re: My brother - how can I help him?

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your insights. You've really given me good food for thought.

Girlscout, you're right on. I love my brother, but...a relationship with him is

a lot of work. It's exhausting. I cringe when I see his # on my caller ID. And

he's a very funny, sweet person. But he's just so needy!!

, thanks for your suggestion. I doubt he would go with me to a therapist.

When I've brought that up in the past, he does what my mother does--changes the

subject. But I didn't know there were therapeutic techniques for dealing with

Aspergers. I mean, I don't even know if that's what he actually has, but it

would be such a help to look that up and I will. I felt such relief when I read

that. I do want a better relationship with him, but I just feel like I have NO

boundaries with him. He guilts me big time if I say I don't agree or I don't

like something he said/did/thought.

Joe, you know, I hadn't thought about that, that my brother and I just might

have different interpretations of our mother's behavior. That helps me a lot not

to be so frustrated with him. I mean, he complains, too, about the constant

calls, but he's able to suck it up a lot more than I can. It adds a perspective

to this I hadn't thought of before.

thanks so much. you guys are such a big help!!

Fiona

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your insights. You've really given me good food for thought.

Girlscout, you're right on. I love my brother, but...a relationship with him is

a lot of work. It's exhausting. I cringe when I see his # on my caller ID. And

he's a very funny, sweet person. But he's just so needy!!

, thanks for your suggestion. I doubt he would go with me to a therapist.

When I've brought that up in the past, he does what my mother does--changes the

subject. But I didn't know there were therapeutic techniques for dealing with

Aspergers. I mean, I don't even know if that's what he actually has, but it

would be such a help to look that up and I will. I felt such relief when I read

that. I do want a better relationship with him, but I just feel like I have NO

boundaries with him. He guilts me big time if I say I don't agree or I don't

like something he said/did/thought.

Joe, you know, I hadn't thought about that, that my brother and I just might

have different interpretations of our mother's behavior. That helps me a lot not

to be so frustrated with him. I mean, he complains, too, about the constant

calls, but he's able to suck it up a lot more than I can. It adds a perspective

to this I hadn't thought of before.

thanks so much. you guys are such a big help!!

Fiona