Re: oof. need some support guys :(

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Jenna,Poor you. That sucks. I'm so sorry you are feeling bad right now. << hugs >>You are not alone.One thing that i practiced when I was shopping on Friday and despairing over my thighs was saying to myself, over and over, " Who cares? So what? "

Who cares if my thighs are lumpy? So what if I went up a size?Did the world stop turning? Did my value as a human being change? Does anything about my appearance REALLY matter?

This really did help me.Remember how much happier you are now that you are not constantly fighting your weight. And that you QUIT SMOKING!!!!!! that's HUGE!!! the number one thing you could've done to improve your health. that is AMAZING and you should be PROUD of yourself. (for the record, dieting and especially the rebound that always accompany diets... BAD for your health.)

(as an aside, where I live in NYC, a lot of people do not use " thick " as an insult... quite the contrary... and also, they are not so hung up on weight = worth of a human being, so commenting on someone's weight is more like commenting on hair color. so don't be sure that she was judging you harshly.)

and so you did gain a LITTLE weight. so what??? who cares????you are a happier and healthier person. with so much to feel good about! and your weight says NOTHING about who you are.

i hope this is helpful. all the best, and with sympathy,Abby

 

Hello Everyone, I am so upset right now. I got really triggered by something someone said and when stuff like this happens it is so hard to not go right back into dieting mentality.

For several years I was a size 12... partially due to living overseas, partially to not eating, partially to smoking almost a pack a day, Then I returned to the US and got a desk job and while I did diet it was a constant and eternal fight to remain at a 12. So about two years ago quitting smoking was the " last nail in the coffin " that and getting away from a very abusive relationship....as it were and my weight went back to about a size 12, last year I got tired of fighting my body and let myself go back to where it usually is, a size 14.. and Ive been working really really hard to accept

myself.This morning a cleaning lady who I have not seen in probably 3 years or so came in and grabbed my arms saying, " Wow girl you got really really thick! You have been eating a lot, haven't you? You used to be thin! "

And I did not really respond she is just this little old lady but it triggered in me all the old stuff, the shame, feeling like an utter loser cause I cant keep thin, mostly shame though, and feeling like, wow have I gotten " that " bad? I need to diet. ASAP.

I really need some encouragement right now bccause I am fighting major tears here at my desk at work. :(Jenna

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Jenna,Poor you. That sucks. I'm so sorry you are feeling bad right now. << hugs >>You are not alone.One thing that i practiced when I was shopping on Friday and despairing over my thighs was saying to myself, over and over, " Who cares? So what? "

Who cares if my thighs are lumpy? So what if I went up a size?Did the world stop turning? Did my value as a human being change? Does anything about my appearance REALLY matter?

This really did help me.Remember how much happier you are now that you are not constantly fighting your weight. And that you QUIT SMOKING!!!!!! that's HUGE!!! the number one thing you could've done to improve your health. that is AMAZING and you should be PROUD of yourself. (for the record, dieting and especially the rebound that always accompany diets... BAD for your health.)

(as an aside, where I live in NYC, a lot of people do not use " thick " as an insult... quite the contrary... and also, they are not so hung up on weight = worth of a human being, so commenting on someone's weight is more like commenting on hair color. so don't be sure that she was judging you harshly.)

and so you did gain a LITTLE weight. so what??? who cares????you are a happier and healthier person. with so much to feel good about! and your weight says NOTHING about who you are.

i hope this is helpful. all the best, and with sympathy,Abby

 

Hello Everyone, I am so upset right now. I got really triggered by something someone said and when stuff like this happens it is so hard to not go right back into dieting mentality.

For several years I was a size 12... partially due to living overseas, partially to not eating, partially to smoking almost a pack a day, Then I returned to the US and got a desk job and while I did diet it was a constant and eternal fight to remain at a 12. So about two years ago quitting smoking was the " last nail in the coffin " that and getting away from a very abusive relationship....as it were and my weight went back to about a size 12, last year I got tired of fighting my body and let myself go back to where it usually is, a size 14.. and Ive been working really really hard to accept

myself.This morning a cleaning lady who I have not seen in probably 3 years or so came in and grabbed my arms saying, " Wow girl you got really really thick! You have been eating a lot, haven't you? You used to be thin! "

And I did not really respond she is just this little old lady but it triggered in me all the old stuff, the shame, feeling like an utter loser cause I cant keep thin, mostly shame though, and feeling like, wow have I gotten " that " bad? I need to diet. ASAP.

