dead. Arrrggghhh. > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so poorly? > proflaf > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I hate to even say it, but some by some crazy lack of supervision, my nada is allowed to teach vulerable elementary school children (a thought that keeps me up at night). She has hamsters in her classrooms. Her hamsters continually meet bad end, after bad end, after bad end, after bad end, so bad I won't even say it. Its too upsetting. She's doesn't seem to realize that when you have a pet in your home or your class, you are responsible for keeping it alive and giving it a good life. As I'm writing this, my little terrier is sitting contentedly in my lap like a little princess. She has been sitting there for at least a half hour as I work on the computer. I love her so much. I can tell she is happy and trusts me because of the way she sits there, with total faith that I want her there and that I will take care of her. . . . Nada's poor animals. At least the ones at her house have my dad to keep them alive, the ones in her classroom though. . .there outta be a law, right? On Sun, Aug 22, 2010 at 7:11 PM, writermanque wrote: > > > My nada (and dishrag dad) were just terrible about pets. Simply awful. In > the interest of revealing conflicts of interest, I am a huge softie when it > comes to animals. That said, I found it jaw-dropping that my parents would > buy animals and expect them to behave without any constructive effort on > their part. For example, one of their cats took to jumping up on counters. > They did absolutely nothing to fix this, just screamed at the cat and > b!tched to me about the cat's behavior. Ultimately, they had the cat put to > sleep. Except nada's explanation to me was that the cat " went away " . They > also got a beautiful golden retriever, let it run wild on their farm, and > would then beat it when it misbehaved. No treats, no positive feedback, > ever. That pet, too, was put to sleep. They've gone through a number of pets > that way, including mine which they had put to sleep while I was at school, > because I " wasn't taking care of it " . The first I had heard that I wasn't > meeting their pet-care standards was after the dog was dead. > > Arrrggghhh. > > > > > > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the > younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty > well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm > wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds > like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that > took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like > hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was > getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking > to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced > too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me > when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so > poorly? > > proflaf > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I hate to even say it, but some by some crazy lack of supervision, my nada is allowed to teach vulerable elementary school children (a thought that keeps me up at night). She has hamsters in her classrooms. Her hamsters continually meet bad end, after bad end, after bad end, after bad end, so bad I won't even say it. Its too upsetting. She's doesn't seem to realize that when you have a pet in your home or your class, you are responsible for keeping it alive and giving it a good life. As I'm writing this, my little terrier is sitting contentedly in my lap like a little princess. She has been sitting there for at least a half hour as I work on the computer. I love her so much. I can tell she is happy and trusts me because of the way she sits there, with total faith that I want her there and that I will take care of her. . . . Nada's poor animals. At least the ones at her house have my dad to keep them alive, the ones in her classroom though. . .there outta be a law, right? On Sun, Aug 22, 2010 at 7:11 PM, writermanque wrote: > > > My nada (and dishrag dad) were just terrible about pets. Simply awful. In > the interest of revealing conflicts of interest, I am a huge softie when it > comes to animals. That said, I found it jaw-dropping that my parents would > buy animals and expect them to behave without any constructive effort on > their part. For example, one of their cats took to jumping up on counters. > They did absolutely nothing to fix this, just screamed at the cat and > b!tched to me about the cat's behavior. Ultimately, they had the cat put to > sleep. Except nada's explanation to me was that the cat " went away " . They > also got a beautiful golden retriever, let it run wild on their farm, and > would then beat it when it misbehaved. No treats, no positive feedback, > ever. That pet, too, was put to sleep. They've gone through a number of pets > that way, including mine which they had put to sleep while I was at school, > because I " wasn't taking care of it " . The first I had heard that I wasn't > meeting their pet-care standards was after the dog was dead. > > Arrrggghhh. > > > > > > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the > younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty > well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm > wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds > like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that > took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like > hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was > getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking > to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced > too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me > when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so > poorly? > > proflaf > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 I hate to even say it, but some by some crazy lack of