Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 My nada ALWAYS and ONLY refers to her mil as " That Woman " > > > > Did your bpd parent ever refer to you as " that child " or " that girl " (or boy)? > > I was watching an excerpt on the news last night of Casey (the woman in florida who allegedly murdered her 2 year old daughter) and she kept saying over and over, " I loved THAT girl. " > > It makes me uncomfortable. Who refers to their own child as " that girl " or " that child? " > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 I think many people are sensitive to this, not just ko's. I work as a fill-in at a school and I was helping out in kindergarten one time during the flu season. It just so happened that about 3 kids were throwing up at the same time, and at the same time 1 little boy (who is partly crippled) wet his pants. Also at this same time the nurse was gone to lunch. I have filled in as health aid before so I am pretty comfortable in the nurse's office with small tasks, or in the classroom or lunch room, none of it really bothers me. So even though I was just filling in I kind of took charge when I stepped into the nurses office with a groupd of messy kids and 2 adults who were looking around for the clothing and buckets and stuff. I made the comment " you take care of that " pointing to the buckets and puke " and I will take care of this " referring to changing the wet pants of the child in braces. " Then you can go back to where you need to be and I will help out here till the nurse gets back " The other woman looked at me and I think she thought I was referring to the child when I said this and that, when I was in reality referring to the wet pants and the puke because she said " you mean _____ and _____ " . I felt really bad about it, because I knew the children's names but I was not talking about the child I was talking about the situations. I would never refer to a child as this and that I know how that feels, especially not 2 handicap students! I would not do that but I was not going to try to explain that, especially in front of children who needed to be helped ASAP. I know the students and care about them; I was referring to the messes that we had to clean fast. It just was a reminder that many people are very sensitive, and language can easily be misconstrued. > > > > Did your bpd parent ever refer to you as " that child " or " that girl " (or boy)? > > I was watching an excerpt on the news last night of Casey (the woman in florida who allegedly murdered her 2 year old daughter) and she kept saying over and over, " I loved THAT girl. " > > It makes me uncomfortable. Who refers to their own child as " that girl " or " that child? " > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 I think many people are sensitive to this, not just ko's. I work as a fill-in at a school and I was helping out in kindergarten one time during the flu season. It just so happened that about 3 kids were throwing up at the same time, and at the same time 1 little boy (who is partly crippled) wet his pants. Also at this same time the nurse was gone to lunch. I have filled in as health aid before so I am pretty comfortable in the nurse's office with small tasks, or in the classroom or lunch room, none of it really bothers me. So even though I was just filling in I kind of took charge when I stepped into the nurses office with a groupd of messy kids and 2 adults who were looking around for the clothing and buckets and stuff. I made the comment " you take care of that " pointing to the buckets and puke " and I will take care of this " referring to changing the wet pants of the child in braces. " Then you can go back to where you need to be and I will help out here till the nurse gets back " The other woman looked at me and I think she thought I was referring to the child when I said this and that, when I was in reality referring to the wet pants and the puke because she said " you mean _____ and _____ " . I felt really bad about it, because I knew the children's names but I was not talking about the child I was talking about the situations. I would never refer to a child as this and that I know how that feels, especially not 2 handicap students! I would not do that but I was not going to try to explain that, especially in front of children who needed to be helped ASAP. I know the students and care about them; I was referring to the messes that we had to clean fast. It just was a reminder that many people are very sensitive, and language can easily be misconstrued. > > > > Did your bpd parent ever refer to you as " that child " or " that girl " (or boy)? > > I was watching an excerpt on the news last night of Casey (the woman in florida who allegedly murdered her 2 year old daughter) and she kept saying over and over, " I loved THAT girl. " > > It makes me uncomfortable. Who refers to their own child as " that girl " or " that child? " > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 I think many people are sensitive to this, not just ko's. I work as a fill-in at a school and I was helping out in kindergarten one time during the flu season. It just so happened that about 3 kids were throwing up at the same time, and at the same time 1 little boy (who is partly crippled) wet his pants. Also at this same time the nurse was gone to lunch. I have filled in as health aid before so I am pretty comfortable in the nurse's office with small tasks, or in the classroom or lunch room, none of it really bothers me. So even though I was just filling in I kind of took charge when I stepped into the nurses office with a groupd of messy kids and 2 adults who were looking around for the clothing and buckets and stuff. I made the comment " you take care of that " pointing to the buckets and puke " and I will take care of this " referring to changing the wet pants of the child in braces. " Then you can go back to where you need to be and I will help out here till the nurse gets back " The other woman looked at me and I think she thought I was referring to the child when I said this and that, when I was in reality referring to the wet pants and the puke because she said " you mean _____ and _____ " . I felt really bad about it, because I knew the children's names but I was not talking about the child I was talking about the situations. I would never refer to a child as this and that I know how that feels, especially not 2 handicap students! I would not do that but I was not going to try to explain that, especially in front of children who needed to be helped ASAP. I know the students and care about them; I was referring to the messes that we had to clean fast. It just was a reminder that many people are very sensitive, and language can easily be misconstrued. > > > > Did your bpd parent ever refer to you as " that child " or " that girl " (or boy)? > > I was watching an excerpt on the news last night of Casey (the woman in florida who allegedly murdered her 2 year old daughter) and she kept saying over and over, " I loved THAT girl. " > > It makes me uncomfortable. Who refers to their own child as " that girl " or " that child? " > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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