I really need some encouragement right now bccause I am fighting major tears here at my desk at work. :(Jenna

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Jenna,Poor you. That sucks. I'm so sorry you are feeling bad right now. << hugs >>You are not alone.One thing that i practiced when I was shopping on Friday and despairing over my thighs was saying to myself, over and over, " Who cares? So what? "

Who cares if my thighs are lumpy? So what if I went up a size?Did the world stop turning? Did my value as a human being change? Does anything about my appearance REALLY matter?

This really did help me.Remember how much happier you are now that you are not constantly fighting your weight. And that you QUIT SMOKING!!!!!! that's HUGE!!! the number one thing you could've done to improve your health. that is AMAZING and you should be PROUD of yourself. (for the record, dieting and especially the rebound that always accompany diets... BAD for your health.)

(as an aside, where I live in NYC, a lot of people do not use " thick " as an insult... quite the contrary... and also, they are not so hung up on weight = worth of a human being, so commenting on someone's weight is more like commenting on hair color. so don't be sure that she was judging you harshly.)

and so you did gain a LITTLE weight. so what??? who cares????you are a happier and healthier person. with so much to feel good about! and your weight says NOTHING about who you are.

i hope this is helpful. all the best, and with sympathy,Abby

 

Hello Everyone, I am so upset right now. I got really triggered by something someone said and when stuff like this happens it is so hard to not go right back into dieting mentality.

For several years I was a size 12... partially due to living overseas, partially to not eating, partially to smoking almost a pack a day, Then I returned to the US and got a desk job and while I did diet it was a constant and eternal fight to remain at a 12. So about two years ago quitting smoking was the " last nail in the coffin " that and getting away from a very abusive relationship....as it were and my weight went back to about a size 12, last year I got tired of fighting my body and let myself go back to where it usually is, a size 14.. and Ive been working really really hard to accept

myself.This morning a cleaning lady who I have not seen in probably 3 years or so came in and grabbed my arms saying, " Wow girl you got really really thick! You have been eating a lot, haven't you? You used to be thin! "

And I did not really respond she is just this little old lady but it triggered in me all the old stuff, the shame, feeling like an utter loser cause I cant keep thin, mostly shame though, and feeling like, wow have I gotten " that " bad? I need to diet. ASAP.

I really need some encouragement right now bccause I am fighting major tears here at my desk at work. :(Jenna

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Hi, Jenna.

I know from experience that it takes hard work to wrestle bad-body feelings to the ground. Mine can also get triggered easily, but you have to actually work, aggressively and intentionally, to talk back to them. I figure skate - a world where everyone but me is skinny. I had a day last week when I went in and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and it triggered simply awful body shame, so much so that it interfered with my ability to focus on skating. I struggled hard with pointing out to myself things like: You felt okay about yourself two days ago and you can't have gained anything appreciable in two days, so this bad feeling is not really related to what you weigh; you can do one killer sit spin even carrying many extra pounds; no one really cares what you weigh, they care how you related to THEM; you are capable of bringing your focus back to practicing your skating. It took about a half hour to get back to a place of feeling good about myself again and it took hard work to get there. It seems that each time I do it, it gets a little easier. Hope this is of some help to you. Good luck!

Hello Everyone, I am so upset right now. I got really triggered by something someone said and when stuff like this happens it is so hard to not go right back into dieting mentality.For several years I was a size 12... partially due to living overseas, partially to not eating, partially to smoking almost a pack a day, Then I returned to the US and got a desk job and while I did diet it was a constant and eternal fight to remain at a 12. So about two years ago quitting smoking was the "last nail in the coffin" that and getting away from a very abusive relationship....as it were and my weight went back to about a size 12, last year I got tired of fighting my body and let myself go back to where it usually is, a size 14.. and Ive been working really really hard to accept myself.This morning a cleaning lady who I have not seen in probably 3 years or so came in and grabbed my arms saying, "Wow girl you got really really thick! You have been eating a lot, haven't you? You used to be thin!"And I did not really respond she is just this little old lady but it triggered in me all the old stuff, the shame, feeling like an utter loser cause I cant keep thin, mostly shame though, and feeling like, wow have I gotten "that" bad? I need to diet. ASAP. I really need some encouragement right now bccause I am fighting major tears here at my desk at work. :(Jenna

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