Re: WF&G thought breakthrough

January 21, 2011

Good for you Dawn!

I feel this way too. I wasn't abused but rather use food as the center of my life. It became my friend as a child. Nothing more nothing less. I fed myself because I felt I was lacking or to distract myself from something else.

Chris

January 21, 2011

Good for you Dawn!

I feel this way too. I wasn't abused but rather use food as the center of my life. It became my friend as a child. Nothing more nothing less. I fed myself because I felt I was lacking or to distract myself from something else.

Chris

January 21, 2011

Good for you Dawn!

I feel this way too. I wasn't abused but rather use food as the center of my life. It became my friend as a child. Nothing more nothing less. I fed myself because I felt I was lacking or to distract myself from something else.

Chris

January 21, 2011

Dawn - That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young. Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile.

Dawn

January 21, 2011

Dawn - That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young. Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile.

Dawn

January 21, 2011

Dawn - That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young. Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile.

Dawn

January 22, 2011

Dawn,

I love those moments of everyday meditation, like washing dishes, were those

flashes of insights have time to come through! I'm glad for you that you made

the connection for yourself about what food means for your own life and its

connection to comfort.

The best resource that I've found through all of my readings about intuitive

eating, emotional eating, and self care, is " When Women Stop Hating Their

Bodies " by Hirschmann and Munter. Have you read WWSHTB yet? The whole third

section of the book is about " mouth hunger " and self-care. Because I didn't like

the title of the book, when I read the book, I started at chapter 11: Mouth

Hunger, read through the end, and then read the beginning chapters. The insight

in this book really made sense to me and took me to the next level in my ability

to self-care without using food.

Cheers to more insights and growth this year!

Latoya

>

> Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I

was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what

she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big

hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against

that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt

outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway,

this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating

for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized

that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort

when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and

for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow.

I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read

pile.

>

> Dawn

>

January 22, 2011

Latoya-I have that book, sitting open on my nightstand, but the first bit I've read has left me cold, so it's been sitting that way for a couple months. I will try hard to overcome my need to read straight through in order and pick it up at your recommendation. Thanks.DawnTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sat, January 22, 2011 5:02:25 AMSubject: Re: WF & G thought breakthrough

Dawn,

I love those moments of everyday meditation, like washing dishes, were those flashes of insights have time to come through! I'm glad for you that you made the connection for yourself about what food means for your own life and its connection to comfort.

The best resource that I've found through all of my readings about intuitive eating, emotional eating, and self care, is "When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies" by Hirschmann and Munter. Have you read WWSHTB yet? The whole third section of the book is about "mouth hunger" and self-care. Because I didn't like the title of the book, when I read the book, I started at chapter 11: Mouth Hunger, read through the end, and then read the beginning chapters. The insight in this book really made sense to me and took me to the next level in my ability to self-care without using food.

Cheers to more insights and growth this year!

Latoya

>

> Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read

pile.

>

> Dawn

>

January 22, 2011

Latoya-I have that book, sitting open on my nightstand, but the first bit I've read has left me cold, so it's been sitting that way for a couple months. I will try hard to overcome my need to read straight through in order and pick it up at your recommendation. Thanks.DawnTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sat, January 22, 2011 5:02:25 AMSubject: Re: WF & G thought breakthrough

Dawn,

I love those moments of everyday meditation, like washing dishes, were those flashes of insights have time to come through! I'm glad for you that you made the connection for yourself about what food means for your own life and its connection to comfort.

The best resource that I've found through all of my readings about intuitive eating, emotional eating, and self care, is "When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies" by Hirschmann and Munter. Have you read WWSHTB yet? The whole third section of the book is about "mouth hunger" and self-care. Because I didn't like the title of the book, when I read the book, I started at chapter 11: Mouth Hunger, read through the end, and then read the beginning chapters. The insight in this book really made sense to me and took me to the next level in my ability to self-care without using food.

Cheers to more insights and growth this year!

Latoya

>

> Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read

pile.

