Re: Does the guilt carry over into other parts of your life?

[Guest guest]

I have this problem.

I was always the one bending over backwards for other people, saying yes to

everything. Never wanting to upset other people.

Took me a REALLY long time to say " no " . Even longer to be able to say it without

guilt.

Hell, even now I feel the need to justify saying " NO " with excuses and reasons.

Maybe it's because we grew up having no choice to say no.

My kids get that choice, it's nice to see them developing their own sense of

self.

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> This was in another post and I felt like it was enough to turn into a thread:

" as adults we get to say " no " sometimes "

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> Sometimes I find myself carrying over a lot of guilt into my life in other

ways. I'm so bad at saying no to anyone. It's like I'm always trying to atone

for something. It sometimes gets to the point where I become physically ill

because I've signed myself up for so much stuff - meetings, photo gigs, helping

people, school, writing, whatever. I feel like sometimes I do this because I

want to make everyone happy - because if I say no or disagree I'm afraid they'll

become unhappy and abusive.

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> Is this normal? Is this a thing that happens when you have one of these

parents?

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