Re: Resenting IE

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I know exactly what your saying. But the truth is that we use food for other reasons than fuel for our body. The voice in the head can make you crazy (if you let it). I am finding that the hardest part of "staying on track" is to manage the voice in our head. Its very easy to let that voice run the show especially when our lives are really busy and chaotic, the voice in your head is very cleaver. It can manipulate you and you don't even realize its happening (so you tell your self) until you decide to weight yourself one morning and your up 10 pounds. Its very simple so how come its such a struggle? In my mind I have had a good day of a bad day. And if you translate that it all comes back to I was on my diet or I was off my diet. I agree completely with the overall concept of IE and that diets do not work. I agree with all of Geneen Roths teachings that every diet leads to a binge. So why cant we just eat what we want when we are hungry and

live happily ever after? That voice in the head is soooo sneaky. We give into it so easily because we then get to have a fix. Our relieve FOOD and that's when the cycle starts. That fix had nothing to do with hunger. Food is the way we numb our selves. At this point in my life I know there is no "fix" for this it just has to be managed. I am currently up 10 pounds and this is a result of believing all of my bullshit excuses I have been telling my self for the last 2 months. I have been working 10 hour days and I convinced myself that I have no time for food shopping or any exercise. But have had lots of time to get take out 2 time a day. So it was much easier to believe the bullshit I was telling myself because if I challenged my thoughts and realized they were not true I would not have been able to continue my binges. So what I am realizing is that as much as I keep

telling myself over and over again how stuffing food into my body makes me feel really bad after i am so stuffed I cant move. We have given all the power to the cheeseburger like it is some kind of magic wand. We have given all our power to the food. As much as we know Diets don't work. And we agree with the IE principals that all food should be equal and there are no forbidden foods. How come nobody is binging on broccoli or celery sticks??? What I am finally realizing is at some point in my life I gave food the meaning it has. And it has nothing to do with the food itself. I guess at some point when i was a kid got what i needed at the time from overeating. The Alcoholic gave the booze all its power. The shopaholic put all her power to the new boots. The Gambler gave all their power to the bet. In our case its the food. What do you think?

To: IntuitiveEating_Support@...Sent: Thu, December 2, 2010 6:54:53 PMSubject: Resenting IE

This is a vent, and ask for ideas post. I'm feeling frustrated with IE right now. For one, I have two small children, who are home with me most all the time still. The oldest is in preschool 3 mornings a week, but that's it. The only meal I have any peace at is dinner, and even that is small peace. Trying to eat peacefully and mindfully is difficult at best and with their ages, I can't not eat around them. I know, I do eat less when not constantly distracted and interrupted by them, and that often I eat more because of the stress a meal can be. But at the same time, I'm too close to the situation and don't know what to do about it. Secondly, I never get to eat what I want! Okay, that sounds like a crazy statement. Isn't part of IE allowing ourselves, giving ourselves permission to eat what we want. Well, I want ice cream and cookies and candy. I don't however want those items for breakfast, lunch or dinner. At those times of

the day, I want the appropriate types of foods. Then, it turns out, most of my eating has been stress induced, not hunger, and it comes around, that I'm almost never hungry when I mentally want, or my taste-buds (still not my stomach,) wants the junk. Then I hear the voices in my head. I hear the diet voices, saying, "Oh the calories and the fat! horrors, tsk." and I even hear the IE voice saying, "you can have that if you want it, it is okay, but do you really want it?" Turns out the answer is usually no, I don't really want that. (I too have found I don't really like mochas, even though I used to drink many.) I'm starting to resent that gentle IE voice, because even though it's telling me I can have it, it also feels like it's telling me I can't because the answer is, I don't really want it, and that's part of IE learning that difference so I don't eat it, and I have wonderful yummy peppermint ice cream going bad in my freezer and it's December and I

have all sorts of holiday goodies in my pantry, and they are going to rot there before I reach the 'right' hunger to eat them!So, anyone got any ideas? What's wrong here. I should be happy that I'm distinguishing better between my head, mouth and emotional hunger and my true stomach hunger. Instead, I'm getting upset and resentful.Dawn