>

> Dawn

>

January 22, 2011

Latoya-I have that book, sitting open on my nightstand, but the first bit I've read has left me cold, so it's been sitting that way for a couple months. I will try hard to overcome my need to read straight through in order and pick it up at your recommendation. Thanks.DawnTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sat, January 22, 2011 5:02:25 AMSubject: Re: WF & G thought breakthrough

Dawn,

I love those moments of everyday meditation, like washing dishes, were those flashes of insights have time to come through! I'm glad for you that you made the connection for yourself about what food means for your own life and its connection to comfort.

The best resource that I've found through all of my readings about intuitive eating, emotional eating, and self care, is "When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies" by Hirschmann and Munter. Have you read WWSHTB yet? The whole third section of the book is about "mouth hunger" and self-care. Because I didn't like the title of the book, when I read the book, I started at chapter 11: Mouth Hunger, read through the end, and then read the beginning chapters. The insight in this book really made sense to me and took me to the next level in my ability to self-care without using food.

Cheers to more insights and growth this year!

Latoya

>

> Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read

pile.

>

> Dawn

>

January 22, 2011

Dawn,

I feel ya! I had heard about WWSTHB for almost a year on this group before I got

it. The title really put me off. However, people kept mentioning it. So, I went

to Amazon to check out the chapter titles. When I saw " Mouth Hunger " as a

chapter, I knew that I had to get the book.

After reading a gazillion of books, I'm an advocate for going straight to the

section that I need! Honestly by starting with Chapter 11, I was much more open

and willing to consider the beginning chapters. Truly, that third section of the

book could be its own book. Those beginning chapters have a very strong feminist

bent that more contemporary women may not connect with well on first read. As

I've re-read, I do have an appreciation for the first two sections of the book

as well. I'd love to hear what you think after you read through section 3.

L.

> >

> > Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning.

I

> >was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of

what

> >she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some

big

> >hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled

against

> >that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it

felt

> >outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater.

Anyway,

> >this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally

eating

> >for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized

> >that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is

comfort

> >when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort

and

> >for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough.

Wow.

> >I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to

read

> >pile.

> >

> > Dawn

> >

>

January 22, 2011

Dawn,

I feel ya! I had heard about WWSTHB for almost a year on this group before I got

it. The title really put me off. However, people kept mentioning it. So, I went

to Amazon to check out the chapter titles. When I saw " Mouth Hunger " as a

chapter, I knew that I had to get the book.

After reading a gazillion of books, I'm an advocate for going straight to the

section that I need! Honestly by starting with Chapter 11, I was much more open

and willing to consider the beginning chapters. Truly, that third section of the

book could be its own book. Those beginning chapters have a very strong feminist

bent that more contemporary women may not connect with well on first read. As

I've re-read, I do have an appreciation for the first two sections of the book

as well. I'd love to hear what you think after you read through section 3.

L.

> >

> > Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning.

I

> >was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of

what

> >she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some

big

> >hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled

against

> >that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it

felt

> >outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater.

Anyway,

> >this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally

eating

> >for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized

> >that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is

comfort

> >when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort

and

> >for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough.

Wow.

> >I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to

read

> >pile.

> >

> > Dawn

> >

>

January 22, 2011

Dawn,

I feel ya! I had heard about WWSTHB for almost a year on this group before I got

it. The title really put me off. However, people kept mentioning it. So, I went

to Amazon to check out the chapter titles. When I saw " Mouth Hunger " as a

chapter, I knew that I had to get the book.

After reading a gazillion of books, I'm an advocate for going straight to the

section that I need! Honestly by starting with Chapter 11, I was much more open

and willing to consider the beginning chapters. Truly, that third section of the

book could be its own book. Those beginning chapters have a very strong feminist

bent that more contemporary women may not connect with well on first read. As

I've re-read, I do have an appreciation for the first two sections of the book

as well. I'd love to hear what you think after you read through section 3.

L.

> >

> > Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning.

I

> >was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of

what

> >she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some

big

> >hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled

against

> >that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it

felt

> >outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater.

Anyway,

> >this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally

eating

> >for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized

> >that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is

comfort

> >when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort

and

> >for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough.

