Concerning Weight

[Guest guest]

Hello,

I have been started feeling really uncomfortable with some of the recent posts

and while I considered just disappearing, I felt I needed to say something. The

optimism and self respect with which people have written about their

relationships with food has provided invaluable reassurance in my journey to

make peace with food.

My concern is the increased frequency of people talking about weight loss needs

and goals (it is certainly not everyone, but it seems to being happening a lot

more recently). The perspective of most IE I have read is this: making weight

loss your goal has never resulted in weight loss for you before and making

weight loss your goal will not work now. And I understand that many people on

this list are trying IE because they wanted an alternative to diets but that

they still want to lose weight.

What I need to tell you is that for some people on this list, reading

discussions focusing on weight (losing weight, previous weights, needing to lose

weight, weight as health, gaining weight, needing to feel light, needing to feel

free, etc) can be upsetting and triggering. For some of us, losing is as

dangerous as gaining and the days we struggled with IE, we failed to eat

anything at all.

I know this is not an eating disorders list and as such, different rules apply

concerning talk about weight. I do not mean to stifle anyone's freedom of

speech; I just want people to be aware of potential consequences of their

comments. This post was not intended to offend anyone, and I am truly sorry if

it does. I hope to remain part of this community.

Thanks to all of you who have inspired me to keep trying even when the journey

seems impossible.

Cheers

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