gaining weight and freaking out!! Help!!

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Well, I wish I could say I was so on top of things that I didn't know what you were talking about, but I gained two pounds according to my last time weighing, and I was immediately thinking, too, of going on restriction "just until" I lost a few pounds.

Would that that would work. The fact is, though, you yourself have proof positive that diets don't work, or else you wouldn't still feel you need to lose weight. In fact, diets make things worse, and worse, and worse. I don't know how old you are, but I'm nearly 60 and have been dieting in earnest since I was 12 or 13. And I've done nothing but gain more weight than I ever lost. I have managed, in that amount of time, to gain about 100 pounds. Please, please, don't go there.

Who was it who said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome? Well, that's the insanity of dieting. You might think that you just had the wrong diet for you. You might think that maybe if this time you just exercised more. I've been there. And look where it got me. I used to think I would *never* let myself get this heavy. I used to think people who were this much overweight were some kind of lazy, awful people. Well, here I am. Please don't think it can't happen to you. I fooled myself for nearly 50 years. I wish I'd found out about IE a long time ago, but back then there was only dieting, and if you weren't losing, you were a pathetic loser in another sense.

Instead of restricting myself this time, I started listening again to Geneen Roth's "When Food is Food and Love is Love." And when I got to the point where she describes women who leave her seminars saying they'll be back after they've just lost a little weight, and they do come back, 5, 10, or 15 years later, and they're 20, 30, or 40 pounds heavier...well, it took the restriction wind out of my sails. I'm back to IE. I hope you'll stay with this, too.

All best,

Laurie

>>>I'm up prob 5 pds since I started eating this way! In a lot of ways I feel a lot calmer around food....but since stepping on the scale I just want to run back to counting calories! I need to lose 30 pds..and I honestly don't know what to think right now. I know my mind is warped by these thoughts, I know my slef worth is not determined by that number....but I can't seem to stop these thoughts of feeling worthless and like a failure! I wish I could just not think about food every minute of every day. I can't imagine what I could be doing with all this time and energy I spend thinking about food, dieting, ways to loose weight etc! Its so frustrating! I could really use some words of advice here ladies...Help!!!!!<<<