Wow.

> >I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to

read

> >pile.

> >

> > Dawn

> >

>

January 22, 2011

Dawn and ,

From a different vantage point, I also feel food is comfort for all sorts of difficult feelings. But unlike you, I did have a pretty awful childhood, which in a way I think has been a distraction from the simple reality that food feels good (until it feels bad!). I've joined with many therapists in making the assumption that my eating woes were connected to my difficult early life - and maybe in part they were - but that assumption also missed the point that food is just plain comforting. I feel that I have an opportunity now to address that reality and develop other sources of comfort, or learn to use food in comforting ways that are more in sync with my body's hunger. And until then, I am not beating up on myself or thinking there is something terribly wrong with me coming from dark, early experience that is hopelessly hard to overcome. Thanks for your posts.

April

Dawn -

That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young.

Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile .Dawn

January 22, 2011

Dawn and ,

From a different vantage point, I also feel food is comfort for all sorts of difficult feelings. But unlike you, I did have a pretty awful childhood, which in a way I think has been a distraction from the simple reality that food feels good (until it feels bad!). I've joined with many therapists in making the assumption that my eating woes were connected to my difficult early life - and maybe in part they were - but that assumption also missed the point that food is just plain comforting. I feel that I have an opportunity now to address that reality and develop other sources of comfort, or learn to use food in comforting ways that are more in sync with my body's hunger. And until then, I am not beating up on myself or thinking there is something terribly wrong with me coming from dark, early experience that is hopelessly hard to overcome. Thanks for your posts.

April

Dawn -

That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young.

Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile .Dawn

January 22, 2011

Dawn and ,

From a different vantage point, I also feel food is comfort for all sorts of difficult feelings. But unlike you, I did have a pretty awful childhood, which in a way I think has been a distraction from the simple reality that food feels good (until it feels bad!). I've joined with many therapists in making the assumption that my eating woes were connected to my difficult early life - and maybe in part they were - but that assumption also missed the point that food is just plain comforting. I feel that I have an opportunity now to address that reality and develop other sources of comfort, or learn to use food in comforting ways that are more in sync with my body's hunger. And until then, I am not beating up on myself or thinking there is something terribly wrong with me coming from dark, early experience that is hopelessly hard to overcome. Thanks for your posts.

April

Dawn -

That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young.

Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile .Dawn

January 22, 2011

April - Thank you for sharing that. It's so interesting that so many of us are in the same or similar places right now but with totally different backgrounds. It's great that you are not beating yourself up but learning to overcome or at least get past how your childhood experiences affect you as an adult. And I agree. Food is comforting. Whether those thoughts are as a result of something that happened in our past or just part of our makeup of where we find comfort.

Dawn and ,

From a different vantage point, I also feel food is comfort for all sorts of difficult feelings. But unlike you, I did have a pretty awful childhood, which in a way I think has been a distraction from the simple reality that food feels good (until it feels bad!). I've joined with many therapists in making the assumption that my eating woes were connected to my difficult early life - and maybe in part they were - but that assumption also missed the point that food is just plain comforting. I feel that I have an opportunity now to address that reality and develop other sources of comfort, or learn to use food in comforting ways that are more in sync with my body's hunger. And until then, I am not beating up on myself or thinking there is something terribly wrong with me coming from dark, early experience that is hopelessly hard to overcome. Thanks for your posts.

April

Dawn -

That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young.

Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile .Dawn

January 22, 2011

April - Thank you for sharing that. It's so interesting that so many of us are in the same or similar places right now but with totally different backgrounds. It's great that you are not beating yourself up but learning to overcome or at least get past how your childhood experiences affect you as an adult. And I agree. Food is comforting. Whether those thoughts are as a result of something that happened in our past or just part of our makeup of where we find comfort.

