Re: help needed

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Hi Jenn,

I'm glad you wrote! Simple steps are not the same thing as easy steps! So definitely don't feel bad about what you feel is a lack of progress! It's clear you have achieved a lot!

I haven't really struggled with the issues you discuss, so I'm not sure how helpful my suggestions will be... but in general, for me, I find tiny little baby steps to be the easiest. So maybe you start by reducing the frequency of your weigh-ins? I think it's really important to celebrate your small succeses, too. You don't want to feel bad if you can't go cold turkey because how does that help? Figure out what sounds not too hard, and work on that.

Same with counting calories... figure out some small steps that you feel you could do. Could you start by recording your food (in a notebook but not FitDay... too tempting and also I think it would be good to get away from any external judgements) but skipping counting up the calories? Maybe incorporate writing down how you felt before and after, in terms of rating your hunger and fullness? And then work towards not recording the amount of food?

I wrote this before Jen responded to you, and I think her perspective sounds really helpful & on target. Congratulations for making it through the day so far without FitDay!

Best,

Abby

 

hi everyone,

i don't post very often, but i felt like i could use some support.

my history is that of severe restriction, even anorexia.

my last restriction episode was about 6 years ago (salads and low cal protein drinks only) and i would say it's been a gradually loosening up process. i've been practicing IE for awhile now, can't remember when i joined this group, taking baby steps.

i'd really like to stop weighing myself and stop counting calories. i rationalize that those are harmless activities, but for me they really aren't. even though i'm legalizing food and doing better listening to my hunger/fullness signals...but i think the weighing and calorie counting is setting me up for mini binges, a new development for me!

i've tried stopping before and i think it's compulsive behaviour because i can't even last a few hours without hooking back up to Fitday, the computerized calorie counter. then i think how weak i am that i can't stop, and that doesn't help of course.

anyway, thanks for listening and for any feedback.

sorry if i sound like a broken record.

this is the same problem i had when i joined this list!

thanks all, jen todd