supervision, my nada is allowed to teach vulerable elementary school children (a thought that keeps me up at night). She has hamsters in her classrooms. Her hamsters continually meet bad end, after bad end, after bad end, after bad end, so bad I won't even say it. Its too upsetting. She's doesn't seem to realize that when you have a pet in your home or your class, you are responsible for keeping it alive and giving it a good life. As I'm writing this, my little terrier is sitting contentedly in my lap like a little princess. She has been sitting there for at least a half hour as I work on the computer. I love her so much. I can tell she is happy and trusts me because of the way she sits there, with total faith that I want her there and that I will take care of her. . . . Nada's poor animals. At least the ones at her house have my dad to keep them alive, the ones in her classroom though. . .there outta be a law, right? On Sun, Aug 22, 2010 at 7:11 PM, writermanque wrote: > > > My nada (and dishrag dad) were just terrible about pets. Simply awful. In > the interest of revealing conflicts of interest, I am a huge softie when it > comes to animals. That said, I found it jaw-dropping that my parents would > buy animals and expect them to behave without any constructive effort on > their part. For example, one of their cats took to jumping up on counters. > They did absolutely nothing to fix this, just screamed at the cat and > b!tched to me about the cat's behavior. Ultimately, they had the cat put to > sleep. Except nada's explanation to me was that the cat " went away " . They > also got a beautiful golden retriever, let it run wild on their farm, and > would then beat it when it misbehaved. No treats, no positive feedback, > ever. That pet, too, was put to sleep. They've gone through a number of pets > that way, including mine which they had put to sleep while I was at school, > because I " wasn't taking care of it " . The first I had heard that I wasn't > meeting their pet-care standards was after the dog was dead. > > Arrrggghhh. > > > > > > > I now have nada's kitties that I rescues from her creepy friends and the > younger one is doing pretty good and even the older one is doing pretty > well, it's pretty obvious they ahve dealt with some neglect and I'm > wondering if you guys had nadas that weren't good with the pets. Sounds > like their caregivers weren't too sure what to think, the gentleman that > took care of them but didn't know what to do about it. Cuddles sounds like > hadn't been groomed in awhile (poodle that someone else took), and tabby was > getting skinny (one o fmy kitty rescues). I know my dog never took a liking > to her at all and I never left my animnals with her unless I was forced > too. Tabby was stuck there because nada woudln't let me take her with me > when I left. Poor kitties, anyone else see thier nadas neglect animals so > poorly? > > proflaf > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 When I was about 8, my mom took our beloved family pet cat to the pound because she didn't like it. We cried and pleaded but she would not relent. Years later she told me a story of how when she was a girl she had tried to drown her cat because it was " stinky. " It appears that she has no ability to bond with furry loveable creatures. This is a great metaphor for how she has treated me. No ability to bond with a loveable child, and determined to get rid of me because she didn't like me. In my case, both of my parents succeeded at getting rid of me. They were so foul that I chose to leave home at 16 and I never went back. I have been NC for 30 years. I bet that the BDP's that mistreat their pets mistreat their children in the same way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 When I was about 8, my mom took our beloved family pet cat to the pound because she didn't like it. We cried and pleaded but she would not relent. Years later she told me a story of how when she was a girl she had tried to drown her cat because it was " stinky. " It appears that she has no ability to bond with furry loveable creatures. This is a great metaphor for how she has treated me. No ability to bond with a loveable child, and determined to get rid of me because she didn't like me. In my case, both of my parents succeeded at getting rid of me. They were so foul that I chose to leave home at 16 and I never went back. I have been NC for 30 years. I bet that the BDP's that mistreat their pets mistreat their children in the same way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 When I was about 8, my mom took our beloved family pet cat to the pound because she didn't like it. We cried and pleaded but she would not relent. Years later she told me a story of how when she was a girl she had tried to drown her cat because it was " stinky. " It appears that she has no ability to bond with furry loveable creatures. This is a great metaphor for how she has treated me. No ability to bond with a loveable child, and determined to get rid of me because she didn't like me. In my case, both of my parents succeeded at getting rid of me. They were so foul that I chose to leave home at 16 and I never went back. I have been NC for 30 years. I bet that the BDP's that mistreat their pets mistreat their children in the same way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 > I bet that the BDP's that mistreat their pets mistreat their children in the same way. > , I'm in total agreement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 > I bet that the BDP's that mistreat their pets mistreat their children in the same way. > , I'm in total agreement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2010 Report Share Posted August 22, 2010 > I bet that the BDP's that mistreat their pets mistreat their children in the same way. > , I'm in total agreement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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