Dawn and ,

From a different vantage point, I also feel food is comfort for all sorts of difficult feelings. But unlike you, I did have a pretty awful childhood, which in a way I think has been a distraction from the simple reality that food feels good (until it feels bad!). I've joined with many therapists in making the assumption that my eating woes were connected to my difficult early life - and maybe in part they were - but that assumption also missed the point that food is just plain comforting. I feel that I have an opportunity now to address that reality and develop other sources of comfort, or learn to use food in comforting ways that are more in sync with my body's hunger. And until then, I am not beating up on myself or thinking there is something terribly wrong with me coming from dark, early experience that is hopelessly hard to overcome. Thanks for your posts.

April

Dawn -

That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young.

Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile .Dawn

January 22, 2011

April - Thank you for sharing that. It's so interesting that so many of us are in the same or similar places right now but with totally different backgrounds. It's great that you are not beating yourself up but learning to overcome or at least get past how your childhood experiences affect you as an adult. And I agree. Food is comforting. Whether those thoughts are as a result of something that happened in our past or just part of our makeup of where we find comfort.

Dawn and ,

From a different vantage point, I also feel food is comfort for all sorts of difficult feelings. But unlike you, I did have a pretty awful childhood, which in a way I think has been a distraction from the simple reality that food feels good (until it feels bad!). I've joined with many therapists in making the assumption that my eating woes were connected to my difficult early life - and maybe in part they were - but that assumption also missed the point that food is just plain comforting. I feel that I have an opportunity now to address that reality and develop other sources of comfort, or learn to use food in comforting ways that are more in sync with my body's hunger. And until then, I am not beating up on myself or thinking there is something terribly wrong with me coming from dark, early experience that is hopelessly hard to overcome. Thanks for your posts.

April

Dawn -

That is a great realization that you made and it totally hit home with me. I too, didn't get WF & G when I first read it. I also didn't have a horrible childhood and have had a hard time figuring out what has triggered my binge and overeating. For me too, food was comfort when I was growing up. I have memories of going to the bakery with my Dad on Sunday mornings and sharing "a special treat just for us" in the car before we got home. There are so many memories of my Dad that revolved around food and I was very close to him. Unfortunately he passed away way too young.

Thanks for sharing your realization.

Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway, this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow. I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read pile .Dawn

January 22, 2011

Dawn and Latoya - Thanks for your thoughts on that book. I've had it for years and every time I picked it up and started from the beginning (isn't that the way we're supposed to read a book?) I couldn't get past the first few chapters. I just never thought to look forward to see if there was any valuable information in the later chapters. I will definitely do that. I also just started reading (again) May's book Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat. It's one of my favorite books about intuitive eating. I highly recommend it. And I found it much easier to read than WWSHTB.

Dawn,

I feel ya! I had heard about WWSTHB for almost a year on this group before I got it. The title really put me off. However, people kept mentioning it. So, I went to Amazon to check out the chapter titles. When I saw "Mouth Hunger" as a chapter, I knew that I had to get the book.

After reading a gazillion of books, I'm an advocate for going straight to the section that I need! Honestly by starting with Chapter 11, I was much more open and willing to consider the beginning chapters. Truly, that third section of the book could be its own book. Those beginning chapters have a very strong feminist bent that more contemporary women may not connect with well on first read. As I've re-read, I do have an appreciation for the first two sections of the book as well. I'd love to hear what you think after you read through section 3.

L.

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> > Just wanted to share a realization I had while washing dishes this morning. I

> >was one of those that when I first read WF & G, was unable to grasp much of what

> >she was saying because I felt that she was telling me that I must have some big

> >hidden issue from childhood to work find and work with. I've rebelled against

> >that thought and had trouble embracing the idea of emotional eating as it felt

> >outlined there, although I would acknowledge I am an emotional eater. Anyway,

> >this morning, as I was thinking about the cake I made last night (totally eating

> >for the comfort and allowing myself a food as self-care evening.) I realized

> >that it doesn't have to be that deep. Fact is, I learned that food is comfort

> >when growing up. Doesn't need to be any more than that. I eat for comfort and

> >for the good memories and chemical release to the brain and that's enough. Wow.

> >I finally feel ready to try the other G. Roth book I have sitting in my to read

> >pile.

> >

> > Dawn

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January 22, 2011